There are no concise rules guiding human interaction.
I think some people ask questions like this because they are looking for permission to ignore the context and the humanity of their opponent in favor of saying something wrote and insincere. Others genuinely want to "do the right thing."
Unfortunately for both groups, there is no "right thing." Consider the idea that you can make someone enjoy losing when winning is important to them by saying some proscribed and insincere standardized phrase, given that you have done what they wanted to do and as a direct result, they can't. Now consider that you are expecting them to behave in a certain way, and that your actions have required them to sublimate their own feelings to play a part in your victory; to make you feel better about their feeling worse.
Having said that, it's not your job (indeed it'd be extremely arrogant even to consider it your purview) to make someone feel anything. Certainly you can be rude or pleasant, and for a myriad of reasons it's better to be pleasant, but ultimately your opponents feelings are their responsibility, as are the feelings and opinions of those who may comment on your behavior post-match.
If I were to try to avoid having people think badly of my behavior, I'd be polite and up-beat when losing, and I would let my opponent set the pace and camber of interaction when I win. If they are reticent, politely but without unnecessary patter facilitate clean-up and match resolution and then leave. If they are talkative, be up-beat and positive. In any case, avoid saying things that are untrue, unkind, or unnecessary. These are the three kinds of things that may cause trouble in discourse. If you avoid them, then although people may feel or think badly, you have not done anything to unduly precipitate those thoughts or feelings.
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