My other half got me started playing, and now he subsidizes me a bit by buying cards. It's something we can do together that we enjoy, even if it is for different reasons. We have one room in the house that we call the Magic Room, because that's where all the cards are. Mine are nice and organized, his are spread all over and it drives me nuts! He does play more often than I do, because I sometimes get tired of being the only female in a room of gamerboys and stay home with the dogs watching Doctor Who...
I don't see any reason for a wife/gf to get upset about a bf/husband's MtG hobby, unless it impedes the ability to get the bills paid, in which case you've probably got more problems than just playing magic.
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Well, as far as relationships go around magic, I've seen it all. My ex hated the fact that I played often...and that was probably partially my fault. It became a bit of a culture with my friends and being on a part time job and in school I was foolish to spend more on the game then I did on her. She got really upset with me about it once. However, there were other problems with the relationship, so I don't think magic was the reason for its downfall.
My best friends both have girlfriends that support them though. The first has a girl who only plays with him and our group of friends and is very strictly casual (like burn/ramp/etc. basic archetype stuff) while the other guy's girlfriend is just as intense as any of us. It got to the point where they almost went to blows over a ruling they couldn't agree on (and I had to step in and take him out of the room for a minute.)
I find that the only way a relationship can work is if your significant other is at least generally supportive of your hobbies. They don't have to buy you stuff or anything, but they have to be willing to see you come home with new cards and have friends over to enjoy the hobby with. That's the point of a hobby. If they can't accept it, then you guys are probably not going to work too well in the long run...
In any case, I'm currently single and have decided that the next girl I date better have at least minor nerdy/gamer qualities about her or it's not going to work. I've tried to date other types of girls and well...no.
My girlfriend doesn't really care for games in general, so she just lets me do my thing when it comes to mtg. She's been pretty understanding about me going out to FNM, or being gone for 5+ hours playing long edh games, etc.
When she first realized how many cards I owned she was a little concerned, but when I showed her how much some of them can be sold for occasionally, she became more okay with it.
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My fiancée is a better player than me. So obviously she doesn't have a problem with my collection (now our collection)
She's the kind of player who competes for gpt and ptq
I'm the kind that competes for FNM
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My girlfriend's generally pretty supportive and occasionally plays, but is otherwise wary of it overtaking our/my other goals, which is perfectly fine with me because she basically acts as a check to ensure that I don't spend/play beyond my limits.
One general trend I've noticed, though, and I don't mean to generalize, is that most females generally don't grasp just how widespread Magic is. Not that it's at Halo or Star Wars levels of cultural popularity, but rather how many people play, especially those outside of our country. In the off chance that I decide to start gunning for PTs/Worlds, that would be something I would definitely want to expose my girlfriend to.
My wife plays, so she's obviously cool with my free-spending ways.
We had a shelf built especially for our cards and boxes, so it keeps them mostly out of the way. I have a bad habit of not sorting cards back into boxes (sooo boring) and taking a long time to build decks, so it does get a bet messy on the playing table.
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My wife has played a game or two, but generally doesn't take part in any Magic. I keep most all of my cards in a cabinet in our living room and generally keep things pretty organized. It's when I'm sorting through things that she'll get a little annoyed. Especially if I'm sorting through things for a couple of days.
My wife has played a game or two, but generally doesn't take part in any Magic. I keep most all of my cards in a cabinet in our living room and generally keep things pretty organized. It's when I'm sorting through things that she'll get a little annoyed. Especially if I'm sorting through things for a couple of days.
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Anyway, same as boinknet. My wife is fine with the habit, so long as I don't go overboard and I keep things relatively organized and clean.
I've recently gotten some of my co-workers into it and started a draft night that we host at our house, and my wife has been very supportive of that.
My fiance likes when I play because I enjoy it, and I'm generally an unhappy person. She's been encouraging me to go to an actual event, but there are none I can reach because of work and very awkward hours for weekly playing in my area.
Hey, I know you! We play at the same stores... CCG, Amazing(now closed), etc. Funny! Small world bro. At least this better be who I think it is.
You know it! I've lost many games to her, but I remember getting her frustrated one game and she threw Venser's emblem at me when we were done. She did beat me the next two games tho. Remarkably, I don't ever mind losing to either one of you.
My wife buys me cards for just about every gift-giving opportunity. Also she doesn't seem to mind when I say "I need $200 to pre-order..." or "I need $100 because the new set just came out..." I'm sure she does mind, but she hides it well.
My wife once said "Get rid of the cards or get rid of me..."
I've been divorced since 2007...
Wow..that's pretty sad dude. Have fun I guess?
My wife's been on/off over the years. She tolerates it pretty well, all things considered, but she freaks over some of the money-related aspects of the game. I'm doing some ridiculous pimping right now and she can't understand it at all.
We used to play eachother but, truth be known, she's just not a very good sport and I got sick of it. I can overlook it..she's quite a lady.
My gf used to play with me. She got too frustrated and were both pretty competitive people so that stopped pretty quick. She enjoyed playing classic UW control (LOL SHE WOULD!) /w Jace 2 when I had them.
