Hi I'm just wondering where you would meet a girl outside of high school / university?
Seems like when your out of school the only place to meet girls would be bar/club and imo thats a ****** place because most are ****s or w/e.
Yeah, picking up girls in bars is rarely a long term plan.
Book stores, coffee shops, local concerts, clubs of various kinds, all good places.
Number one place is friends, though. Especially female friends. They just LOVE setting people up, which is great because it's less work for you and there's a certain degree of quality control.
In the morning after waking up next to them unexepectedly... in the nude
I'm going to second what Sibtiger said, hell, networking is good in general.
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Well, meeting girls is half the battle, remember that.
But honestly just going out and about is a great way to meet girls. Rarely do you go to, say, the mall, with hopes of meeting girls and come back successful.
Also, not all girls that go to the bar/club are ****s/*****s/whatever. Your there, and so are they, so your on an even playing field, however alcohol and the atmosphere kinda get in the way of most things. So yeah, bars/clubs are sub par.
Girls are everywhere, other than inside your home. Their interests will dictate their positions, things like walking/jogging/running around town, reading in libraries, spending time at the mall, working as a barista... and your interests should dictate where you go looking for a friend, or partner.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
Go somewhere you enjoy going too, you're more likely to meet someone with common interests. Women aren't hard to find, its just a matter of knowing how to talk to them.
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hmmmmmmmm the one advice i wuold say to you on this subject would be don't rule out the girls in your school, i'm in a school with less than 20 girls and i found a GF so...
also just don't go looking for them, relax, if you stop searching.... they will come
but if you want a more straigh forward answer then i'd say listen to some of the people above (sibtiger in particular)
anyway there's my advice, GL
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Internet forums, clubs, common interest groups, tutoring/coaching (or is this considered school?) (wheres), through friends and acquaintances (group meet-ups, parties, etc.) (how), etc.
It's more or less similar to "where or how do you meet people outside of school?"
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Also, not all girls that go to the bar/club are ****s/*****s/whatever. Your there, and so are they, so your on an even playing field, however alcohol and the atmosphere kinda get in the way of most things. So yeah, bars/clubs are sub par.
Er, sorry, but no to some or all. :|
If you're desperate and seeking, you are by no means on an even playing field; in fact, don't ever appear to be desperate, needy, or generally insecure.
Furthermore, who's to say that these are the seedy types of bars where the only woman are [censored by the filter] or [other censored word]? :/
Also, sobriety for the win, for seriousness' sake. (I'm assuming you want serious, not just fuelled by spur-of-the-moment impulsiveness.) Drunkenness tends to be pretty repulsive.
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Book stores, coffee shops, local concerts, clubs of various kinds, all good places.
Only if you're audacious enough to strike up a decent conversation, and aren't afraid that you might be upsetting her in any way, shape or form.
By and large, a female being doesn't like a pretentious jerk who disturbs her peace.
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hmmmmmmmm the one advice i wuold say to you on this subject would be don't rule out the girls in your school, i'm in a school with less than 20 girls and i found a GF so...
Yeah, for real.
I'm sure it pays off/will pay off to be well-connected and/or on good terms with them, anyway.
Women are everyhere. 'Cept me, I tend to hide out in my house when i'm not working since well, none of my friends live around me (including my boyfriend, oi) and a lot of my interests are not shared by the very boring, dull people of southern NH. we need more ethnic diversity.
anyhow, you can find plenty of women at the grocery store during certain times (or any large department store for that matter), striking up a conversation while standing in a checkout line is always a good attempt. Also, I work out at a gym and I see lots of other women there aside from myself as well. I also see LOTS of guys chatting it up with women there. Kind of to the point where it gets annoying really when they start standing in the way of the machines so you can't get to them.
I imagine you'll find women in the park in nice weather, particulary if you're near universities and such, it can be a nice place to study. Libraries too if you have one locally that's decent. If we had a laser tag place locally, i'd be at the laser tag all the time, when I went to them up in Toronto there were several other girls playing. Maybe try going to a chick flick at the movies? Just don't try anything creepy or stalkerish.
Church. That's where I met my wife and most of the girls I dated. The other ones I met at school. Most churches have youth events and college and career ministries. Give 'em a try. What are you worried about? You might meet a great person or two and connect with God at the same time. It's well worth the trip. Good luck!
EDIT: I just thought what you might think... something along the line of "I'd feel out of place." Well, let me tell you, I greeted this amazing woman the first time she ever came to the church I attended. It was at a college ministry worship service. She was lead there by her brother who attended the church with his family. She was shy and timid, and I invited her to sit with the group I was with. We became friends and hung out for over a year. Then we dated for a year. Then were engaged for a year. Now we've been married for a year and a half. VERY HAPPILY might I add. So don't worry if you've never been there, don't know anyone, etc. Give it a try... although I can't promise you anything, God is looking out for you and wants you to be happy. He put my wife and I together from vastly different pasts. Our hearts and our minds melded so perfectly. Even though we're very different, our love for each other is VERY strong BECAUSE our love for God is always first.
