I would wait. I'm 36, 3 kids btw, with SO for 10 years. for whatever that is worth.
I would speak to her father first. He will have a better idea about the timing plus its a nice tradition to maintain.
I would budget more then 100$, as mentioned. For a good price, consider shopping at estate shops. Don't think used, think vintage. A nice Deco Vintage gold band can be had for 300-500$ It is well worth the extra money.
Are you sure she will say yes? I don't mean to be rude, but are you both on the same page here? There should be zero doubt in your mind that this is something she wants and wants badly (irrespective of whether or not she is expecting it).
You're both young and three years is not that long to date. It may be true love that was meant to be, but there is no good reason it can't keep for another year or more.
Also, really consider living together first.
nvm, I just read your other two threads on this page and you are definitely not ready for marriage.
Wait to ask her.
1. Don't get married yet. You're too young to understand why you're too young. I could try to explain it but it wouldn't really make sense without context. Some young people make it work but that is the exception that proves the rule. You are probably most worried about romance but marriage is actually more of a tax/hospital visitation rights kind of thing.
2. Ask her father. I'd take it as a warning sign if the woman or the father are the sort of people who get offended by something like that. Do you want to be married into a family like that? No. You're setting yourself up for future fights and general acrimony.
Besides that - my wife has an older sister. Her husband did not ask prior to proposing and i heard all about it from my wife who clearly thought that it was a point in my favor. We all like the new brother-in-law and i doubt anyone ever said anything about it but they did talk about it.
1. Don't get married yet. You're too young to understand why you're too young. I could try to explain it but it wouldn't really make sense without context. Some young people make it work but that is the exception that proves the rule. You are probably most worried about romance but marriage is actually more of a tax/hospital visitation rights kind of thing.
That's more cynical than even I would put it, and, increasingly, tax benefits and all that stuff are not unique to married individuals or are not even afforded to them.
2. Ask her father. I'd take it as a warning sign if the woman or the father are the sort of people who get offended by something like that. Do you want to be married into a family like that? No. You're setting yourself up for future fights and general acrimony.
Besides that - my wife has an older sister. Her husband did not ask prior to proposing and i heard all about it from my wife who clearly thought that it was a point in my favor. We all like the new brother-in-law and i doubt anyone ever said anything about it but they did talk about it.
Um, yeah.
I think it might be helpful to have one big fight first, then see if you can even get through that.
It sounds plainly idiotic, but I have found it screens out whether it can be done or not. I don't know you're a Bible person, but 1 Peter 1:7 could be applied to relationships; it reads These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith--of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire--may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.
Again, not to dissuade you from what could be very good for you and without issue.
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I would speak to her father first. He will have a better idea about the timing plus its a nice tradition to maintain.
I would budget more then 100$, as mentioned. For a good price, consider shopping at estate shops. Don't think used, think vintage. A nice Deco Vintage gold band can be had for 300-500$ It is well worth the extra money.
Are you sure she will say yes? I don't mean to be rude, but are you both on the same page here? There should be zero doubt in your mind that this is something she wants and wants badly (irrespective of whether or not she is expecting it).
You're both young and three years is not that long to date. It may be true love that was meant to be, but there is no good reason it can't keep for another year or more.
Also, really consider living together first.
nvm, I just read your other two threads on this page and you are definitely not ready for marriage.
Wait to ask her.
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2. Ask her father. I'd take it as a warning sign if the woman or the father are the sort of people who get offended by something like that. Do you want to be married into a family like that? No. You're setting yourself up for future fights and general acrimony.
Besides that - my wife has an older sister. Her husband did not ask prior to proposing and i heard all about it from my wife who clearly thought that it was a point in my favor. We all like the new brother-in-law and i doubt anyone ever said anything about it but they did talk about it.
Um, yeah.
I think it might be helpful to have one big fight first, then see if you can even get through that.
It sounds plainly idiotic, but I have found it screens out whether it can be done or not. I don't know you're a Bible person, but 1 Peter 1:7 could be applied to relationships; it reads These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith--of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire--may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.
Again, not to dissuade you from what could be very good for you and without issue.