OK, so I've never gotten a manicure or a pedicure before and I don't plan on ever doing it regularly.
However, I'm getting married next month. So I'm considering it this once. We're going to the Caribbean afterwards, so I'd like to have my feet not be so disgusting when we're on the beach, plus I have callouses and I heard they can take care of that. As for the manicure part, there will be pictures that last a lifetime, so I suppose it would also be worth considering.
I've never gotten this done before, so I'm mostly just nervous about the experience. For those of you (men) who have had this done, do the workers and the women kinda look at you funny? Or have you had mostly pleasant experiences?
Seems like a waste of good money unless you are overly self-conscious about people looking at your feet. Doesn't hurt to spend time with your girl, but paying someone to clip my toenails is something I'd probably avoid like the plague.
Oh, and remember, after you're married you don't need to look nice for the ladies, so who are you worried about? No one is going to deny you service for having ugly feet.
Seems like a waste of good money unless you are overly self-conscious about people looking at your feet. Doesn't hurt to spend time with your girl, but paying someone to clip my toenails is something I'd probably avoid like the plague.
Oh, and remember, after you're married you don't need to look nice for the ladies, so who are you worried about? No one is going to deny you service for having ugly feet.
So you definitely wouldn't do it?
Maybe I've been wedding planning too long and need a testosterone shot. Thanks for the advice.
Maybe I've been wedding planning too long and need a testosterone shot. Thanks for the advice.
I've been told it's very therapeutic and most nail salons won't look twice at a guy coming in; in fact, most have regulars. If you're really intent on looking your best, then go for it. Hand close-ups might be fairly common in a wedding situation, given the importance of rings, so maybe you want your hands to look especially nice. The foot thing isn't as important, but it's almost like getting a massage I hear, so maybe it's a nice excuse to get a little breather in the midst of the wedding madness.
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I've done regular pedicure and foot care treatments in different countries, but my case is a bit different. It seems my toenails are naturally soft and have a tendency to break off easily, and therefore accidentally cause "ingrowns" from time to time. Thus, when I lived in Asia, I would routinely visit salons to get it done, and they offer such services for men as well (minus the coloring, but if you want it colored, well, I'm sure they would have done it if you wanted to). When I moved to Europe, I began to get regular footcare treatments which, for all intents and purposes, despite being under the care of a professional specialist, don't really seem any more or less effective than if I had gotten it at any salon back in Asia.
Based on my three consecutive years of experience doing this, it's not unusal for men to have pedicures. In both countries where I lived, many customers were male as well; this is one benefit of a globalizing society which is opening up traditional services which were almost exclusively seen as "female" could also be done for men as well. A lot of us have hygenic reasons for doing so, and there are health and aesthetic benefits for having a regular pedicure, so I personally recommend it if you have the time and the money.
The only drawback I can think of is that sometimes the person handling your pedicure might cut it in such a way that you'll have to come back for regular treatment, but I'm not sure if this applies for all pedicures, or just in my case, because I have to prevent recurring ingrowns from happening. The best thing to do in that case is ask if this is going to be a one-time deal or something you have to do regularly, depending on the state of health of your cuticles. Since it seems you only want this as a one-time deal (though again, I think there's no shame in doing it regularly) you might have to be specific about your request.
Seems like a waste of good money unless you are overly self-conscious about people looking at your feet.
Like I listed above, there are health reasons for doing so. If the nails cause you pain and you don't know how to cut them properly, the best thing to do is go to a specialist. I had multiple hospital operations on both my feet to remove ingrown nails before we figured out that regular treatment for them was the cheaper and less stressful alternative. Now I go once a month (or two months) and pay a small fee to have it done for me, and it beats going to the doctor every year to take care of something I can't seem to actively prevent on my own due to my biological makeup. Not to mention it feels good and coincides perfectly with getting a haircut, so no extra time wasted, really.
I participate yearly in a survival challenge in which I am dropped off in the wilderness with 1 days rations, a knife, and no other supplies, and have to find my way home. This is typically several weeks hiking from civilization.