Or you could listen to Oni_kadaki's suggestion above and risk contracting an STD. Seriously, how is that worth it? This is definitely off topic and deserves it's own thread in the debate column, but how can meaningless, one night stand sex even feel good? Once you get to know someone and love them, then it's time to make it an intimate relationship. The sex will be much better when you connect through the heart of your mind first.
I recommend just making friends and networking. Had I done more of that earlier I'm sure I'd have had more GFs (and better ones) than my past had. My current gf and i though met on okcupid, through a misunderstanding, heh.
If you're desperate and seeking, you are by no means on an even playing field; in fact, don't ever appear to be desperate, needy, or generally insecure.
Furthermore, who's to say that these are the seedy types of bars where the only woman are [censored by the filter] or [other censored word]? :/
Also, sobriety for the win, for seriousness' sake. (I'm assuming you want serious, not just fuelled by spur-of-the-moment impulsiveness.) Drunkenness tends to be pretty repulsive.
Well, I hoped I wouldn't have to elaborate on that post, because most people would understand what it meant in context to this. Anyway, who mentioned desperation in the first place? Also, you wouldn't pick the women that look like *****s. Being drunk isn't necessarily a bad thing, for example, normally I consider myself quite a boring person, but after a few drinks I lighten up a bit.
I never said bars/clubs were a good choice, to go and purposely meet women, it's just an option.
I usually let my interests dictate where I meet girls. If I meet them organically (instead of "hunting" them out), then the relationship usually feels a lot more natural.
I'm currently in a relationship already, but if I WAS single, I'd have already lined up a ton of dates, and most of them sharin the same interests as me, etc.
Of course, the random encounter at a supermarket or something could just as easily lead to dating/gf, so none of this can reallybe set in stone. I think the best way to "meet girls" is to talk to them.
And I agree: bars and clubs are tried and true places people go to MEET OTHER PEOPLE half the time. You have no clue where to find girls outside of bars and clubs. Well, believe it or not, most of the girls and guys at the bars and clubs have no clue either. And the girls there probably think YOU are the ****. So why not just go, have a good time, and prove somebody wrong? (and hey, proving yourself right isn't always bad either. :D)
I have a girlfriend, but to me it just seems like it would be very hard to find someone outside of high school or university. I'm not great with talkign with girls (not bad either) but I cant just go up to someone random and strike up a convo (so maybe I am bad).
I am very happy with my current gf the question just game into my head
Don't know what my point it.. I'll just click the post button I guess.
Um, why do you want to? Anyways, start doing lots of sport and having lots of hobbies so you can meet lots of people, don't just focus on girls. Maybe you could pick up a grandma at a bridge club
Well, I hoped I wouldn't have to elaborate on that post, because most people would understand what it meant in context to this. Anyway, who mentioned desperation in the first place? Also, you wouldn't pick the women that look like *****s. Being drunk isn't necessarily a bad thing, for example, normally I consider myself quite a boring person, but after a few drinks I lighten up a bit.
I never said bars/clubs were a good choice, to go and purposely meet women, it's just an option.
Funny, I don't recall you ever having a drink.
I think its really easy to go to places to meet girls, it's just the meeting them part that is, well, rather difficult. A really easy place to meet girls would be the Mall. All you really have to do is go to the food court, sit down at a table full of em, (have something to say, mind you) and just go at it ;). Otherwise, not playing magic every Friday night is something you may want to give up if your relativity serious about this. I mean, magic is great if you want to not meet females. Go to places like the Cafe, mall or even the theater (before hand in the lobby you can meet some people) on a Friday night instead.
I think its really easy to go to places to meet girls, it's just the meeting them part that is, well, rather difficult. A really easy place to meet girls would be the Mall. All you really have to do is go to the food court, sit down at a table full of em, (have something to say, mind you) and just go at it ;). Otherwise, not playing magic every Friday night is something you may want to give up if your relativity serious about this. I mean, magic is great if you want to not meet females. Go to places like the Cafe, mall or even the theater (before hand in the lobby you can meet some people) on a Friday night instead.
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Great, because your personal knowledge of me has nothing to do with this, and shouldn't really be mentioned.
Also, you can still play Magic, I fail to see how that would impede someone in their quest to go meet women.....also not all Magic is played on Friday nights......etc.
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Seems like when your out of school the only place to meet girls would be bar/club and imo thats a ****** place because most are ****s or w/e.
Book stores, coffee shops, local concerts, clubs of various kinds, all good places.
Number one place is friends, though. Especially female friends. They just LOVE setting people up, which is great because it's less work for you and there's a certain degree of quality control.
In the morning after waking up next to them unexepectedly... in the nudeI'm going to second what Sibtiger said, hell, networking is good in general.
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But honestly just going out and about is a great way to meet girls. Rarely do you go to, say, the mall, with hopes of meeting girls and come back successful.
