Flavored coffee... blech. Then again... I used to like flavored coffee... and I used to drink only cocktails that were super sweet... and now I like black coffee and whisky neat. >_> I think the flavors grow on you (or at least they do on me) over time if you drink them enough.
In a sustainable world, people who live in climates where coffee can't grow wouldn't drink coffee.... just something to think about for the future.
In a sustainable world, people who live in climates where coffee can't grow wouldn't drink coffee.... just something to think about for the future.
Generally, I'm all for sustainability. In this case I think I could make an exception. That, or figure out a way to make a sustainable greenhouse where I could grow coffee year round, since winter is when you need it most.
@ GG sorry to hear about the wisdom teeth. I had two out a few years back. I know I'll probably need the other two out at some point but, well, it can wait . . . forever I hope.
Is a friend really a friend if they never call or text or make attempts to see you or contact you (even digitally?)
It depends on the person. Some people just don't think to contact other people, and are fine spending time alone.
If they go out of their way to call/text/email/facebook other people, and not you, maybe this person is higher on your list of priorities than you are on theirs.
It always sucks to feel like you're putting in all the friend-effort, but that doesn't necessarily mean the person isn't a friend.
Is a friend really a friend when you tell them something's bothering you and they say ok and ask for no further details nor try to console you?
I think I need a new best gay friend honestly. Mine's defective.
Is a person really a person when you tell them something's bothering you and they say ok and ask for no further details nor try to console you?
>_>
It sounds like your new best gay friend isn't very emotionally or socially competent. Seriously... if your friends question whether or not you are friends in the first place... that's an issue. If you display no empathy whatsoever toward them, that's an issue. Hmm... it also sounds potentially like masculine anti-emotion bravado ********.
How did this person become your new best gay friend anyway? Was he the only gay around?
Is a friend really a friend if they never call or text or make attempts to see you or contact you (even digitally?)
I agree with DD. Some people are introverted; they like to spend time alone, when they are bored they tend to amuse themselves; they tend not to seek out the company of others. It's not a character flaw or a response to you as a person. I am one of those people. I am rarely the person to pick up the phone or organize the get-together.
But like DD said, if he's that way with just you and not everyone else, then that's a sign that he just doesn't care.
Is a friend really a friend when you tell them something's bothering you and they say ok and ask for no further details nor try to console you?
Again, is he like that with everyone? Some people just don't give a crap about other people's feelings, or don't like to talk about emotional stuff, or whatever. But unlike the previous question, this is a character flaw and goes way beyond "thats just how he is", it's more like "is he the kind of person who's worth my time?" If you value the friendship for other reasons, he might be. My good friend is... well he's kind of a dick. He's pretty insensitive when it comes to other people's feelings and he's pretty hypocritical about it. On the other hand, he's generally fun to be around, is very generous, shares a lot of interests, and my life is generally a little better for having him around. I value him as a friend even if his shortcomings piss me off.
If your friend's redeeming qualities do not outweigh the things that bother you about him, then cut him loose.
Question for you: have you told him about his behavior that bothers you? If so, how did he respond?
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DD and Kraj: Well he's not introverted. He sits there and texts and calls and chats with people on phone and facebook whenever I'm visiting. He's extroverted enough for them. When someone else tells him something is wrong he's all "Oh I'm so sorry. Tell me about it how can I help?"
with me it's "K." He's nicer to strangers than he is to me.
I've known him for 3 years that's how he became my best gay friend.
But it's very tiring because I do feel like I'm more of a friend to him than he is to me. He took this semester off of being an RA (resident's assistant) at his dorm so that he could focus on himself. When I asked him if he could hang out this week he said he was "booked" and then I said well we're supposed to hang out Saturday night do you just want to sleep over (not sexually) and he said he couldn't. Doesn't sound much like he's taking much time to himself >_>....
Sometimes it's great though. We go visit my cousins every once in a while and we have a really good time. But as soon as we get back to our town he's off as quickly as possible and doesn't look back. Granted we'd spend 6 hours at with my family but that's once in a blue moon and the disparity between when we're hanging out and when he leaves is disturbing. I really feel like he just doesn't care.
