We know to many people in life who...well lets face it have anger issues. The get angry at the drop of the hat, throw stuff around..kick kittens...beat up nuns. well the list could go on
I have always wondered if the opposite could be true. Could someone not get angry enough. That they are to calm.
I thought that about myself. I remind calm and don't get angry about anything. I am laid back or as some people say slacker.
I wonder if this is a problem. Even though getting angry is bad if used in inappropriate ways. I imagine there has to be some adrenalin rush from getting angry and wanting to hit stuff
I worry about myself being to calm to laid back. You know that I wont get that rush when I need
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I am a laid back kid to .... but I don't really think of it as being bad ... the only thing that I think is bad is that when you do get angry everything comes out at once and I think thats a lot worse than if you was to get angry all the time ..... in short you dont really know how to control your anger when it comes out
We know too many people in life who, well, let's face it- have anger issues. They become angry at the drop of a hat, throw things around, kick kittens, beat up nuns- the list could go on!
I have always wondered if the opposite could be true. Could someone be too calm?
I thought that I myself am too relaxed. I remain calm in all situations. I am 'laid back,' or as some people say, a'slacker'.
I wonder, is this a problem? Even though becoming angry can result in poor choices being made and people being hurt.
I worry about myself, being so calm and laid back. I will not get the adrenaline rush that comes when you become angry.
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2) No, you don't need to worry. Adrenaline is also released whenever you engage in a fight-or-flight situation.
I think the term for "overly chill" is passive-aggressive. Sometimes people just let stuff happen when they don't want it to, which can be as annoying as when someone's overly aggressive. If you're too calm and laid back, then you're kind of living life without enough emotion. I'd say a healthy mix of being aggressive and being laid back is suitable for me.
I have no problem with being too laid back. Anyone who has seen me in private on a bad day knows this. It's as much as I could do sometimes in 2005 to stop myself punching annoying people - from my own party - on the mouth because they were idle or silly or smoking something they shouldn't and thought they could answer back if I told them off. John Prescott can get away with it, though, and I can't.
As Glurman says though, in a situation where you need it, energy surges through you to deliver the necessary action. Just don't start smoking weed (which is a sedative) and you will be all right when it comes to a necessary energy burst.
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Being laid back is great, that's how I am. I once said, "Excuse me, there is smoke coming out of your room." Everyone else panics, and franticly runs around looking for fire extinquishers. I calmly follow and quietly watch them.. I don't see a problem, do you?
We know to many people in life who...well lets face it have anger issues. The get angry at the drop of the hat, throw stuff around..kick kittens...beat up nuns. well the list could go on
I have always wondered if the opposite could be true. Could someone not get angry enough. That they are to calm.
I thought that about myself. I remind calm and don't get angry about anything. I am laid back or as some people say slacker.
I wonder if this is a problem. Even though getting angry is bad if used in inappropriate ways. I imagine there has to be some adrenalin rush from getting angry and wanting to hit stuff
I worry about myself being to calm to laid back. You know that I wont get that rush when I need
I am such a person. I can't sustain any kind of anger*, which implies I can't feel Aristotle's "righteous indignation" either.
The really sad thing is, I'm forced to use the term in common speech in order to get meaning across. For example, just there, I almost wrote that this inability of mine "makes me angry".
But it doesn't make me angry! I just rely on that phrase to carry all the meaning I need. And you know that you do the same thing, too - we use these meaning-packets to efficiently communicate, and they work because there is a lot of common human experience (but this is an aside).
Don't worry - I still have adrenaline. There is one thing that really sucks about this, though. If you don't become visibly angry when people think you should, they become very suspicious of the things you say. That is, they think you're disingenuous if you claim to find something reprehensible, but don't really "look it". Once again, this makes me angry mildly frustrated, sometimes sad that people will make that assumption so quickly.
It is very real evidence that you're different, you know? When people are so sure in their model of the typical human, that they don't even check to see if you're an exception.
It seems people expect you to put emotional force behind the things you say if you believe them. I'm some kind of hypocrite because I don't.
I recognize the risk here that I'll become some sort of Green Arrow mark II, but I tell you honestly: I wish I could be angry.
