Hello everyone. Recently, I've hopped on the commander train and have been having loads of fun with this format. I see there are a few different formats and I'm trying to dictate what fits best for 1 vs 1 paper (not into online). I'm looking to play with my wife without any strict rules, but still want the game to be balanced without being broken. We were just playing normal commander with 40 starting life. Is this sufficient, or are there any tweaks/advice for making the game fairly balanced between the two of us? Not sure what banlist to use for our style of play either in this case. Really only utilizing a banlist for balance purposes, not because we're strict. Just looking to casually play and have fun, but with the proper mechanics to still keep it strategic and competitive between the two of us without breaking the game. Avoided brawl because I like the idea of bigger decks with more options and different games each time. Thanks everyone!