I know you probably don't want to hear this but...
Losing a friend is a natural part of.. well, being an adult. Friends part ways for way too many reasons to list here, but it happens. I lost a lot of friends throughout my life. Sometimes it was because I was the jerk, sometimes my friend was. Some things pull us apart. Other times it's a mutual separation. A few times, I figured out the friendship wasn't very healthy (despite enjoying said friendship) and I just cut them off. Hell, I've lost friendships with more than one person at the same time due to the toxicity of the group.
I write about this like it's something to not be afraid of. It's OK to be afraid at cutting someone loose. It's OK to want to work it out to maintain that friendship. What you have to figure out is what each of you need or want from the friendship and what appropriate adjustments you both need. Even if the healthiest thing is to do the exact thing you don't want to do.
One of the bigger problems with that though is he is also my roommate in a house we will probably be sharing for at least another year, and we still have mutual activities.
I was also thinking maybe buying either a Game Nights set or a couple CK battle decks, so that I can introduce some new people into the game, as well as have a more balanced means of playing with our friends. My one friend loves limited and sealed play as I said, so he'll be all in. (I love standard and wanted to get some commander decks as well, but those are harder to play with such a small group)
Thank you for your suggestions. I was a bit heated because of a few comments he made yesterday, and I figure I can try and sort this out now. It's been building into a toxic friendship for quite a while now, and I'll be glad to fix it. Most of the problem stems from him being quite stubborn, but I can't just let this ruin both our friendship and MTG for our entire group.
I've been having problems with my playgroup recently, and I need some opinions.
So I live in a town of 5000, and there is only around 4-5 people that play MTG here. My two roommates are essentially the only people I play with. My one roommate is my landlord, but is essentially a head renter. He plays a deck that is around the same power as me, and we usually have good match ups where we can both play our decks and have a decent chance at winning. Neither deck is meant to take the fun out of the other player (no counter or removal spam, just enough to deal with major threats). He enjoys sealed/limited play. He is fairly silent though and doesn't like confrontation.
My other roommate, a friend I've had for years, plays a mono-black modern discard deck. Both of us don't like when he uses it. While we are playing what is essentially standard, he creates value engines and discards our whole hands within the first couple turns, and either burns us out or pokes us to death. Neither of us get to play our decks, even when we "free for all" and just repeatedly smash him in the face we still lose half the time. We've confronted him about the power of his deck but he only upgrades it further instead of creating a deck that we can actually play against. He is quite interested in MTG but is quite stubborn and only gets continuously annoyed with me when I bring it up.
Recently, it seems like it has been getting worse. He gets annoyed when I win against him and belittles me on all my losses. It's even gotten out of MTG. Whenever I show him something interesting he gives me the cold shoulder but expects me to not do the same. When I won against him in a board game we were playing, he got extremely salty. A couple times he even sprayed me with a spray bottle (to keep cats off the table) when I did something he didn't like. He has been getting more and more aggressive, and I don't know what to do. It seems like our friendship is just deteriorating.
Sorry if this was a little long, just didn't want any misconceptions. I really don't want to lose a friend but last time things spiraled like this I lost one. Any advice would be appreciated.
One of the bigger problems with that though is he is also my roommate in a house we will probably be sharing for at least another year, and we still have mutual activities.
Thanks for all your guys' help. Cheers.
So I live in a town of 5000, and there is only around 4-5 people that play MTG here. My two roommates are essentially the only people I play with. My one roommate is my landlord, but is essentially a head renter. He plays a deck that is around the same power as me, and we usually have good match ups where we can both play our decks and have a decent chance at winning. Neither deck is meant to take the fun out of the other player (no counter or removal spam, just enough to deal with major threats). He enjoys sealed/limited play. He is fairly silent though and doesn't like confrontation.
My other roommate, a friend I've had for years, plays a mono-black modern discard deck. Both of us don't like when he uses it. While we are playing what is essentially standard, he creates value engines and discards our whole hands within the first couple turns, and either burns us out or pokes us to death. Neither of us get to play our decks, even when we "free for all" and just repeatedly smash him in the face we still lose half the time. We've confronted him about the power of his deck but he only upgrades it further instead of creating a deck that we can actually play against. He is quite interested in MTG but is quite stubborn and only gets continuously annoyed with me when I bring it up.
Recently, it seems like it has been getting worse. He gets annoyed when I win against him and belittles me on all my losses. It's even gotten out of MTG. Whenever I show him something interesting he gives me the cold shoulder but expects me to not do the same. When I won against him in a board game we were playing, he got extremely salty. A couple times he even sprayed me with a spray bottle (to keep cats off the table) when I did something he didn't like. He has been getting more and more aggressive, and I don't know what to do. It seems like our friendship is just deteriorating.
Sorry if this was a little long, just didn't want any misconceptions. I really don't want to lose a friend but last time things spiraled like this I lost one. Any advice would be appreciated.