*It's the weirdest thing too - and I know it's weird because I used to feel anger. What will happen is I'll become red, and sweat, and then as soon as the physiological response kicks up, it'll vanish... my back will go cold, my voice will become quiet, and my hands will be very clammy for a few minutes. And I'll feel on the precipice of crying, though I won't feel sad.
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I am such a person. I can't sustain any kind of anger*, which implies I can't feel Aristotle's "righteous indignation" either.
The really sad thing is, I'm forced to use the term in common speech in order to get meaning across. For example, just there, I almost wrote that this inability of mine "makes me angry".
But it doesn't make me angry! I just rely on that phrase to carry all the meaning I need. And you know that you do the same thing, too - we use these meaning-packets to efficiently communicate, and they work because there is a lot of common human experience (but this is an aside).
Don't worry - I still have adrenaline. There is one thing that really sucks about this, though. If you don't become visibly angry when people think you should, they become very suspicious of the things you say. That is, they think you're disingenuous if you claim to find something reprehensible, but don't really "look it". Once again, this makes me angry mildly frustrated, sometimes sad that people will make that assumption so quickly.
It is very real evidence that you're different, you know? When people are so sure in their model of the typical human, that they don't even check to see if you're an exception.
It seems people expect you to put emotional force behind the things you say if you believe them. I'm some kind of hypocrite because I don't.
I recognize the risk here that I'll become some sort of Green Arrow mark II, but I tell you honestly: I wish I could be angry.
*It's the weirdest thing too - and I know it's weird because I used to feel anger. What will happen is I'll become red, and sweat, and then as soon as the physiological response kicks up, it'll vanish... my back will go cold, my voice will become quiet, and my hands will be very clammy for a few minutes. And I'll feel on the precipice of crying, though I won't feel sad.
Weird when I get angry and do not visibly show it, people become scared. Like they are afraid I'm a sociopath or I am calmly plotting their doom. There is such joy in intimidating a bully threatening me bodily harm simply because I showed no outward sign of fear and just stared at him. None of my friend can ever recall a time when I became angry, because I never put it on display. They find that creepy.
Does your appearent disingenuousness come from other stuff you do or do not do?
I'm sort of like Horseshoe, the "artficial emotions" type thing...Mostly I just get annoyed. (On occasion though I really do get really REALLY pissed off and start breaking people and things. Usually it doesn't happen though. Halo calms me down so well....:) )
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Weird when I get angry and do not visibly show it, people become scared. Like they are afraid I'm a sociopath or I am calmly plotting their doom. There is such joy in intimidating a bully threatening me bodily harm simply because I showed no outward sign of fear and just stared at him. None of my friend can ever recall a time when I became angry, because I never put it on display. They find that creepy.
Does your appearent disingenuousness come from other stuff you do or do not do?
There is a visible change in people's demeanors in situations where I argue against something that I claim to find reprehensible / personally disgusting, yet do not show the outward signs of disgust, like, the mouth being held open for a few seconds (you know that look), a pointed finger, furrowed brows, raised voice, et cetera.
And as I said, some people actually voice their doubts and tell me where they're coming from.
Niadar, my point was there are no "on occasion"s for me. So it would seem you're fundamentally different.
Also, Halo = fun.
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Yes, you can certainly be too calm and laid back, it's called being passive. Or as I put it, being everybody's ass-puppet. Once you start being so laid back that you don't speak up when things are happening that don't sit well with you (be it how you're being treated, things being said, whatever), I think you're being too passive. No one likes an over-aggressive brute, but no one likes a pushover either (unless they want to use them).
Anyway, I do think that people can be too laid back. it can be a problem, because sometimes you do need a sense of urgency.
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Yes, you can certainly be too calm and laid back, it's called being passive. Or as I put it, being everybody's ass-puppet. Once you start being so laid back that you don't speak up when things are happening that don't sit well with you (be it how you're being treated, things being said, whatever), I think you're being too passive. No one likes an over-aggressive brute, but no one likes a pushover either (unless they want to use them).