Otherwise she tolerates my collection. I have them boxed up and sorted away so they arent in the way. She gets frustrated when I spend a butt ton on the cards(because I'm only 22 and not exactly rolling in dough and we have bills to pay), but when I get them through good ways (trade, store credit from winning FNM) it doesn't bother her in the slightest.
She never bothers me when I go to SCG events, or FNMs and praises me when I do well. I dont know what I do would do if she despised it. I would go insane I think, being its my only real vice I have.
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I would not want a girl that participates in tournaments or magic with me. The hottest nerd girl I could find was Adrianne Curry, and even she's a little weird.
Jvlin: "I would not want a girl that participates in tournaments or magic with me. The hottest nerd girl I could find was Adrianne Curry, and even she's a little weird."
I don't think it's exactly like that. Adrianne Curry is not the only attractive woman that is nerdy. Celebrities aren't an accurate portrayal of real life. Women who play are rare in this game, but that doesn't mean that every girl that plays is unattractive.
If a guy teaches his girlfriend to play then that is one more attractive magic player. It's human nature to date people who we find are attractive.
I would say that generalizations are the main thing that hold me back from enjoying the game like my other half. He gets to play competitively with no judgment and no problems. Though, because I'm female people assume I don't know how to play. I'm also quite shy most of the time, so I'd rather comfortably stay at home than make a spectacle of myself.
I think more girlfriends would play or take interest in the game if they didn't feel shunned by the community. I spend most of my time researching this game and going to card shops just to feel like an outcast. I love my partner and I appreciate the fact that we share a common interest. Though, sometimes I feel upset over the fact that it's never really equal. Most of my arguments come from the fact that I get gawked at and talked down to at my LGS. I also seem to be fodder for tons of unwarranted advice from random guys at the game store. I think that the best way to treat women who play is to treat them the same way as the men rather than like eight year olds.
Chadmart,
I think it's great that your wife buys you cards as gifts. It's a nice way for her to support your hobby without getting actively involved. I think that purchasing cards is the best way for a spouse to be supportive if they aren't interested in the hobby. Magic isn't for everyone, but it does seem to be an important focus of most of our lives. The amount of money shocks most people, but the reality is that some people spend way more money on bad habits each month with much lower recurring value. I hope she continues to support your hobby.
yea, but this is also the internet, where everybody is ripped, has model(s) for gf's and MONAY in the bank...
and the power 9
Oh, you'd think it's just the internet..
If I had one Underground Sea for each player who came into my store, told me that 'back in the day they had 2 sets of power nine, half beta' and that they lost it/it was stolen/mom sold it/whatever I would almost be able to stock a Legacy Grand Prix...
Oh yes, and on topic - I've been married for 13 years, but have been playing Magic for more time than I've known my wife, so she spent the time to learn how to play while we were dating, played for fun with me, and stopped soon after we were married..;-) The only thing that irks her about it is the amount of space dedicated to my cards (which is over a room of the house..luckily one she doesn't care much about). Tho she does wish she could get through to the player piano...
my girlfriend balks at how much i spend on cards, and then complains about how she can't buy lunch because she went fabric shopping. then i take her out and tell her how those cards she was balking about are feeding her.
re: being ripped, having a model/s for girlfriend, and money
all of these are a matter of how much work you put in. if you sit on a couch all day playing CoD eating cheetos and the closest thing you get to social interaction with girls is telling some teen on chatroulette to flash you, of course you're not going to have any of those "nice things that are impossible goals and everyone online is clearly lying about." it's not hard to set aside a half hour a day to work out and leave the house every now and then and meet new people if you don't let the mere concept of either of those things overwhelm you out of doing them.
I'm a collector by habit, and after having played Magic for many years, I've amassed quite a number of cards. My boyfriend wasn't into Magic when he met me but a few months ago I taught him to play and now we go to FNMs regularly. Now that he's an addict like me, he can understand why I have as many cards as I do, so it's not an issue.
I don't see any reason for a wife/gf to get upset about a bf/husband's MtG hobby, unless it impedes the ability to get the bills paid, in which case you've probably got more problems than just playing magic.
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My best friends both have girlfriends that support them though. The first has a girl who only plays with him and our group of friends and is very strictly casual (like burn/ramp/etc. basic archetype stuff) while the other guy's girlfriend is just as intense as any of us. It got to the point where they almost went to blows over a ruling they couldn't agree on (and I had to step in and take him out of the room for a minute.)
I find that the only way a relationship can work is if your significant other is at least generally supportive of your hobbies. They don't have to buy you stuff or anything, but they have to be willing to see you come home with new cards and have friends over to enjoy the hobby with. That's the point of a hobby. If they can't accept it, then you guys are probably not going to work too well in the long run...
In any case, I'm currently single and have decided that the next girl I date better have at least minor nerdy/gamer qualities about her or it's not going to work. I've tried to date other types of girls and well...no.
When she first realized how many cards I owned she was a little concerned, but when I showed her how much some of them can be sold for occasionally, she became more okay with it.
