No, my issue is on how to handle a potential relationship. There is a girl I really like (she will be girl 1), and I know she has really like me. I am 21 to her 19, and we have gone to through that weird dance of always dating someone when the other was single (I.E. I had a gf when she was single, and vice-verse). Now the opportunity to go to the next level, and one of her friends (we will call her girls 2) is being a real ***** about it. However, it is important to note I dated girl 2 for a small period of time.
Girl 1 also dated a strong friend of mine. I checked with him before I pursed her, and he told me I was fine. His opinion is the only one I really care about. Girl 2 is girl 1's friend, and despite apparently being friends, she really doesn't treat girl 1 like a friend, and I just don't know how to handle this well. I don't want to go in to details, but girl 1 is more of a therapist and mom to girl 2 than an actual friend (or that is how girl 1 describes it to me).
I apologize for using girl 1 and 2, but because I use facebook and my real name on this forum, I would rather not name names. Any advice you guys could give would be appreciated. Thank you.
I understand if you don't want to get into a lot of detail, but a few questions to clarify and help us help you
How exactly is G2 "being a real ***** about it"?
Are you friends or acquaintances with G2?
Do you ever talk to her / interact with her apart from G1?
Has she told you how she feels directly or are you hearing it second/third/etc. hand from G1 or other people?
I apologize, I swore I wrote that detail, as it is the real factor to why she hates me. But I dated Girl 2. Editing the OP now.
She refuses to acknowledge girl 1's happiness. Girl 2 is apparently over me, but refuses to pass on, even though my best friend (girl 1's recent ex) is perfectly ok with it. So I guess that answers question 2 and 3.
She told me directly, we have chatted, has those flirty moments, even a kiss. We've been friends for a little over a year now. It is clear we both want to date and girl 2 is the only thing standing in the way
Well, she claims to be over me, but she can't seem to move on. Apparently, according to Girl 1, I was just that good of a bf. Her most recent text to me was:
Quote from Girl 2 »
Have fun with her
Even though Girl 1 and I have not started dating yet, because she doesn't want to hurt girl 2. But girl 1 thinks girl 2 is being selfish. They are friends, but its a really weird one. To me, it looks like a one-sided friendship, as most of the talking they do now is girl 2 doing nothing but whine about people (not just me, but almost everyone). Even when I went on a date with a girl that neither girl 1 or 2 knew (her name is Amy), girl 2 hated Amy and apparently spew bad things about her.
It is just a mess for girl 1, but she doesn't want to mess up their friendship.
Sounds like Girl 2 is pouting and angry about it because she lost her chance. Let her pout, as long as you and Girl 1 agree that she's being a brat... then there isn't any issue. The minute she starts saying crap about you and spreading rumors that aren't true, THEN you have a problem.
Oh God this really sucks for you man. Girls are like a collective, they dont do anything or acknowledge anything on their own. Also if you *censored* one
off youll *censored* all of them off! If i where you i would try talking to Girl #1 about your true feelings and just DONT MENTION girl #2, it'll backfire.
Try to get Girl #1 in a relationship with you BEFORE you talk to her about girl #2. If you do it the other way around, she'll do the opposite of what you tell her.
If she gets closer to Girl #2 than to you tha'll suck aswell, so if you threat Girl #2 like a serious problem so will her. Try not to give importance (power) to
girl #2
So try to get in a good relationship with girl #1 before even mentioning girl #2, the less she thinks about girl #2 and the more she thinks about you the better!!
Then dont tell her directly about girl #2, you have to use reverse psychology and make her reach the conclusion, if you give the answer to a woman she
will do the opposite of what you say lol
God im so glad im single I can spend all my money on Magic and on my car
I know I already gave you my advice a la phone call, but I'm going to put it here for completeness.
First off, the rest of you should know I have more information on the situation than he provided, such as past interactions with Girl 2 and such.
Here's the thing. She says she's ok with it because she really wants to be. She wants to be a supportive friend and everything that you and Girl 1 deserve. But she cannot. Because she is still beside herself over losing you. One of the hardest things people have to go through is watching someone they are in love with date someone else.
That said, as long as Girl 1 allows Girl 2 to be the deciding factor as to whether or not the two of you actually get to date, it will never happen. Girl 2 will likely never actually be ok with it, and Girl 1 will likely never be willing to throw her friendship aside to be with you, depending on how long the two of them have been friends.
Best of luck to you, sweetheart, and call me anytime you need me.
From the sounds of it, the ball is really in Girl 1's court.
Girl 2 is the only thing standing between you and Girl 1 agreeing to get together. You are willing to cut Girl 2 out of your life entirely if she continues to "be a *****" about it. The question is, what about Girl 1? What does she actually like about her "friendship" with Girl 2 that wouldn't be satisfied by entering into a relationship with you? She shouldn't just tolerate Girl 2's whining out of pity for her; that's hardly healthy.
