Hi guys. I met this girl at this massive community service thing at a high school (i'm in high school too). She was running one of the stations, and I was volunteering as well. I was assigned to that station, and when I arrived, I saw that her name tag said "faculty" but she looked younger. I asked, "are you in high school?" and she said yes. Turns out she goes to another school near mine thats much larger than mine.
So I was there doing my thing, and she comes up to me, out of the other twenty or so people there, and we just talk about random stuff. It was pretty short, like 5 minutes or so. One of the other guys there then handed me a pamphlet for the place they all had internships. Then when the shift was over, everyone was leaving, and she smiled at me and said, "Bye, it was nice meeting you". She didn't say bye to anyone else there.
Later I was going to the bathroom and I passed her and some of her friends in the crowded hallway. She just smiled at me and waved, and I did the same. I always get infatuated pretty fast but I think this is the fastest I've ever been infatuated with someone. She was very pretty, and we were able to make good conversation (albeit short).
At the end of the day, I was told to go door-to-door to see if anyone needed help cleaning, and I skipped all the doors and went straight to the room where she was working. I walked in and asked if they needed any help, and they told me that i could carry some stuff outside. So I walked to the end of the room where the stuff I needed to carry was, and I glanced at her. She was looking at me but as soon as we made eye contact, she turned away. I left and said goodbye. As im walking out, im just thinking how stupid i was for not asking for her number, but then i realized I wouldve had to ask her in front of her friends and colleagues.
And then i remembered I have the pamphlet. What should I do? Should I give up? Is she even interested in me? Should I use the pamphlet and find her, or is it too creepy? Idk, guys. I just wanted to get this out there. A lot of times, my friends give me conflicting/faulty advice, so i just wanna hear some opinions. Much thanks guys. If anything needs clarifying i'll do so.
Honestly, nothing you've said indicates that she was being anything more than friendly. Anything more will probably come across as creepy.
Some general dating advice (although this is all from when AIM was still popular in high school, so grain of salt):
- Friendly is not flirty. Some who smiles at you, who waves and has a nice conversation with you is just friendly. You can tell when a girl is being flirty because they will laugh at all your lame attempts at jokes and will do some kind of nervous habit, like playing with their hair.
- Asking someone out cold is generally not a good idea. What I mean by 'cold' is asking out someone you've barely met. In general, if you want success in asking someone out, you should probably have a little more than a few minutes to talk. If you're interested, keep it casual and propose something that's not overtly a date and get to know the person a little better first.
- Don't take a first (or second) date to the movies. There's an awkward 'should I, shouldn't I' about putting your arm around her or holding her hand or what not.
Thanks for the input Jay. I was thinking about just calling the workplace and asking if shes there, see if she remembers me and just ask about the job (as if I wanted to apply) and go from there. I've taken girls on dates before, but thanks anyway for the general dating advice im just bad at reading cues and stuff like that
Every guy is bad at reading cues. Don't feel too badly about it.
From what you said, I personally think that she's interested and there's only one way to find out if she is or not. I think you will be happy you did and keep us updated.
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@FoodChainGoblins thanks for the input. I never found her again actually. But this has definitely motivated me to be more courageous in the future so I don't end up losing opportunities like this.
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So I was there doing my thing, and she comes up to me, out of the other twenty or so people there, and we just talk about random stuff. It was pretty short, like 5 minutes or so. One of the other guys there then handed me a pamphlet for the place they all had internships. Then when the shift was over, everyone was leaving, and she smiled at me and said, "Bye, it was nice meeting you". She didn't say bye to anyone else there.
Later I was going to the bathroom and I passed her and some of her friends in the crowded hallway. She just smiled at me and waved, and I did the same. I always get infatuated pretty fast but I think this is the fastest I've ever been infatuated with someone. She was very pretty, and we were able to make good conversation (albeit short).
At the end of the day, I was told to go door-to-door to see if anyone needed help cleaning, and I skipped all the doors and went straight to the room where she was working. I walked in and asked if they needed any help, and they told me that i could carry some stuff outside. So I walked to the end of the room where the stuff I needed to carry was, and I glanced at her. She was looking at me but as soon as we made eye contact, she turned away. I left and said goodbye. As im walking out, im just thinking how stupid i was for not asking for her number, but then i realized I wouldve had to ask her in front of her friends and colleagues.
And then i remembered I have the pamphlet. What should I do? Should I give up? Is she even interested in me? Should I use the pamphlet and find her, or is it too creepy? Idk, guys. I just wanted to get this out there. A lot of times, my friends give me conflicting/faulty advice, so i just wanna hear some opinions. Much thanks guys. If anything needs clarifying i'll do so.
Some general dating advice (although this is all from when AIM was still popular in high school, so grain of salt):
- Friendly is not flirty. Some who smiles at you, who waves and has a nice conversation with you is just friendly. You can tell when a girl is being flirty because they will laugh at all your lame attempts at jokes and will do some kind of nervous habit, like playing with their hair.
- Asking someone out cold is generally not a good idea. What I mean by 'cold' is asking out someone you've barely met. In general, if you want success in asking someone out, you should probably have a little more than a few minutes to talk. If you're interested, keep it casual and propose something that's not overtly a date and get to know the person a little better first.
- Don't take a first (or second) date to the movies. There's an awkward 'should I, shouldn't I' about putting your arm around her or holding her hand or what not.
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From what you said, I personally think that she's interested and there's only one way to find out if she is or not. I think you will be happy you did and keep us updated.
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