EDH:
UBR Sedris, the Traitor King
BGW Karador, Ghost Chieftain
RG Radha, Heir to Keld
She's the kind of player who competes for gpt and ptq
I'm the kind that competes for FNM
BEtched Champion/InfectB
WSoilders/knightsW
WUVenser SplicerWU
RRDWR
GFeed the Pack comboG
WUPool of ExhaustionWU
EDH
GEzuri, Elf OverrunG
BGeth, GraverobberB
UThada Adel, ThiefU
RUrabrask, Big RedR
WElesh Norn, CrusadeW
WUGAngus Makenzie, Bant ControlWUG
Extended
WGElvesWG
Legacy
RGoblinsR
UBGFariesUBG
UBGRaffinityUBG
One general trend I've noticed, though, and I don't mean to generalize, is that most females generally don't grasp just how widespread Magic is. Not that it's at Halo or Star Wars levels of cultural popularity, but rather how many people play, especially those outside of our country. In the off chance that I decide to start gunning for PTs/Worlds, that would be something I would definitely want to expose my girlfriend to.
We had a shelf built especially for our cards and boxes, so it keeps them mostly out of the way. I have a bad habit of not sorting cards back into boxes (sooo boring) and taking a long time to build decks, so it does get a bet messy on the playing table.
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Anyway, same as boinknet. My wife is fine with the habit, so long as I don't go overboard and I keep things relatively organized and clean.
I've recently gotten some of my co-workers into it and started a draft night that we host at our house, and my wife has been very supportive of that.
You know it! I've lost many games to her, but I remember getting her frustrated one game and she threw Venser's emblem at me when we were done. She did beat me the next two games tho. Remarkably, I don't ever mind losing to either one of you.
Wow..that's pretty sad dude. Have fun I guess?
My wife's been on/off over the years. She tolerates it pretty well, all things considered, but she freaks over some of the money-related aspects of the game. I'm doing some ridiculous pimping right now and she can't understand it at all.
We used to play eachother but, truth be known, she's just not a very good sport and I got sick of it. I can overlook it..she's quite a lady.
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Otherwise she tolerates my collection. I have them boxed up and sorted away so they arent in the way. She gets frustrated when I spend a butt ton on the cards(because I'm only 22 and not exactly rolling in dough and we have bills to pay), but when I get them through good ways (trade, store credit from winning FNM) it doesn't bother her in the slightest.
She never bothers me when I go to SCG events, or FNMs and praises me when I do well. I dont know what I do would do if she despised it. I would go insane I think, being its my only real vice I have.
Modern:
Affinity
EDH:
Rhys (Tokens)
Karrthus (Dragons)
Bruna (Auras OP)
I don't think it's exactly like that. Adrianne Curry is not the only attractive woman that is nerdy. Celebrities aren't an accurate portrayal of real life. Women who play are rare in this game, but that doesn't mean that every girl that plays is unattractive.
If a guy teaches his girlfriend to play then that is one more attractive magic player. It's human nature to date people who we find are attractive.
I would say that generalizations are the main thing that hold me back from enjoying the game like my other half. He gets to play competitively with no judgment and no problems. Though, because I'm female people assume I don't know how to play. I'm also quite shy most of the time, so I'd rather comfortably stay at home than make a spectacle of myself.
I think more girlfriends would play or take interest in the game if they didn't feel shunned by the community. I spend most of my time researching this game and going to card shops just to feel like an outcast. I love my partner and I appreciate the fact that we share a common interest. Though, sometimes I feel upset over the fact that it's never really equal. Most of my arguments come from the fact that I get gawked at and talked down to at my LGS. I also seem to be fodder for tons of unwarranted advice from random guys at the game store. I think that the best way to treat women who play is to treat them the same way as the men rather than like eight year olds.
Chadmart,
I think it's great that your wife buys you cards as gifts. It's a nice way for her to support your hobby without getting actively involved. I think that purchasing cards is the best way for a spouse to be supportive if they aren't interested in the hobby. Magic isn't for everyone, but it does seem to be an important focus of most of our lives. The amount of money shocks most people, but the reality is that some people spend way more money on bad habits each month with much lower recurring value. I hope she continues to support your hobby.
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Oh, you'd think it's just the internet..
If I had one Underground Sea for each player who came into my store, told me that 'back in the day they had 2 sets of power nine, half beta' and that they lost it/it was stolen/mom sold it/whatever I would almost be able to stock a Legacy Grand Prix...
Oh yes, and on topic - I've been married for 13 years, but have been playing Magic for more time than I've known my wife, so she spent the time to learn how to play while we were dating, played for fun with me, and stopped soon after we were married..;-) The only thing that irks her about it is the amount of space dedicated to my cards (which is over a room of the house..luckily one she doesn't care much about). Tho she does wish she could get through to the player piano...
re: being ripped, having a model/s for girlfriend, and money
all of these are a matter of how much work you put in. if you sit on a couch all day playing CoD eating cheetos and the closest thing you get to social interaction with girls is telling some teen on chatroulette to flash you, of course you're not going to have any of those "nice things that are impossible goals and everyone online is clearly lying about." it's not hard to set aside a half hour a day to work out and leave the house every now and then and meet new people if you don't let the mere concept of either of those things overwhelm you out of doing them.
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