Ok, so here is the deal. I will tell you how the situation came across, then I will tell you what is happening as of right now, and then I will tell you what my problem is.
Round 1: Fight!
Last year my dad lost the our house. Mainly do to debt and a few other factors. Anyways, for me to stay in school I had to move in with my aunt. Since then my dad has been working on getting us a new place. When I say "us" I mean my dad, sister, and myself.
Round 2: Fight!
Now he just called me with the news that he found a place. We are supposed to move in on the 1st. Which is great! I am on summer break, and I haven't yet registered for classes yet. So I called my sister and she said, "Where is the place at?" I tell her it is in Turlock. She said she wont be moving in, because she is not going to drive from Turlock to Manteca to go to work everyday. So my dad is going to be pretty disappointed about that. Also, I have been bugging him since day one to get us a place because I would rather be with my dad than with my aunt. Her house is not really a home to me. It is really just where I lay my head at night. That and I am really close to my dad.
Final Roud: Fight!
I am really happy that my dad found us a place. However, I am torn on what to do. Should I move in with my dad, and be really far from school, or do I stay with my aunt and still only see my dad on the weekends? I suppose I could go live with him during the summer, and then come back for school. However, I was thinking I could go move in with him, sign up for classes, but take them all online. Then the problem comes up that I need to buy a computer. As a student, I have just about no money. The money I do have goes to a $10 Draft once a month (if that), registration, and books for college. Which I am not even sure how I am going to pay for that this upcoming semester. By some stupid reason my college says that I do not qualify for aid. Which is retarded. Now if I do go to live with my dad I will have to sign up for online classes which will mean I will need a computer. So I will have to hunt for a cheap computer...when I say cheap..I mean really cheap...like less than $150 all together. I already have a monitor that was given to me. However, if I don't go live with him I will feel really bad. Because I am the person who pushed him the most to get a house, because I wanted our family to be back together.
So I am not sure what to do. So I ask the Magical Players here to help me.
1. What would you do in my situation?
2. What do you think I should do?
3. If I do go live with my dad where can I get a cheap computer (that is still decent) for $150.
4. Any other advice? Questions? Comments?
girl, you have an insanely sad life. i don't know how you ever got into your situation but you really need to find yourself some other colleges. if your pleads for financial aid are honest, i don't see any reason why any school would deny you. plus since you live in some obscure place in cali, i'm pretty certain you don't go anywhere prestigious. transferring should be no problem for you.
as for your situation at hand, i'm curious as to what makes you think your dad will move if you decide to stay at your aunt's. it looks like if his family doesn't go, he won't go. the more important question hereis whether or not your aunt wants you in her house. if not, you should definitely move. it's not good to be an unwelcome guest.
personally, my biggest suggestion to you is to get a job. i find no reason why you can't scrape together $150 for a computer. it puzzles me more that your sister can afford a car and to drive and you can barely afford anything. it looks to me as if the money for your computer is definitely there. you and your family just need to cut back on some luxuries. maybe someone can try carpooling every once in a while.
1 & 2) To get threw college prepare to sacrifice anything you can, especially magic playing time and Magic budget. If you need to spend that money on computer parts, supplies or gas instead of magic, do it.
3) $150 is a horrible budget, unless you can hit up garage sells and the used bins. It will be impossible for you on that budget to make a computer from fresh or used parts from the main retails store, maybe side stores. Alot of people have old dying computers, that only need a part or two replaced, but they will sell those for cheap or even give them too you. Try to get the hook-ups on your budget and dont' pass down any offer for a computer, even if it's an ancient machine from the 90's.
3) $150 is a horrible budget, unless you can hit up garage sells and the used bins. It will be impossible for you on that budget to make a computer from fresh or used parts from the main retails store, maybe side stores. Alot of people have old dying computers, that only need a part or two replaced, but they will sell those for cheap or even give them too you. Try to get the hook-ups on your budget and dont' pass down any offer for a computer, even if it's an ancient machine from the 90's.
Whoa. I don't know about the other problems, but new computers are as low as $300 (3GHz, 160GB HDD, 512MB RAM) at the major retailers. $150 can buy a decent computer from 1-2 years ago with the about the same stats as above (plus a monitor). Check your local ads for sales.
Well, you need to set priorities, I think. School > Leisure should be fairly obvious, but one that got lost on me a few months back is Health & Happiness > School. It's usually not a problem to take time off from classes and work for a while, live in a comfortable setting, ground yourself. #1 on your list of priorities should never be school, but rather you.
