Update:I don't think that was a date. We met up, ate dinner, and... She went home. As far as I could tell, she thought it was just having dinner, nothing more. A little disappointing, but whatever. Should I have been clearer asking her out? I pretty much said "would you like to have dinner on Friday", but I guess that could be taken as something other than an actual date.
Are you good or bad at reading people / signals from women? Its fine if you're bad, most guys are, just something that would be good to know giving advice going forward. If she wasn't treating this like a date or doing obvious cues, she is probably either not interested in you that way, or clueless. Either way, assuming you aren't good at picking up on those things, I would suggest just being honest. Just tell her you had fun on Friday, and you'd like to take her out for a second date, in no uncertain terms. You should get an actual answer that way.
Also, very important to know, how exactly did the date end? She went home, we know, but what happenned between you as you parted ways?
Are you good or bad at reading people / signals from women? Its fine if you're bad, most guys are, just something that would be good to know giving advice going forward. If she wasn't treating this like a date or doing obvious cues, she is probably either not interested in you that way, or clueless. Either way, assuming you aren't good at picking up on those things, I would suggest just being honest. Just tell her you had fun on Friday, and you'd like to take her out for a second date, in no uncertain terms. You should get an actual answer that way.
Also, very important to know, how exactly did the date end? She went home, we know, but what happenned between you as you parted ways?
I'm going to assume I'm terrible at it, considering the extent of my past relationship experience (almost none) and the fact that I'm fairly introverted/not much of a social person. As far as I could tell, though, there were really no blindingly obvious "make a move" cues. There wasn't any contact at the end of the date, if that's what you meant. We walked out of the restaurant, said good bye, and left.
I'm going to assume I'm terrible at it, considering the extent of my past relationship experience (almost none) and the fact that I'm fairly introverted/not much of a social person. As far as I could tell, though, there were really no blindingly obvious "make a move" cues. There wasn't any contact at the end of the date, if that's what you meant. We walked out of the restaurant, said good bye, and left.
If this is a first time hanging out with someone I wouldn't expect all that much contact. Perhaps I'd of forced a hug (Jokingly throw my arms out waiting for the hug as to put myself in that position and not someone else to make sure I make it clear that I am at that point, but that is me. This hug can provide information beyond words.) and said I had fun and than made a comment about some other time. Wait/look around for something that interests you to pop up. Rinse and repeat. If it doesn't continue to work out than I wouldn't delve much deeper. I don't like flakes and I don't flake on those I like to be around.
Find an activity that doesn't involve school and ask her out to it. Even the classic dinner and a movie works as a second outing, though if you can find something casual and fun like mini golf or ice skating or something, that's usually better. But this time, assuming she accepts, just make your intentions obvious. Tell her you're interested in her and see what she says. If you don't, and you aren't able to read if she likes you or not, this is just going nowhere. Don't feel bad about not being able to read cues, it isn't easy, just make up for it by being direct. At this point, I think worst case scenario is that you two just stay friends, she obviously already likes you at least that much.
Make sure you ask her to do or go to a public place.
As cool as "want to play some magic in my dorm" sounds, that can make a lot of women uncomfortable (for good reason). So, somewhere you two can chat, and also a place where she doesn't think she might be murdered.
If you run out of words to say to her, do body language so she will get the hint that you like her. Asking her out is too early. Give her time to get to know you better, we never know if she accepts your invitation or not.
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Also, very important to know, how exactly did the date end? She went home, we know, but what happenned between you as you parted ways?
I'm going to assume I'm terrible at it, considering the extent of my past relationship experience (almost none) and the fact that I'm fairly introverted/not much of a social person. As far as I could tell, though, there were really no blindingly obvious "make a move" cues. There wasn't any contact at the end of the date, if that's what you meant. We walked out of the restaurant, said good bye, and left.
If this is a first time hanging out with someone I wouldn't expect all that much contact. Perhaps I'd of forced a hug (Jokingly throw my arms out waiting for the hug as to put myself in that position and not someone else to make sure I make it clear that I am at that point, but that is me. This hug can provide information beyond words.) and said I had fun and than made a comment about some other time. Wait/look around for something that interests you to pop up. Rinse and repeat. If it doesn't continue to work out than I wouldn't delve much deeper. I don't like flakes and I don't flake on those I like to be around.
As cool as "want to play some magic in my dorm" sounds, that can make a lot of women uncomfortable (for good reason). So, somewhere you two can chat, and also a place where she doesn't think she might be murdered.
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