Sometimes non-physical attraction is enough. That just means you ARE sexually compatable, in that it is equally unimportant to each of you. That is where you are compatable. Sexual compatability is more than two people who are sexualy compatable with each other and wanting the same kinda nasty things, it is also about wanting the same amount of sex and same things from the sex they have together.
Two people who never have sex and are happy they never have sex are still sexually compatable.
Obviously she needed to feel desired physically in a way you could not give her. You might have been able to be 100% happy in that relationship. But you are forgetting one thing, she WAS sexually attracted to you. Whenever you had sex or she looked at you you could deep down feel that you are desired. You had that reinforcement. Your relationship was neither fair or balanced. If you both had identical sexual needs and love and companionship and building a family was equally important, you still had something she could not have.
That is why it is unhealthy for a Gay person to try and be in a straight relationship. Even if the Gay person gets everything they need to be happy and is emotionally stable with it, they get a level of reinforcement back from their partner they cannot return.
Obviously she needed to feel desired physically in a way you could not give her. You might have been able to be 100% happy in that relationship. But you are forgetting one thing, she WAS sexually attracted to you. Whenever you had sex or she looked at you you could deep down feel that you are desired. You had that reinforcement. Your relationship was neither fair or balanced. If you both had identical sexual needs and love and companionship and building a family was equally important, you still had something she could not have.
Then the inverse is also true. She could not offer me unconditional love. She had a stipulation of gender. I had offered her something she could not offer me.
Abuse? Are you serious? Abuse by definition implies intent. The word you are looking for is neglect. Could it be said that our relationship was emotionally neglectful... sure. but using your definition any relationship involving bi-sexual people is in some way emotionally neglectful, since one aspect of their sexual attraction is left unsatisfied.
Neglect may be a better word, but still doesn't mean that her Unconditional love for you should mean she has to live with it.
It is different if one is Bisexual. At least if you were Bi you could have given her what she needed. Many Bisexual people are completely fine with one person without feeling they are losing something, and for those that would be missing something they have the right to find a relationship that supports that need.
Unconditional means without condition including gender. so again you cant use that word..... But no she did not HAVE to live with it. I offered and she accepted, then at a later date she changed her mind. There was no deception,nor did I expect her to live and die by that one decision.
But did she really understand what she was accepting and what she was giving up? Perhaps you offered everything she was taught she needed to be happy in a relationship, but very few people that age have any idea what they truly need. So many people have Fantasy ideas of marriage and relationships, it is destructive. People should not marry until they are 30 as far as I am concerened. Gives people a chance to figure out what they need and want.
I can't be alone when i ask the question: How can a thought process be genetic? I always got the impression that a thought process either has to be learned or corrupted or changed by a disorder or imbalance? Can someone explain this to me, thnx.
The groundwork for specific brain archetecture could be laid out in our genetic code. Many thought processes are the result of birth. Instincts, emotional response. Certain genetics could result in higher odds of the patterns that cause a person to be homosexual.
It is certainly true that it is more common in some animals than in others, so it is demonstratable that there must be some genetic cause.
Much like some genetic lines are more prone to higher intelligence, spacial awareness, or even mental disorders such as schizophrenia and the like.
While thought processes are seen as an intangeable thing, they are really just the result of how the gooey stuff in our head is put togetehr, and subject to the same scientific rules that makes any other organ in our body come together.
Then of course you get into the nature vs nurture argument which even now psychologists are still unable to truly settle one way, the other, or even to really try and compromise the 2. You can find just as much either way as far as which is more important and what determines who we are and both sides are very compelling.
Then of course you get into the nature vs nurture argument which even now psychologists are still unable to truly settle one way, the other, or even to really try and compromise the 2. You can find just as much either way as far as which is more important and what determines who we are and both sides are very compelling.
Really? You'll have to go into details for me here.
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Two people who never have sex and are happy they never have sex are still sexually compatable.
Obviously she needed to feel desired physically in a way you could not give her. You might have been able to be 100% happy in that relationship. But you are forgetting one thing, she WAS sexually attracted to you. Whenever you had sex or she looked at you you could deep down feel that you are desired. You had that reinforcement. Your relationship was neither fair or balanced. If you both had identical sexual needs and love and companionship and building a family was equally important, you still had something she could not have.
That is why it is unhealthy for a Gay person to try and be in a straight relationship. Even if the Gay person gets everything they need to be happy and is emotionally stable with it, they get a level of reinforcement back from their partner they cannot return.
It is different if one is Bisexual. At least if you were Bi you could have given her what she needed. Many Bisexual people are completely fine with one person without feeling they are losing something, and for those that would be missing something they have the right to find a relationship that supports that need.
Big thanks to Spiderboy and HighLight Studios
It is certainly true that it is more common in some animals than in others, so it is demonstratable that there must be some genetic cause.
Much like some genetic lines are more prone to higher intelligence, spacial awareness, or even mental disorders such as schizophrenia and the like.
While thought processes are seen as an intangeable thing, they are really just the result of how the gooey stuff in our head is put togetehr, and subject to the same scientific rules that makes any other organ in our body come together.
Big thanks to Spiderboy and HighLight Studios
Really? You'll have to go into details for me here.