Basically, I'm saying that if it bothers you to be away from a real home, you ought to go back. Try it out for the summer, see if you can work with weekends and holidays at your dad's, the rest of the time at your aunt's.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
girl, you have an insanely sad life. i don't know how you ever got into your situation but you really need to find yourself some other colleges. if your pleads for financial aid are honest, i don't see any reason why any school would deny you. plus since you live in some obscure place in cali, i'm pretty certain you don't go anywhere prestigious. transferring should be no problem for you.
My plead for finicial aid are honest. I filled out everything correct and they said at the time that my father makes to much money. Then even when I tried to do it again and lied..I still get denied.
as for your situation at hand, i'm curious as to what makes you think your dad will move if you decide to stay at your aunt's. it looks like if his family doesn't go, he won't go. the more important question hereis whether or not your aunt wants you in her house. if not, you should definitely move. it's not good to be an unwelcome guest.
My dad has already found a place. He paid the deposit and everything today. So we are good to go on the 1st. My aunt doesn't mind my staying at her house. However, I want to live with my dad.
personally, my biggest suggestion to you is to get a job. i find no reason why you can't scrape together $150 for a computer. it puzzles me more that your sister can afford a car and to drive and you can barely afford anything. it looks to me as if the money for your computer is definitely there. you and your family just need to cut back on some luxuries. maybe someone can try carpooling every once in a while.
I had a job. I quit my job so I could go to college. My former job wouldn't be able to be flexiable around my crazy schedule for school and the distance that I am from my former job. So it was "stay at a dead end job" or "try to make something of my life." I can easily come up with $150 for a computer. I have actually found a website for cheap computers (no monitor, OS). Which is probably perfect for my needs.
Now it is just the part on: Should I go live with my dad? (All internet courses) Should I live and stay with my aunt? (All on campus courses)
I still haven't told my aunt the news. I am not sure what she would say since generally she is very negative when it comes to my dads half of the family and to this situation in general. Mainly because she thinks she is better than everyone. Kinda like, "Oh I am too good for you! You can kiss my shadow!" Ya know?
I also just got off the phone with my dad just now. I asked him what I should do and he asked if I was done with school. I told him yes. However, I still have 3 more semesters. I also told him I would have to register for classes soon before the classes that I want are full, also with any decent times.
So tomorrow I am going to go talk to a school counselor and see what s/he suggests. Mainly for my situation (which I doubt s/he will be able to help with), what classes I should take next, and if online classes are 'all that.'
I am still torn. Also, now I have to find a way to tell my aunt that I am most likely moving out.
Well, you need to set priorities, I think. School > Leisure should be fairly obvious, but one that got lost on me a few months back is Health & Happiness > School. It's usually not a problem to take time off from classes and work for a while, live in a comfortable setting, ground yourself. #1 on your list of priorities should never be school, but rather you.
Basically, I'm saying that if it bothers you to be away from a real home, you ought to go back. Try it out for the summer, see if you can work with weekends and holidays at your dad's, the rest of the time at your aunt's.
l have been doing the "weekend/holiday" stuff since December of last year. I honestly hate it. I would hate to take a break from college because it was already hard enough for me to start going in the first place. A friend actually constantly bugged me about when I would go..and I finally said okay. Also, I would hate to disappoint the people who are "proud of me" that I am going to college and making something of my life.
In your situation, I'd live with my dad during summer, and vist him on weekends. Finishing college should be a priority here IMO, and if living with your aunt during weekdays makes this easier for you, then by all means go for it. I don't think your dad would be disappointed with you because you're making concessions to pursue a career that may give you a steady income in the future.
Plus, I'm really not sold on online classes... do you really think you'd get to learn as much as you would if you were in campus?
When I was in college, I didn't live with my parents, seeing them only on weekends. Myabe that skews my perspective, but I really fail to grasp where the problem is. You have a place to stay, courses to tend to, and a loving parent to go to on the weekends. You're all set. Being apart from one's parents is just a natural part of growing up. Deal with it.
Whoa. I don't know about the other problems, but new computers are as low as $300 (3GHz, 160GB HDD, 512MB RAM) at the major retailers. $150 can buy a decent computer from 1-2 years ago with the about the same stats as above (plus a monitor). Check your local ads for sales.
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Basically what I just said, though $150 is still a poor budget. Thank God for the Internet and it's cheap goods.
l have been doing the "weekend/holiday" stuff since December of last year. I honestly hate it. I would hate to take a break from college because it was already hard enough for me to start going in the first place. A friend actually constantly bugged me about when I would go..and I finally said okay. Also, I would hate to disappoint the people who are "proud of me" that I am going to college and making something of my life.
