**EDIT: This is a necro'd thread from 2 years ago. I necro'd it with post #91. You can go there if you want to see the update and more recent discussion. What follows in this post is my original unedited post.**
I am a logical person. I believe that you can think rationally and intelligently about almost anything and come up with a good solution. If you don't want to read the entire post, I thought long and hard and realized that the positives of continuing to play don't outweigh the negatives.
Some background: I am a 34 year-old married physician with 5 children ages 8, 6, 5, 2 and 10 months. I started playing Magic at age 30 and have spent around $15,000 on cards which are now worth about $30,000 according to the link in my signature. I am an obsessive person and have become overly obsessed with Magic. My wife hates Magic (probably more because of my obsession and my having $30,000 worth of cards than an inherent dislike of the game) and would love for me to quit but respects that I love playing. My oldest 4 kids are all boys and my oldest 3 will play with me but are more into video games currently. I have always been a gamer, mostly video games and then D&D and now Magic (I rarely play the others now).
Here is the conversation that prompted my self-reflection that led to my decision. This happened on Cockatrice.
Opponent (when I was countering everything and beating him down with Delver) - "Nice f***ing God hand"
Me (later when I was losing after drawing my 6th land in a row and watching his Liliana tick up) - "That God hand isn't looking so good now."
Opponent - "That's because my deck is better."
Me - "You're at a place in your life where you enjoy trash talking over the internet about a card game to someone you don't know?"
Opponent - *leaves the game*
Although I thought I'd come up with a pretty good comeback, it didn't feel good. It started to make me realize how often I don't feel better after competing in Magic tournaments. If I play someone who is a jerk, I don't enjoy it, win or lose. If I lose, I don't really enjoy it. If I play someone who is nice and I win, I feel bad.
Then I started thinking about other things.
When I lived in a large city, there were lots of Magic tournaments. There were constant EDH games to get into, 4-5 Standard tournaments per week, 3-4 Limited tournaments per week, 2 Legacy tournaments per week, even 2 Vintage tournaments per year. I always felt kind of blah about the tournament, even if I'd done well (which I typically did not, except in Legacy). Regardless, it was only a few hours wasted and a short drive to be back at home. Now I live in a small town where there is a decent amount of EDH, weekly Standard and monthly Modern. I don't really get to play the formats I love (Legacy and Vintage) except on Cockatrice, which is too often a miserable experience.
I have a huge collection and was working towards getting a complete Legacy and Vintage collection. Why keep this when there isn't anyone around to play with?
I had two reasons for this:
1. I planned to travel to tournaments (Leg/Vin Championships, SCG Open, Legacy Grand Prix, Bazaar of Moxen) at some point in the future. Honestly, however, I would prefer to spend my vacation time and money on something else because I would more than likely not win the tournament (or even top 8) and instead of a few hours, I'd have wasted an entire weekend and lots of money. Plus, when was I really going to do this? My life isn't going to slow down until I'm retired.
2. I hoped my boys(kids?) would get into it and go to tournaments with me. The problem here is that that might not actually be that good for them. Getting into a nerdy game as a kid might not really be what's best for them. When I got into the game I was already a solid adult and it has changed me for the worse. What would it do to a kid trying to figure out who they are? Also, if I am so obsessed with the game that it takes me away from them, they might just learn to hate it as much as my wife.
So if I am questioning whether this is good for my kids, shouldn't I question whether it is good for me? I feel that everyone needs a hobby and I love to play Magic but does it really improve me? The way I gauge that is to think about being 20 years in the future and imagine if I will wish I'd play more Magic. The answer is "heck no!" In high school and college I was very athletic and played nerd games. As I have gotten older and responsibilities have mounted, I've left behind most of the athletics and only play Magic in my reduced free time.
Then it hit me: I'M WASTING MY TIME and there are few things more precious than time. I should be spending my time eating, sleeping, working, developing meaningful relationships or improving myself. If my hobby also does one of these, then it is never a waste of time.
My dad got me a Fender Stratocaster for my birthday recently so I'll be learning to play that, playing basketball with my kids, trying to improve my business/clinic and lifting weights more regularly as my hobbies now.
If you see any of yourself in what I have said here, I implore you to think about if quitting Magic is what's best for you. May you find a hobby that you find enjoyable and enriching.
So what am I doing with the cards? My wife and I discussed this. I initially was going to sell them because it is a lot of money and I really shouldn't have access to them. Then I realized that there is a chance I would regret that some day (as I have talked to many people that did just that and did regret it later) and that they may go up even more in value and I don't really need the money right now. I have instead decided to put them into bins and put them into storage, ALL OF THEM. I will think about selling them again in a year when I see what prices have done and how I feel about that decision at that time.
Thanks for reading if you got to here. I will probably check comments on this thread until they stop and then I will leave this site as well. I thought about trying to get banned but that shouldn't be necessary.
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Caranthir posted a message on Schedule of Upcoming Releases and Spoiler Seasons Through January 2019Posted in: The Rumor MillQuote from krisdaschwab912 »Aren't official spoilers not even coming down at all until the 13th?
Yes,the normal spoiler season starts next Monday.