I have personally killed several bears in the course of this challenge, with the use of snares and other traps.
I don't have any ingrown nails, but my feet have high arches and thus they can be quite calloused and I hear they can remove them for you (is that true?) If so, it might be worth it just for the wedding night dancing alone (might be less painful without them.)
I don't have any ingrown nails, but my feet have high arches and thus they can be quite calloused and I hear they can remove them for you (is that true?) If so, it might be worth it just for the wedding night dancing alone (might be less painful without them.)
I realize this is slightly off topic; but, a cheap, painless alternative means to remove calluses is merely to use Vaseline once or twice each day.
Leave a gracious amount of Vaseline on while gently scratching at the callused area. Only do this for several minutes each time to test if your skin is ready to peel. It may not be. The dead skin will eventually peel away (sometimes in large chunks) over several sessions. If a large chunk begins to peel, it is good to apply some extra Vaseline underneath the peeling skin to be extra careful. You can do this after a shower or even when your skin is completely dry. There is very, very rarely any bleeding involved.
I do this sometimes when the calluses on my feet get really bad and crack open to form a wound. I have atopic eczema and also use this to remove a layer of dry, dead (but not callused) skin from my finger joint.
I don't have any ingrown nails, but my feet have high arches and thus they can be quite calloused and I hear they can remove them for you (is that true?) If so, it might be worth it just for the wedding night dancing alone (might be less painful without them.)
Your feet have high arches? As in the opposite of flat feet? I have flat feet, so my feet don't have any arches, but I put material in my shoes to try and "correct" them because they should arch.
If you mean your toenails have high arches that bother you, I suppose it depends on the skill of the person you are going to, but if you have any uncomfortable pain in your feet that may have something to do with your toenails, I guarantee you that it's better to at least have them looked at.
You'll be using your feet practically every day of your life (for walking, for example, or even standing), as it's one of the most abused parts of your body, so if you can avoid even partial pain by having a minor footcare treatment (and also to help you enjoy your wedding dance more), I'd consider that to be an investment.
If you're talking about surgery for the arches in your feet, that's another story. I don't have any knowledge on that. I'll stick to advice on pedicures.
All in all, it's your choice. Good luck, and have a great wedding!
I participate yearly in a survival challenge in which I am dropped off in the wilderness with 1 days rations, a knife, and no other supplies, and have to find my way home. This is typically several weeks hiking from civilization.
I have personally killed several bears in the course of this challenge, with the use of snares and other traps.
Manicures are actually awesome, and very relaxing. And no, the manicurists don't look at you funny. It's the year 2013 and there are much stranger things to look at than a guy who's interested in proper grooming.
Your feet have high arches? As in the opposite of flat feet? I have flat feet, so my feet don't have any arches, but I put material in my shoes to try and "correct" them because they should arch.
They shouldn't be flat, no, but they shouldn't arch as much as mine do either. Basically, the problem is that my feet don't hit the ground evenly: the front comes down first. Therefore, excessive impact is applied to the ball of the foot.
I have shoe inserts from the doctor to correct the problem, but they aren't a perfect fix, thus, again, callouses.
All in all, it's your choice. Good luck, and have a great wedding!
Thanks
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I realize this is slightly off topic; but, a cheap, painless alternative means to remove calluses is merely to use Vaseline once or twice each day.
Leave a gracious amount of Vaseline on while gently scratching at the callused area. Only do this for several minutes each time to test if your skin is ready to peel. It may not be. The dead skin will eventually peel away (sometimes in large chunks) over several sessions. If a large chunk begins to peel, it is good to apply some extra Vaseline underneath the peeling skin to be extra careful. You can do this after a shower or even when your skin is completely dry. There is very, very rarely any bleeding involved.
I do this sometimes when the calluses on my feet get really bad and crack open to form a wound. I have atopic eczema and also use this to remove a layer of dry, dead (but not callused) skin from my finger joint.
Thanks for the tip!