Don't worry about meeting other people's expectations, that's an easy path to depression and misery. You need to take care of yourself first, and make sure that whatever you're doing is for your good and not because someone else expects it of you. The college route doesn't close for a long time, so there's not a lot of pressure to do it right away if it doesn't fit in with the rest of your life. But if it's what you want to do, that's where your choice comes in. I'd suggest talking to your dad about it, he might bring up the possibility of getting a different home, or be able to support you in another way.
I'm seeing two different choices: a) stay with your dad, take a break from school, find a job until you're ready to go back to school, perhaps having a better situation available then; b) continue the weekends and holidays routine and keep going to school now so as to avoid the trouble of restarting attendance.
Unfortunately, it's a choice people online are going to have trouble helping you with. I think you should talk to everyone around you and see what they think, keeping in mind any biases they have, and weigh that in on your own choice.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
Oh, on online classes, I do very well in them for two major reasons: I can manage my own schedule and keep up-to-date on them, and I learn from reading texts very well. One thing to watch for is in-person exams and mandatory in-person orientation meetings. Most classes use one or the other, at least at my school, so make sure you know what you're getting into before signing up.
It becomes very important to keep track of your own schedule when taking an online class, as there's not as much opportunity for reminders and it can be easy to forget to look at a class's website. Most classes have mailing lists and person-to-person office hours if you need extra help, but for the most part, you need to be able to learn simply by reading.
If you can manage that, though, online classes are wonderful. They don't absorb your time, and it's pretty much take it whenever you have time that week. In my classes that didn't require any in-person time, several of my classmates lived thousands of miles away, so you could handle being not quite as far, I'd think
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
I concur with the "Stay with your dad during the summer and weekends", since that money you have can go towards collage.
I suggest getting a job, like most people seem to be doing. Try for something that fits your scheudle, I'm sure someone will understand your situation.
Also, I concur with the "Most colorful thread" comment =P
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Round 1: Fight!
Last year my dad lost the our house. Mainly do to debt and a few other factors. Anyways, for me to stay in school I had to move in with my aunt. Since then my dad has been working on getting us a new place. When I say "us" I mean my dad, sister, and myself.
Round 2: Fight!
Now he just called me with the news that he found a place. We are supposed to move in on the 1st. Which is great! I am on summer break, and I haven't yet registered for classes yet. So I called my sister and she said, "Where is the place at?" I tell her it is in Turlock. She said she wont be moving in, because she is not going to drive from Turlock to Manteca to go to work everyday. So my dad is going to be pretty disappointed about that. Also, I have been bugging him since day one to get us a place because I would rather be with my dad than with my aunt. Her house is not really a home to me. It is really just where I lay my head at night. That and I am really close to my dad.
Final Roud: Fight!
I am really happy that my dad found us a place. However, I am torn on what to do. Should I move in with my dad, and be really far from school, or do I stay with my aunt and still only see my dad on the weekends? I suppose I could go live with him during the summer, and then come back for school. However, I was thinking I could go move in with him, sign up for classes, but take them all online. Then the problem comes up that I need to buy a computer. As a student, I have just about no money. The money I do have goes to a $10 Draft once a month (if that), registration, and books for college. Which I am not even sure how I am going to pay for that this upcoming semester. By some stupid reason my college says that I do not qualify for aid. Which is retarded. Now if I do go to live with my dad I will have to sign up for online classes which will mean I will need a computer. So I will have to hunt for a cheap computer...when I say cheap..I mean really cheap...like less than $150 all together. I already have a monitor that was given to me. However, if I don't go live with him I will feel really bad. Because I am the person who pushed him the most to get a house, because I wanted our family to be back together.
So I am not sure what to do. So I ask the Magical Players here to help me.
1. What would you do in my situation?
2. What do you think I should do?
3. If I do go live with my dad where can I get a cheap computer (that is still decent) for $150.
4. Any other advice? Questions? Comments?
as for your situation at hand, i'm curious as to what makes you think your dad will move if you decide to stay at your aunt's. it looks like if his family doesn't go, he won't go. the more important question hereis whether or not your aunt wants you in her house. if not, you should definitely move. it's not good to be an unwelcome guest.
personally, my biggest suggestion to you is to get a job. i find no reason why you can't scrape together $150 for a computer. it puzzles me more that your sister can afford a car and to drive and you can barely afford anything. it looks to me as if the money for your computer is definitely there. you and your family just need to cut back on some luxuries. maybe someone can try carpooling every once in a while.
