I've come across an issue but I'm not entirely sure what to do regarding it. It's with me being both gay and autistic. It seems like such a weird combination for some reason, but it has given me reason to believe that I'm more of an outcast than I first though so.
Being gay, I get the sense that there is that lingering feeling of danger around me. Like if the wrong person found out I could get injured. Being autistic, I sometimes feel like people just see my condition rather than me. Like I'm some sort of charity case. I do accept that my life is different, so is the way I see things, and some things are hard for me. But I don't meet too many people who are willing to look past that.
The greatest downer has to be when it comes to relationships. Generally mentioning a mental illness like autism sends people running for the hills. It always seems to be a big deal breaker and I don't see any stories about that being overcome, especially in the gay community. So I try my best to hide it, but certain behaviors I do tend to make it obvious.
So I'm left feeling pretty alone, as if the social skills wasn't enough of a problem. I just don't feel confident I'll find others who accept me as a person and not for the tags attached to me (namely autism). What can I do? Is there anything I can do?
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I welcome you.....to the pure world I have forged.
My opinion is that it's better to be alone than with someone who doesn't love you for you. The people who are running for the hills are doing you a favor, because the fact that they care makes them incompatible with you, so you would never be happy together. You may think it would feel nice to be with one of these people because you're dying to feel accepted, but it's not healthy to seek validation from relationships. Hold out for someone who just accepts you, without feeling like you have something to apologize for.
You should cast a wider net and put more time into meeting people since you're likely to find a lot of people who aren't right for you.
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Being gay, I get the sense that there is that lingering feeling of danger around me. Like if the wrong person found out I could get injured. Being autistic, I sometimes feel like people just see my condition rather than me. Like I'm some sort of charity case. I do accept that my life is different, so is the way I see things, and some things are hard for me. But I don't meet too many people who are willing to look past that.
The greatest downer has to be when it comes to relationships. Generally mentioning a mental illness like autism sends people running for the hills. It always seems to be a big deal breaker and I don't see any stories about that being overcome, especially in the gay community. So I try my best to hide it, but certain behaviors I do tend to make it obvious.
So I'm left feeling pretty alone, as if the social skills wasn't enough of a problem. I just don't feel confident I'll find others who accept me as a person and not for the tags attached to me (namely autism). What can I do? Is there anything I can do?
You should cast a wider net and put more time into meeting people since you're likely to find a lot of people who aren't right for you.