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Manicures are actually awesome, and very relaxing. And no, the manicurists don't look at you funny. It's the year 2013 and there are much stranger things to look at than a guy who's interested in proper grooming.
Manicures are actually awesome, and very relaxing. And no, the manicurists don't look at you funny. It's the year 2013 and there are much stranger things to look at than a guy who's interested in proper grooming.
That's precisely what I came here to say. They're actually quite relaxing and enjoyable. Many places will also do couples sessions, which are a lot of fun and can help if you're nervous about it. Definitely go for it!
I did not do it for my wedding, and most people aren't going to be looking at your feet, closely, even while on the beach. You may be better off with just using moisturizer.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with it, and having a pre-wedding spa day with your wife-to-be could be fun and would make all her friends jealous. My wife and I tried going to a Spa on our honeymoon, but the plans feel through. It's a nice time from what I've heard, though.
They feel great. After my first (and only) manicure, I really wanted to go get another. I lived through it now, but I can never look at my nails the same way again. I always feel like they aren't as nice as they should.
Manicures/pedicures aren't really about what's getting done. They are more about having some personal "you" time where you are being attended to. I wouldn't expect and difference in how your foot feels or works when dancing. It's more about stress relief.
Why would you want to get rid of the callouses on your feet? They make it LESS painful to walk on things like rocks and concrete. I used to walk on rocks on purpose to build up callouses, and still go barefoot whenever possible.
Also, why do your feet need to look good for your wedding? Are you going to not be wearing shoes?
personally, i dont want anyone touching my nails except for myself. i had a phobia, when i was young, my mom used to clip my nails so i can look decent, but one time, we went to this salon and went loco. my mom's nails got murdered and mine too. we almost sew them because my mom didnt walk for almost a month...
so seriously, if its just an occasion, dont mess it up because you want clean nails. clean it yourself. besides... women love hobbits. LOL
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For men and women, they're going to look at your face, torso, legs, butt, and crotch. Ask your fiancee' about your feet if you feel that insecure about it.
Frankly, I just see this as an insecurity and a strange one at that. While one of the other posters has foot problems, the callouses as others have said are a part of how you live.
If you're having insecurities and the like and dwelling on the ephemeral, then just write a thank you letter to someone whose helped you a lot with the wedding lately. Tell your fiancee' that you love her and hope she has a nice day. Do something nice for someone else. Take one of your homeboys out for beer one night.
A man should look good, but a man needs to keep his physical health and mental health top notch. Equal to this are a man's social relationships. Typically if you're obsessing over something trivial, it means you're neglecting something else of at least moderate importance.
The first question I always ask myself is, "Does this advance the main goals I have for my life?" The second is, "Does this facilitate the goals and interests of those around me?" Weddings can be fun, if you overextend yourself focusing on trivialities then you're going to be miserable.
Take a day off, hang out with your homeboys, in-laws, your parents, or whatever. And just appreciate their company. Because once the wife starts nesting, it's a whole new can of worms.
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For men and women, they're going to look at your face, torso, legs, butt, and crotch. Ask your fiancee' about your feet if you feel that insecure about it.
She claims that women "always" look at people's feet. I was a little surprised by that one, to be honest. Cause I asked her, why the hell do you have fifty pairs of shoes? And she said it's really important for women to have their shoes match their outfits because women always look at feet. LOL.
Frankly, I just see this as an insecurity and a strange one at that.
*Shrug* I'm 30. If I was insecure about my feet or hands, I probably would have done something like this already, don't you think?
If you're having insecurities and the like and dwelling on the ephemeral, then just write a thank you letter to someone whose helped you a lot with the wedding lately. Tell your fiancee' that you love her and hope she has a nice day. Do something nice for someone else. Take one of your homeboys out for beer one night.
I'm not insecure about my hands or feet. Seriously.
I'm sure I have other insecurities, but hands and feet are not among them.
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Also, why do your feet need to look good for your wedding?
I don't. It was just going to be for the honeymoon in the Caribbean, where I intend to go barefoot/in sandals most of the time.