This isn't what Horseshoe hermit's talking about. It's not that he doesn't speak up, it's that he doesn't start screaming and turning red as he decries the evils of [insert objectionable thing here]. I do ... sort of the same thing; but if I don't have some outlet I do tend to explode from time to time.
(Though I put on a good show of passion in my arguing when I so choose).
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I have always wondered if the opposite could be true. Could someone not get angry enough. That they are to calm.
I thought that about myself. I remind calm and don't get angry about anything. I am laid back or as some people say slacker.
I wonder if this is a problem. Even though getting angry is bad if used in inappropriate ways. I imagine there has to be some adrenalin rush from getting angry and wanting to hit stuff
I worry about myself being to calm to laid back. You know that I wont get that rush when I need
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2) No, you don't need to worry. Adrenaline is also released whenever you engage in a fight-or-flight situation.
Akuma will wreck you.
As Glurman says though, in a situation where you need it, energy surges through you to deliver the necessary action. Just don't start smoking weed (which is a sedative) and you will be all right when it comes to a necessary energy burst.
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"When he struck us with feet and hands/It made Volpone dance!" - The Ballad of Dentling Nick, by Mr Owl
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I am such a person. I can't sustain any kind of anger*, which implies I can't feel Aristotle's "righteous indignation" either.
The really sad thing is, I'm forced to use the term in common speech in order to get meaning across. For example, just there, I almost wrote that this inability of mine "makes me angry".
But it doesn't make me angry! I just rely on that phrase to carry all the meaning I need. And you know that you do the same thing, too - we use these meaning-packets to efficiently communicate, and they work because there is a lot of common human experience (but this is an aside).
Don't worry - I still have adrenaline. There is one thing that really sucks about this, though. If you don't become visibly angry when people think you should, they become very suspicious of the things you say. That is, they think you're disingenuous if you claim to find something reprehensible, but don't really "look it". Once again, this makes me
angrymildly frustrated, sometimes sad that people will make that assumption so quickly.It is very real evidence that you're different, you know? When people are so sure in their model of the typical human, that they don't even check to see if you're an exception.
It seems people expect you to put emotional force behind the things you say if you believe them. I'm some kind of hypocrite because I don't.
I recognize the risk here that I'll become some sort of Green Arrow mark II, but I tell you honestly: I wish I could be angry.
*It's the weirdest thing too - and I know it's weird because I used to feel anger. What will happen is I'll become red, and sweat, and then as soon as the physiological response kicks up, it'll vanish... my back will go cold, my voice will become quiet, and my hands will be very clammy for a few minutes. And I'll feel on the precipice of crying, though I won't feel sad.
Awesome avatar provided by Krashbot @ [Epic Graphics].
Weird when I get angry and do not visibly show it, people become scared. Like they are afraid I'm a sociopath or I am calmly plotting their doom. There is such joy in intimidating a bully threatening me bodily harm simply because I showed no outward sign of fear and just stared at him. None of my friend can ever recall a time when I became angry, because I never put it on display. They find that creepy.
Does your appearent disingenuousness come from other stuff you do or do not do?
Control is the ultimate expression of power.
Hey, is there anyone else on the forums going to Rice University in Houston? We could ALWAYS use more people in our Magic games. PM me if you want to play sometime
There is a visible change in people's demeanors in situations where I argue against something that I claim to find reprehensible / personally disgusting, yet do not show the outward signs of disgust, like, the mouth being held open for a few seconds (you know that look), a pointed finger, furrowed brows, raised voice, et cetera.
And as I said, some people actually voice their doubts and tell me where they're coming from.
Niadar, my point was there are no "on occasion"s for me. So it would seem you're fundamentally different.
Also, Halo = fun.
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Anyway, I do think that people can be too laid back. it can be a problem, because sometimes you do need a sense of urgency.
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This isn't what Horseshoe hermit's talking about. It's not that he doesn't speak up, it's that he doesn't start screaming and turning red as he decries the evils of [insert objectionable thing here]. I do ... sort of the same thing; but if I don't have some outlet I do tend to explode from time to time.
(Though I put on a good show of passion in my arguing when I so choose).
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Huh? I wasn't responding to Horseshoe Hermit ... I was responding to the OP.
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Katingal: Plane of Chains