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Iso posted a message on The Mafia Council & Helpdesk ThreadHaha, somehow I knew that's what your post was gonna be about.Posted in: Mafia
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RxPhantom posted a message on Commander Tuck DiscussionWith this asinine change, <I think the RC has proven that they are completely inept when it comes the the stewardship of this format>. Plenty of staples like Chaos Warp and Oblation are almost useless now. Degenerate commanders lose a crucial but important weakness. Losing perfectly valid lines of play because of the wrongheaded thinking of a small, clearly out-of-touch few...that just makes me upset.Posted in: Commander Rules Discussion Forum
First, the "Banned as a Commander" stipulation was apparently too hard for us to wrap our itty bitty pea-sized brains around, so they got rid of that for us. Gee, thanks guys. You know what, make all the commanders uncounterable, then give them indestructible and hexproof. That makes for better Magic, right?
The RC have come up with some head-scratching bans and unbans, but I've always stuck up for them because I thought they had the format's best interest at heart, and, frankly, the requisite competence to make such decisions. Such is no longer the case. Tucking, and to a lesser extent bouncing, was part of a system of checks and balances keeping degenerate commanders from running away with the game. That balance has likely been shattered, and will lead to more broken commanders leading broken decks and/or a slew of new bannings, because those are always good.
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NGW posted a message on [DTK] First MaRo preview leaked in SpanishAre people still seriously dense enough to say that enemy fetches won't be in the set? We were explicitly told that Wizards will not be doing half-cycles of lands in block sets. We got the allied fetches in Khans, couple Wizards' statement with other hints, the enemy fetches will be in Dragons. You have to be a complete idiot to believe otherwise.Posted in: The Rumor Mill -
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Russian Alara posted a message on Christopher Collie arrested and bailed out again and also about Brian Matzen and his 13 known proxies ( $50,000 + scams)Its my pleasure but I do hope people actually take this warning seriously because between the 3 listed there have been 700 victimsPosted in: Magic General -
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orlouge82 posted a message on New POP figures - KTK spoiler?Posted in: The Rumor MillQuote from The Greendale Human Being »So based on this representation:
The next iteration of Kiora will be Kiora, the Gaping Blue Sniz Face?
I can't seriously be the only person who looked at that figure and thought "Uh, that looks an awful lot like something that looks like it should be somewhere else on her body..."
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Mongers 'n Deeds posted a message on Chain Veil Infinite CombosWell, I'm a good sport about these things, and while I fundamentally disagree with the wording of the card, I wholeheartedly agree with the ruling handed down (because, you know, I have to ).Posted in: New Card Discussion
Guess there's only one thing left to do:
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Jivanmukta posted a message on Chain Veil Infinite CombosPosted in: New Card DiscussionQuote from Milkshakes00 »Quote from VegaTDM »RULING OFFICIAL
"From the upcoming M15 Release Notes: Each additional time The Chain Veil’s last ability resolves will allow you to activate a loyalty ability of each planeswalker you control an additional time. For example, if you activate The Chain Veil’s last ability, untap it, then activate it again, you can activate a loyalty ability of a planeswalker you control three times that turn."
Source?
The rules manager of the game. - To post a comment, please login or register a new account.
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I rename thee “Party Monster"
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So, news about your's truly: got a fanatic new phone (posting on the go as we speak), finally got a new-to-me car, work has been as good as can be expected, and my love life is a mess, but a more relaxed mess.
Been playing an "Enchantments Matter" U/W with 'walkers and Geist. So fun, but a little inconsistent. One of my good buddies won the SCG Standard Open Portland, and he's headed to LA(?) next week for the invitational. So excited for him!
Super excited for Dragons Maze, not really happy with M:tg in general at the moment. I've been forced to grow up quite a bit the last few months. This leaves the game feeling pretty empty in comparison.
Anyhow, there's my bi monthly check-in, for what it's worth. Hope everyone is getting what they need. Working on mine.:cool:
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I'm a little disappointed that the Council hasn't spoken about this at all, whether to agree to consider it or table it for now.
To my naysayers, you are wrong. I'm sorry for the drama I caused and for the actions I took in the one thing I did that was wrong, quoting my role.. Anything else I did is a kangaroo court of opinions given that there were no rules in place to guide me. I have done so much reading on this game here and elsewhere that I would have known, no question, if such a rule existed.
If you believe me insincere, you should likely rethink your reading comprehension. I have incredibly important things going on in my real life at the moment. I'll not prostrate myself on a game message board when a simple and honest (ask AsianInvasion) apology and statement that I understand what I've done wrong and have ceased doing it will suffice.
Has there ever been a precedence of anyone asking this to happen before? If not, then what exactly do you expect me to do? Play 50 more games? A hundred? I'd like a ruling and I'd like to be forgiven, not because it doesn't matter on the surface of what I'm allowed to do, but because it matters on the level of how the system is supposed to work and I believe I have satisfied that system.
I'm disappointed, Void. I called you out on your scum playstyle and you say this. It actually makes me sad man. The rest of you, really, what is the point of continuing to bash me (besides Yanni, who I expect no less from)? I'm asking for a simple reversal of a stigmatic listing, when the record of my transgressions will live on here. Please, just let me move on from this ugly chapter given that I've done what was asked of me.
Thanks.
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So where are we now?
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When you close a subcommunity down because they disagree with decisions you've made and actions you've taken, you officially look bad and prove them right.
If you take their opinions and let them roll off your back like rain off of a duck, you become right.