Are you going to not be wearing shoes?
Yeah, I'll be wearing tux shoes.
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They feel great. After my first (and only) manicure, I really wanted to go get another. I lived through it now, but I can never look at my nails the same way again. I always feel like they aren't as nice as they should.
Yeah, I'm freaked out about that too. I don't want to be making bi-monthly trips to the nail salon. lol. Same reason I've never gotten a tattoo, because I've heard once you have one, you tend to want more.
I get mani/pedis frequently and thoroughly enjoy them. My only suggestion is that if you do get one, go with a no-jets spa. Stainless steel bowls are safer and the jets sometimes aren't cleaned adequately and that's how you get **** like MRSA.
I lived in Hawaii for 3 years and NEVER got a manicure or pedicure even once, and I wore slippers/flip flops/sandals every single day. I wouldn't even worry about it. If it will make you feel better, go for it, but the vast majority of people will honestly not care about the state of your feet.
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However, I'm getting married next month. So I'm considering it this once. We're going to the Caribbean afterwards, so I'd like to have my feet not be so disgusting when we're on the beach, plus I have callouses and I heard they can take care of that. As for the manicure part, there will be pictures that last a lifetime, so I suppose it would also be worth considering.
I've never gotten this done before, so I'm mostly just nervous about the experience. For those of you (men) who have had this done, do the workers and the women kinda look at you funny? Or have you had mostly pleasant experiences?
Oh, and remember, after you're married you don't need to look nice for the ladies, so who are you worried about? No one is going to deny you service for having ugly feet.
So you definitely wouldn't do it?
Maybe I've been wedding planning too long and need a testosterone shot. Thanks for the advice.
Personally, I'm not a very attractive person anyway.
If your girl has a foot fetish or something go for it.
I've been told it's very therapeutic and most nail salons won't look twice at a guy coming in; in fact, most have regulars. If you're really intent on looking your best, then go for it. Hand close-ups might be fairly common in a wedding situation, given the importance of rings, so maybe you want your hands to look especially nice. The foot thing isn't as important, but it's almost like getting a massage I hear, so maybe it's a nice excuse to get a little breather in the midst of the wedding madness.
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Based on my three consecutive years of experience doing this, it's not unusal for men to have pedicures. In both countries where I lived, many customers were male as well; this is one benefit of a globalizing society which is opening up traditional services which were almost exclusively seen as "female" could also be done for men as well. A lot of us have hygenic reasons for doing so, and there are health and aesthetic benefits for having a regular pedicure, so I personally recommend it if you have the time and the money.
The only drawback I can think of is that sometimes the person handling your pedicure might cut it in such a way that you'll have to come back for regular treatment, but I'm not sure if this applies for all pedicures, or just in my case, because I have to prevent recurring ingrowns from happening. The best thing to do in that case is ask if this is going to be a one-time deal or something you have to do regularly, depending on the state of health of your cuticles. Since it seems you only want this as a one-time deal (though again, I think there's no shame in doing it regularly) you might have to be specific about your request.
EDIT: Just had to answer this one.
Like I listed above, there are health reasons for doing so. If the nails cause you pain and you don't know how to cut them properly, the best thing to do is go to a specialist. I had multiple hospital operations on both my feet to remove ingrown nails before we figured out that regular treatment for them was the cheaper and less stressful alternative. Now I go once a month (or two months) and pay a small fee to have it done for me, and it beats going to the doctor every year to take care of something I can't seem to actively prevent on my own due to my biological makeup. Not to mention it feels good and coincides perfectly with getting a haircut, so no extra time wasted, really.
How well do you do against one?
Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts.
Leave a gracious amount of Vaseline on while gently scratching at the callused area. Only do this for several minutes each time to test if your skin is ready to peel. It may not be. The dead skin will eventually peel away (sometimes in large chunks) over several sessions. If a large chunk begins to peel, it is good to apply some extra Vaseline underneath the peeling skin to be extra careful. You can do this after a shower or even when your skin is completely dry. There is very, very rarely any bleeding involved.