3) $150 is a horrible budget, unless you can hit up garage sells and the used bins. It will be impossible for you on that budget to make a computer from fresh or used parts from the main retails store, maybe side stores. Alot of people have old dying computers, that only need a part or two replaced, but they will sell those for cheap or even give them too you. Try to get the hook-ups on your budget and dont' pass down any offer for a computer, even if it's an ancient machine from the 90's.
Whoa. I don't know about the other problems, but new computers are as low as $300 (3GHz, 160GB HDD, 512MB RAM) at the major retailers. $150 can buy a decent computer from 1-2 years ago with the about the same stats as above (plus a monitor). Check your local ads for sales.
Edit: Most colorful thread on MTGS?
Basically, I'm saying that if it bothers you to be away from a real home, you ought to go back. Try it out for the summer, see if you can work with weekends and holidays at your dad's, the rest of the time at your aunt's.
My dad has already found a place. He paid the deposit and everything today. So we are good to go on the 1st. My aunt doesn't mind my staying at her house. However, I want to live with my dad.
I had a job. I quit my job so I could go to college. My former job wouldn't be able to be flexiable around my crazy schedule for school and the distance that I am from my former job. So it was "stay at a dead end job" or "try to make something of my life." I can easily come up with $150 for a computer. I have actually found a website for cheap computers (no monitor, OS). Which is probably perfect for my needs.
Dell OPTIPLEX GX260 Celeron 1.7GHz 512 MB 30.0 GB HD CD-ROM $72.00
Compaq EVO Pentium 4 1.5GHz 512 MB 20.0 GB HD CD-ROM $118.40
Dell OPTIPLEX GX240 Pentium 4 1.5GHz 512 MB 40.0 GB HD CD-ROM $133.40
And the list goes on...
Now it is just the part on:
Should I go live with my dad? (All internet courses)
Should I live and stay with my aunt? (All on campus courses)
I still haven't told my aunt the news. I am not sure what she would say since generally she is very negative when it comes to my dads half of the family and to this situation in general. Mainly because she thinks she is better than everyone. Kinda like, "Oh I am too good for you! You can kiss my shadow!" Ya know?
I also just got off the phone with my dad just now. I asked him what I should do and he asked if I was done with school. I told him yes. However, I still have 3 more semesters. I also told him I would have to register for classes soon before the classes that I want are full, also with any decent times.
So tomorrow I am going to go talk to a school counselor and see what s/he suggests. Mainly for my situation (which I doubt s/he will be able to help with), what classes I should take next, and if online classes are 'all that.'
I am still torn. Also, now I have to find a way to tell my aunt that I am most likely moving out.
l have been doing the "weekend/holiday" stuff since December of last year. I honestly hate it. I would hate to take a break from college because it was already hard enough for me to start going in the first place. A friend actually constantly bugged me about when I would go..and I finally said okay. Also, I would hate to disappoint the people who are "proud of me" that I am going to college and making something of my life.
Plus, I'm really not sold on online classes... do you really think you'd get to learn as much as you would if you were in campus?
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You can work full time during the summer and part time when school starts. Just find a place close to your Dad's.
You get to stay with Dad. You will be able to afford a computer. You can afford school.
Basically what I just said, though $150 is still a poor budget. Thank God for the Internet and it's cheap goods.
Don't worry about meeting other people's expectations, that's an easy path to depression and misery. You need to take care of yourself first, and make sure that whatever you're doing is for your good and not because someone else expects it of you. The college route doesn't close for a long time, so there's not a lot of pressure to do it right away if it doesn't fit in with the rest of your life. But if it's what you want to do, that's where your choice comes in. I'd suggest talking to your dad about it, he might bring up the possibility of getting a different home, or be able to support you in another way.
I'm seeing two different choices: a) stay with your dad, take a break from school, find a job until you're ready to go back to school, perhaps having a better situation available then; b) continue the weekends and holidays routine and keep going to school now so as to avoid the trouble of restarting attendance.
Unfortunately, it's a choice people online are going to have trouble helping you with. I think you should talk to everyone around you and see what they think, keeping in mind any biases they have, and weigh that in on your own choice.
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It becomes very important to keep track of your own schedule when taking an online class, as there's not as much opportunity for reminders and it can be easy to forget to look at a class's website. Most classes have mailing lists and person-to-person office hours if you need extra help, but for the most part, you need to be able to learn simply by reading.
If you can manage that, though, online classes are wonderful. They don't absorb your time, and it's pretty much take it whenever you have time that week. In my classes that didn't require any in-person time, several of my classmates lived thousands of miles away, so you could handle being not quite as far, I'd think
I suggest getting a job, like most people seem to be doing. Try for something that fits your scheudle, I'm sure someone will understand your situation.
Also, I concur with the "Most colorful thread" comment =P
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