Guys its my firt first date in a long time. I forgot what to say and such. Were going to wohops today. Any advice?
I hate to say it, but to answer your question, just be yourself. If she doesn't like that person then she wasn't worth your time anyway.
Can't think of something to say? Ask her about her job, hobbies, what her favorite movies/musicians are. it seems like really boring trivial things but you'll see a woman really open up to you if she's talking about herself the whole time hahahaha. Other things to notice and potentially bring up are, perfume or jewelery. She didn't wear them because she felt like it- it was to please you on your date and get you to notice her more: acknowledging these things will earn you +1000000000 bonus points.
If that doesn't work, make up some trivial story and relate it to her (just be sure not to dig yourself a hole she could eventually spot). Something easy, somewhat funny and that will get her talking about whatever relation to the topic you've connected her with.
ps- another bonus tip, don't pretend to know/understand things you don't and don't offer your opinion if she starts to complain about something. she doesn't want a dad, she wants an ear to listen to her rant.
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When neither modern science nor philosophy can explain what life is."
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I want my ex back
She says that she didnt feel loved last time we were together
help!
First, figure out why you want her back. There are a lot of reasons lurking beneath the surface, some about you and some about her. Second, figure out what she's actually saying there - it'll have something to do with feeling unfulfilled, which will have reasons. This may require talking to her. Third, figure out if the relationship is something that will ever work for both of you. Fourth, talk to her about all this, and either work with her on how that all comes together or let her consider it on her own. Fifth, come to a decision with her, understanding that it's not enough that you want it; she has to want it, too.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
I want my ex back
She says that she didnt feel loved last time we were together
help!
Insufficient information. How and why did the relationship end last time? How long had you two been together? How old are each of you? What sorts of things did you two do together?
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"For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love." --Carl Sagan
In most cases you are better off without your ex....she is one for a reason.
you can't make someone love you. if it wasn't there to begin with it certainly won't be now. trust me, things only get harder when you try to "work out the issues". especially considering you should already have ample evidence to support NOT getting back with her.
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"And can you offer me proof of your existence? How can you?
When neither modern science nor philosophy can explain what life is."
Does the Reaper dream of darkness Darker than BLACK?
How do you stop loving someone.... Even someone you know it never was meant to work out. But you gave them your whole heart, you can't undo that.
You're absolutely right, you can't undo that. What you do have to do is move on. You can't waste your whole life waiting for something that will never happen.
It's hard and it hurts and it sucks, but that's absolutely what you have to do.
You're absolutely right, you can't undo that. What you do have to do is move on. You can't waste your whole life waiting for something that will never happen.
It's hard and it hurts and it sucks, but that's absolutely what you have to do.
Best of luck to you, man.
It's not even that I'm waiting for this person back. I mean, she was basically a complete ***** to me, and I put in a whole lot more than she ever did. I don't ever want them back in my life it's just that I feel like damaged goods now big time. I don't think I'm ready for another relationship, nor do I necessarily want to be in one. It's just that my ex made me feel so undesirable and unlovable all the time and I literally gave everything I had to give to someone. I dunno. I'm not really looking for advice exactly I just need to vent to someone, we broke up over 6 months ago and I still feel very ill mentally.
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Beauty of mine, sit before me. Let me peruse you and remember you... always like this.
Okay, how about this. Just found out my wife has been having an affair for at least 9 of the last 12 years of our marriage. Talk about a double life. Wow!
Okay, how about this. Just found out my wife has been having an affair for at least 9 of the last 12 years of our marriage. Talk about a double life. Wow!
With one person?
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"On a long enough time frame, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero." - Tyler Durden
Okay, how about this. Just found out my wife has been having an affair for at least 9 of the last 12 years of our marriage. Talk about a double life. Wow!
I was like ouch, but then I looked at your sig and I lold.
How do you stop loving someone.... Even someone you know it never was meant to work out. But you gave them your whole heart, you can't undo that.
This sounds like a totally nerdy thing... but play magic. Nothing like getting all your nerd rage out when you get mana screwed in draft. Well it doesn't have to be magic, but for me... the best way for me to get over my ex was to do all the things that I enjoy doing.
Not sure a Koth being pulled in draft helps you get over your ex, but in my case it did.
My question would be: How did you get in love with someone that did not love you??
i'm allways stunned by guys that are in love with unaccessible women that won't even lay their eyes on them...
This can happen quite easily, actually. I was in love with my husband for 10 years before he returned the emotion. This is how I know you can't just sit around waiting for someone to love you back, as I definitely did not do that. I went on with my life, but kept him as my best friend. Once he matured and realized that I had everything he'd been looking for in the *****es he dated before me, we became a couple. Now we're married and happy.
