I feel similarly to you about attraction and feelings being fluid. My method of living is to distinguish between love and expression.
We love people. Some of those people love us back.
The way we love and are loved back varies with the people, in that either party can set a limit on what type of expression is allowable in the relationship. It is normal to be attracted to people who don't feel (or feel morally obligated to not act on) attraction to you. But you have to be okay with that. You can love someone you are attracted to without Needing them to get all gross fleshbags with you, and vice versa. Sometimes it is tough, but let yourself love anyway. I think it is worth the occasional loss and heartache.
We love people. Some of those people love us back.
The way we love and are loved back varies with the people, in that either party can set a limit on what type of expression is allowable in the relationship. It is normal to be attracted to people who don't feel (or feel morally obligated to not act on) attraction to you. But you have to be okay with that. You can love someone you are attracted to without Needing them to get all gross fleshbags with you, and vice versa. Sometimes it is tough, but let yourself love anyway. I think it is worth the occasional loss and heartache.
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