It's also public opinion on the comments that factors in.
So because a Youtube comment says something, you'll believe whatever it says?
But most of the people in the comments find their stuff insightful and deep even though to me it just sounds like dogma. More like him preaching (not to mention they sell a product). But then I get flak for saying that I don't know what I'm talking about and that he's just offering a certain viewpoint. Even when I ask for evidence or links to support what's being said I just get flak about asking for evidence.
Yet, here we are telling you repeatedly that relationships aren't all bad, and you keep coming back saying how you disagree with this, even though you started out this thread with a question about whether or not relationships are all that bad.
By asking that question, you're indicating that you don't actually know whether or not they are. Yet you keep coming back with arguments against anyone telling you in this thread that they're not, even though you apparently don't actually know. So you're disagreeing without actually knowing whether or not they are.
Do you see how that makes no sense?
So I'm left not knowing what to think or say and what to trust.
You seem to have a definite problem with credulity here, and I think it can be best remedied by taking some time off of this Youtube channel, or maybe the internet in general, and focusing that time on living your life.
I'm not deliberately ignoring evidence to the contrary, but most people will cite the numbers argument against me and I don't know how to respond. Or they say you are just deliberately tuning out the negatives of life and not being realistic.
Ok, so, you're on the real life advice thread. You asked if relationships are all horrible. The answer is no. Every reply to this thread has said no.
Yet you keep arguing against them. So are you here for advice, or something else?
The channel seems to have over two million views so they must be saying something right.
Why would you ask if relationships are really that terrible if you've concluded that they are and are going to ignore anything anyone says to the contrary?
If you really want to believe that badly that relationships are horrible, then you are more than free to just deny yourself any romantic relationship with anyone for the rest of your life. It's your life.
But at least acknowledge this is what you're doing. At least acknowledge that you are filtering out any ideas to the contrary. And yes, if you're coming back here with just some statement about how Youtube subscribers equals veracity or credibility, then you are basically cherry-picking for anything that supports what you've already decided to be true.
The one about monasticism towards the end refers to living with just one other person as a "failed experiment" that we repeat often when it doesn't work. Or that marriage is about settling for a familiar sort of unhappiness instead of the complex and new unhappiness from being lonely. There are plenty of videos on that channel that say the same.
And perhaps this person has a distinctly anti-marriage view. But this doesn't necessarily mean they're correct.
But they make it sounds like doom.
It's not.
They even make it seem like communal living (aka monasticism) is best.
Maybe it is for some people, but you're asking if relationships are universally terrible. The answer is no.
Perhaps that might necessitate trying a new therapist or a new approach.
You might also consider professional counseling if this is characteristically a problem for you.
Yet, here we are telling you repeatedly that relationships aren't all bad, and you keep coming back saying how you disagree with this, even though you started out this thread with a question about whether or not relationships are all that bad.
By asking that question, you're indicating that you don't actually know whether or not they are. Yet you keep coming back with arguments against anyone telling you in this thread that they're not, even though you apparently don't actually know. So you're disagreeing without actually knowing whether or not they are.
Do you see how that makes no sense?
You seem to have a definite problem with credulity here, and I think it can be best remedied by taking some time off of this Youtube channel, or maybe the internet in general, and focusing that time on living your life.
Ok, so, you're on the real life advice thread. You asked if relationships are all horrible. The answer is no. Every reply to this thread has said no.
Yet you keep arguing against them. So are you here for advice, or something else?
If you really want to believe that badly that relationships are horrible, then you are more than free to just deny yourself any romantic relationship with anyone for the rest of your life. It's your life.
But at least acknowledge this is what you're doing. At least acknowledge that you are filtering out any ideas to the contrary. And yes, if you're coming back here with just some statement about how Youtube subscribers equals veracity or credibility, then you are basically cherry-picking for anything that supports what you've already decided to be true.
And perhaps this person has a distinctly anti-marriage view. But this doesn't necessarily mean they're correct.
It's not.
Maybe it is for some people, but you're asking if relationships are universally terrible. The answer is no.
But the answer is no, relationships are not all severe doom and gloom.