So, take solace, Deep Cocoa in knowing that it's still not completely hopeless, but if you just sit around waiting for her, you're just setting yourself up for a wasted life. Also, ovid's advice is sound.
But what if a person never opens a Koth in draft? How will they get over their ex then?
Apply to become a MTGS moderator and learn to loathe the human race after prolonged exposure to the writhing internet hordes?
Think about the benefits: You get used to being accused of neglecting people, you're always wrong and they're always right, and best of all when an issue comes up no one remembers the good things you've done! It's the perfect conditioning tool for learning how to handle getting over an ex.
Apply to become a MTGS moderator and learn to loathe the human race after prolonged exposure to the writhing internet hordes?
Think about the benefits: You get used to being accused of neglecting people, you're always wrong and they're always right, and best of all when an issue comes up no one remembers the good things you've done! It's the perfect conditioning tool for learning how to handle getting over an ex.
Pretty much what you're saying is that being a moderator is a good way to get used to a girl? Strangely makes sense.
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I hate to say it, but to answer your question, just be yourself. If she doesn't like that person then she wasn't worth your time anyway.
Can't think of something to say? Ask her about her job, hobbies, what her favorite movies/musicians are. it seems like really boring trivial things but you'll see a woman really open up to you if she's talking about herself the whole time hahahaha. Other things to notice and potentially bring up are, perfume or jewelery. She didn't wear them because she felt like it- it was to please you on your date and get you to notice her more: acknowledging these things will earn you +1000000000 bonus points.
If that doesn't work, make up some trivial story and relate it to her (just be sure not to dig yourself a hole she could eventually spot). Something easy, somewhat funny and that will get her talking about whatever relation to the topic you've connected her with.
ps- another bonus tip, don't pretend to know/understand things you don't and don't offer your opinion if she starts to complain about something. she doesn't want a dad, she wants an ear to listen to her rant.
When neither modern science nor philosophy can explain what life is."
Does the Reaper dream of darkness Darker than BLACK?
I want my ex back
She says that she didnt feel loved last time we were together
help!
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Insufficient information. How and why did the relationship end last time? How long had you two been together? How old are each of you? What sorts of things did you two do together?
you can't make someone love you. if it wasn't there to begin with it certainly won't be now. trust me, things only get harder when you try to "work out the issues". especially considering you should already have ample evidence to support NOT getting back with her.
When neither modern science nor philosophy can explain what life is."
Does the Reaper dream of darkness Darker than BLACK?
You're absolutely right, you can't undo that. What you do have to do is move on. You can't waste your whole life waiting for something that will never happen.
It's hard and it hurts and it sucks, but that's absolutely what you have to do.
Best of luck to you, man.
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It's not even that I'm waiting for this person back. I mean, she was basically a complete ***** to me, and I put in a whole lot more than she ever did. I don't ever want them back in my life it's just that I feel like damaged goods now big time. I don't think I'm ready for another relationship, nor do I necessarily want to be in one. It's just that my ex made me feel so undesirable and unlovable all the time and I literally gave everything I had to give to someone. I dunno. I'm not really looking for advice exactly I just need to vent to someone, we broke up over 6 months ago and I still feel very ill mentally.
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With one person?
I was like ouch, but then I looked at your sig and I lold.
This sounds like a totally nerdy thing... but play magic. Nothing like getting all your nerd rage out when you get mana screwed in draft. Well it doesn't have to be magic, but for me... the best way for me to get over my ex was to do all the things that I enjoy doing.
Not sure a Koth being pulled in draft helps you get over your ex, but in my case it did.
This can happen quite easily, actually. I was in love with my husband for 10 years before he returned the emotion. This is how I know you can't just sit around waiting for someone to love you back, as I definitely did not do that. I went on with my life, but kept him as my best friend. Once he matured and realized that I had everything he'd been looking for in the *****es he dated before me, we became a couple. Now we're married and happy.
So, take solace, Deep Cocoa in knowing that it's still not completely hopeless, but if you just sit around waiting for her, you're just setting yourself up for a wasted life. Also, ovid's advice is sound.
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Come join ours!!
We even have Mafia!!
But what if a person never opens a Koth in draft? How will they get over their ex then?
Apply to become a MTGS moderator and learn to loathe the human race after prolonged exposure to the writhing internet hordes?
Think about the benefits: You get used to being accused of neglecting people, you're always wrong and they're always right, and best of all when an issue comes up no one remembers the good things you've done! It's the perfect conditioning tool for learning how to handle getting over an ex.
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Pretty much what you're saying is that being a moderator is a good way to get used to a girl? Strangely makes sense.
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