I do this sometimes when the calluses on my feet get really bad and crack open to form a wound. I have atopic eczema and also use this to remove a layer of dry, dead (but not callused) skin from my finger joint.
Your feet have high arches? As in the opposite of flat feet? I have flat feet, so my feet don't have any arches, but I put material in my shoes to try and "correct" them because they should arch.
If you mean your toenails have high arches that bother you, I suppose it depends on the skill of the person you are going to, but if you have any uncomfortable pain in your feet that may have something to do with your toenails, I guarantee you that it's better to at least have them looked at.
You'll be using your feet practically every day of your life (for walking, for example, or even standing), as it's one of the most abused parts of your body, so if you can avoid even partial pain by having a minor footcare treatment (and also to help you enjoy your wedding dance more), I'd consider that to be an investment.
If you're talking about surgery for the arches in your feet, that's another story. I don't have any knowledge on that. I'll stick to advice on pedicures.
All in all, it's your choice. Good luck, and have a great wedding!
How well do you do against one?
They shouldn't be flat, no, but they shouldn't arch as much as mine do either. Basically, the problem is that my feet don't hit the ground evenly: the front comes down first. Therefore, excessive impact is applied to the ball of the foot.
I have shoe inserts from the doctor to correct the problem, but they aren't a perfect fix, thus, again, callouses.
Thanks
Thanks for the tip!
Appreciate the info!
That's precisely what I came here to say. They're actually quite relaxing and enjoyable. Many places will also do couples sessions, which are a lot of fun and can help if you're nervous about it. Definitely go for it!
That being said, there is nothing wrong with it, and having a pre-wedding spa day with your wife-to-be could be fun and would make all her friends jealous. My wife and I tried going to a Spa on our honeymoon, but the plans feel through. It's a nice time from what I've heard, though.
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They feel great. After my first (and only) manicure, I really wanted to go get another. I lived through it now, but I can never look at my nails the same way again. I always feel like they aren't as nice as they should.
Also, why do your feet need to look good for your wedding? Are you going to not be wearing shoes?
so seriously, if its just an occasion, dont mess it up because you want clean nails. clean it yourself. besides... women love hobbits. LOL
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Frankly, I just see this as an insecurity and a strange one at that. While one of the other posters has foot problems, the callouses as others have said are a part of how you live.
If you're having insecurities and the like and dwelling on the ephemeral, then just write a thank you letter to someone whose helped you a lot with the wedding lately. Tell your fiancee' that you love her and hope she has a nice day. Do something nice for someone else. Take one of your homeboys out for beer one night.
A man should look good, but a man needs to keep his physical health and mental health top notch. Equal to this are a man's social relationships. Typically if you're obsessing over something trivial, it means you're neglecting something else of at least moderate importance.
The first question I always ask myself is, "Does this advance the main goals I have for my life?" The second is, "Does this facilitate the goals and interests of those around me?" Weddings can be fun, if you overextend yourself focusing on trivialities then you're going to be miserable.
Take a day off, hang out with your homeboys, in-laws, your parents, or whatever. And just appreciate their company. Because once the wife starts nesting, it's a whole new can of worms.
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She claims that women "always" look at people's feet. I was a little surprised by that one, to be honest. Cause I asked her, why the hell do you have fifty pairs of shoes? And she said it's really important for women to have their shoes match their outfits because women always look at feet. LOL.
*Shrug* I'm 30. If I was insecure about my feet or hands, I probably would have done something like this already, don't you think?
I'm not insecure about my hands or feet. Seriously.
I'm sure I have other insecurities, but hands and feet are not among them.
I don't. It was just going to be for the honeymoon in the Caribbean, where I intend to go barefoot/in sandals most of the time.
Yeah, I'll be wearing tux shoes.
Yeah, I'm freaked out about that too. I don't want to be making bi-monthly trips to the nail salon. lol. Same reason I've never gotten a tattoo, because I've heard once you have one, you tend to want more.