The hard question comes if Girl 1 won't give you an answer one way or the other, in which case I'd tell her that the door remains open to a future relationship, but I'd start looking around for other people to date in the meantime.
Just kidding.
No, my issue is on how to handle a potential relationship. There is a girl I really like (she will be girl 1), and I know she has really like me. I am 21 to her 19, and we have gone to through that weird dance of always dating someone when the other was single (I.E. I had a gf when she was single, and vice-verse). Now the opportunity to go to the next level, and one of her friends (we will call her girls 2) is being a real ***** about it. However, it is important to note I dated girl 2 for a small period of time.
Girl 1 also dated a strong friend of mine. I checked with him before I pursed her, and he told me I was fine. His opinion is the only one I really care about. Girl 2 is girl 1's friend, and despite apparently being friends, she really doesn't treat girl 1 like a friend, and I just don't know how to handle this well. I don't want to go in to details, but girl 1 is more of a therapist and mom to girl 2 than an actual friend (or that is how girl 1 describes it to me).
I apologize for using girl 1 and 2, but because I use facebook and my real name on this forum, I would rather not name names. Any advice you guys could give would be appreciated. Thank you.
The GJ way path to no lynching:
How exactly is G2 "being a real ***** about it"?
Are you friends or acquaintances with G2?
Do you ever talk to her / interact with her apart from G1?
Has she told you how she feels directly or are you hearing it second/third/etc. hand from G1 or other people?
She refuses to acknowledge girl 1's happiness. Girl 2 is apparently over me, but refuses to pass on, even though my best friend (girl 1's recent ex) is perfectly ok with it. So I guess that answers question 2 and 3.
She told me directly, we have chatted, has those flirty moments, even a kiss. We've been friends for a little over a year now. It is clear we both want to date and girl 2 is the only thing standing in the way
The GJ way path to no lynching:
Even though Girl 1 and I have not started dating yet, because she doesn't want to hurt girl 2. But girl 1 thinks girl 2 is being selfish. They are friends, but its a really weird one. To me, it looks like a one-sided friendship, as most of the talking they do now is girl 2 doing nothing but whine about people (not just me, but almost everyone). Even when I went on a date with a girl that neither girl 1 or 2 knew (her name is Amy), girl 2 hated Amy and apparently spew bad things about her.
It is just a mess for girl 1, but she doesn't want to mess up their friendship.
The GJ way path to no lynching:
off youll *censored* all of them off! If i where you i would try talking to Girl #1 about your true feelings and just DONT MENTION girl #2, it'll backfire.
Try to get Girl #1 in a relationship with you BEFORE you talk to her about girl #2. If you do it the other way around, she'll do the opposite of what you tell her.
If she gets closer to Girl #2 than to you tha'll suck aswell, so if you threat Girl #2 like a serious problem so will her. Try not to give importance (power) to
girl #2
So try to get in a good relationship with girl #1 before even mentioning girl #2, the less she thinks about girl #2 and the more she thinks about you the better!!
Then dont tell her directly about girl #2, you have to use reverse psychology and make her reach the conclusion, if you give the answer to a woman she
will do the opposite of what you say lol
God im so glad im single I can spend all my money on Magic and on my car
I had a Girl 2 for a long time. If you let their negativity get to you, you'll never get anywhere. Some people just need a villain in their lives.
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First off, the rest of you should know I have more information on the situation than he provided, such as past interactions with Girl 2 and such.
Here's the thing. She says she's ok with it because she really wants to be. She wants to be a supportive friend and everything that you and Girl 1 deserve. But she cannot. Because she is still beside herself over losing you. One of the hardest things people have to go through is watching someone they are in love with date someone else.
That said, as long as Girl 1 allows Girl 2 to be the deciding factor as to whether or not the two of you actually get to date, it will never happen. Girl 2 will likely never actually be ok with it, and Girl 1 will likely never be willing to throw her friendship aside to be with you, depending on how long the two of them have been friends.
Best of luck to you, sweetheart, and call me anytime you need me.
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Girl 2 is the only thing standing between you and Girl 1 agreeing to get together. You are willing to cut Girl 2 out of your life entirely if she continues to "be a *****" about it. The question is, what about Girl 1? What does she actually like about her "friendship" with Girl 2 that wouldn't be satisfied by entering into a relationship with you? She shouldn't just tolerate Girl 2's whining out of pity for her; that's hardly healthy.
The hard question comes if Girl 1 won't give you an answer one way or the other, in which case I'd tell her that the door remains open to a future relationship, but I'd start looking around for other people to date in the meantime.
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