Also, not all girls that go to the bar/club are ****s/*****s/whatever. Your there, and so are they, so your on an even playing field, however alcohol and the atmosphere kinda get in the way of most things. So yeah, bars/clubs are sub par.
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also just don't go looking for them, relax, if you stop searching.... they will come
but if you want a more straigh forward answer then i'd say listen to some of the people above (sibtiger in particular)
anyway there's my advice, GL
It's more or less similar to "where or how do you meet people outside of school?"
Er, sorry, but no to some or all. :|
If you're desperate and seeking, you are by no means on an even playing field; in fact, don't ever appear to be desperate, needy, or generally insecure.
Furthermore, who's to say that these are the seedy types of bars where the only woman are [censored by the filter] or [other censored word]? :/
Also, sobriety for the win, for seriousness' sake. (I'm assuming you want serious, not just fuelled by spur-of-the-moment impulsiveness.) Drunkenness tends to be pretty repulsive.
Only if you're audacious enough to strike up a decent conversation, and aren't afraid that you might be upsetting her in any way, shape or form.
By and large, a female being doesn't like a pretentious jerk who disturbs her peace.
Yeah, for real.
I'm sure it pays off/will pay off to be well-connected and/or on good terms with them, anyway.
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anyhow, you can find plenty of women at the grocery store during certain times (or any large department store for that matter), striking up a conversation while standing in a checkout line is always a good attempt. Also, I work out at a gym and I see lots of other women there aside from myself as well. I also see LOTS of guys chatting it up with women there. Kind of to the point where it gets annoying really when they start standing in the way of the machines so you can't get to them.
I imagine you'll find women in the park in nice weather, particulary if you're near universities and such, it can be a nice place to study. Libraries too if you have one locally that's decent. If we had a laser tag place locally, i'd be at the laser tag all the time, when I went to them up in Toronto there were several other girls playing. Maybe try going to a chick flick at the movies? Just don't try anything creepy or stalkerish.
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EDIT: I just thought what you might think... something along the line of "I'd feel out of place." Well, let me tell you, I greeted this amazing woman the first time she ever came to the church I attended. It was at a college ministry worship service. She was lead there by her brother who attended the church with his family. She was shy and timid, and I invited her to sit with the group I was with. We became friends and hung out for over a year. Then we dated for a year. Then were engaged for a year. Now we've been married for a year and a half. VERY HAPPILY might I add. So don't worry if you've never been there, don't know anyone, etc. Give it a try... although I can't promise you anything, God is looking out for you and wants you to be happy. He put my wife and I together from vastly different pasts. Our hearts and our minds melded so perfectly. Even though we're very different, our love for each other is VERY strong BECAUSE our love for God is always first.
Or you could listen to Oni_kadaki's suggestion above and risk contracting an STD. Seriously, how is that worth it? This is definitely off topic and deserves it's own thread in the debate column, but how can meaningless, one night stand sex even feel good? Once you get to know someone and love them, then it's time to make it an intimate relationship. The sex will be much better when you connect through the heart of your mind first.
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Well, I hoped I wouldn't have to elaborate on that post, because most people would understand what it meant in context to this. Anyway, who mentioned desperation in the first place? Also, you wouldn't pick the women that look like *****s. Being drunk isn't necessarily a bad thing, for example, normally I consider myself quite a boring person, but after a few drinks I lighten up a bit.
I never said bars/clubs were a good choice, to go and purposely meet women, it's just an option.
I'm currently in a relationship already, but if I WAS single, I'd have already lined up a ton of dates, and most of them sharin the same interests as me, etc.
Of course, the random encounter at a supermarket or something could just as easily lead to dating/gf, so none of this can reallybe set in stone. I think the best way to "meet girls" is to talk to them.
And I agree: bars and clubs are tried and true places people go to MEET OTHER PEOPLE half the time. You have no clue where to find girls outside of bars and clubs. Well, believe it or not, most of the girls and guys at the bars and clubs have no clue either. And the girls there probably think YOU are the ****. So why not just go, have a good time, and prove somebody wrong? (and hey, proving yourself right isn't always bad either. :D)
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I have a girlfriend, but to me it just seems like it would be very hard to find someone outside of high school or university. I'm not great with talkign with girls (not bad either) but I cant just go up to someone random and strike up a convo (so maybe I am bad).
I am very happy with my current gf the question just game into my head
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Funny, I don't recall you ever having a drink.
I think its really easy to go to places to meet girls, it's just the meeting them part that is, well, rather difficult. A really easy place to meet girls would be the Mall. All you really have to do is go to the food court, sit down at a table full of em, (have something to say, mind you) and just go at it ;). Otherwise, not playing magic every Friday night is something you may want to give up if your relativity serious about this. I mean, magic is great if you want to not meet females. Go to places like the Cafe, mall or even the theater (before hand in the lobby you can meet some people) on a Friday night instead.
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Great, because your personal knowledge of me has nothing to do with this, and shouldn't really be mentioned.
Also, you can still play Magic, I fail to see how that would impede someone in their quest to go meet women.....also not all Magic is played on Friday nights......etc.