Thanks for the advice. I'll talk to him about it and basically tell him, if he's still being insensitive, "If you want to be my friend and want to hang out with me. Call me. Otherwise you won't hear from me again."
Blue - Did you want someone to talk to, vent on, or whatever about whatever it was that was bothering you that your friend seemed indifferent about? Just thought I'd offer if you did... *shrug*
Anywho, I hope one way or another, you get some resolution to the status of your friendship with said friend.
Lordy...I haven't been able to look in here for days. I work at an afterschool program now and it drains all your physical and emotional energy. Luckily I love the kids and my co-workers are pretty cool. Yesterday I worked with the Kindergarten kids and found out that they know alot more about sex than I did at 5.
I actually have some gay news. *lol* I'm convinced that my friend Ashleigh likes me. She always makes a point to say she isn't gay or even bi but loves it when I...umm..touch her intimately. I'm talking like halfway between second and third base touching btw. She knows I find her attractive and I've been frank about my sexual designs on her body. Yesterday she gave me a kiss and said I love you when I left the card shop and we usually just do a quick hug. Maybe she just needed some emotional reassurance or something or maybe she was sending me a signal. *shrug* I don't really understand women every well. >.< I generally hang out with men and thats sort of socially isolated me from other women. Because of that I've been enjoying Ashleigh's company alot and I'd hate it if she reacted badly to any more aggressive sexual forays on my part.
Giga - take a picture and let's have Spiderboy turn you into a squirrel card. The flavor text can say something like, "Every winter, the Canadian Hermit is the envy of his loyal squirrels. None can match his capacity for handling nuts."
Well, teeth came out, and I feel fine. All is well for me.
Except my face looks like I'm storing nuts for the winter.
I had my wisdom teeth taken out on a Wednesday; my face was numb the rest of the day. Thursday, the painkillers kept things at bay. By Friday, I was feeling pretty chipper, even ready to go back to work. Saturday, I wanted to rip my face off, it hurt SOOOO bad and the drugs weren't helping much.
Giga - take a picture and let's have Spiderboy turn you into a squirrel card. The flavor text can say something like, "Every winter, the Canadian Hermit is the envy of his loyal squirrels. None can match his capacity for handling nuts."
The b/f wanted photographic evidence. He told me I was somewhat hostile about it...
I suppose there are worse things someone could do than dress up like a Shivan Dragon and get it on with someone dressed with like a Ronom Unicorn. Just imagine some of the fun conversations you could have with your lover if you were a MTG Furry. Do you decide particular sexual acts of the evening based on card abilities? Are you hard to get if you're dressed up like something with defender? Are you rough if you have trample?
What's with all the Magic talk? Why would we have a conversation lacking any sort of sexual innuendo or discussion of hot guys? I'm so confused...
2 very random notes, for any interested:
1.) My toe is bleeding, and I don't know why. It doesn't hurt, it's just bleeding around the toenail; quite a bit, actually. 'Tis weird.
2.)I have discovered yet another gay Dwarf named David. That brings the grand total (including myself) to 4 (still have yet to find a straight one named David, BTW). Who would have thunk it?
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In a sustainable world, people who live in climates where coffee can't grow wouldn't drink coffee.... just something to think about for the future.
Ok a few questions:
Is a friend really a friend if they never call or text or make attempts to see you or contact you (even digitally?)
Is a friend really a friend when you tell them something's bothering you and they say ok and ask for no further details nor try to console you?
I think I need a new best gay friend honestly. Mine's defective.
@ GG sorry to hear about the wisdom teeth. I had two out a few years back. I know I'll probably need the other two out at some point but, well, it can wait . . . forever I hope.
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It depends on the person. Some people just don't think to contact other people, and are fine spending time alone.
If they go out of their way to call/text/email/facebook other people, and not you, maybe this person is higher on your list of priorities than you are on theirs.
It always sucks to feel like you're putting in all the friend-effort, but that doesn't necessarily mean the person isn't a friend.
Is a person really a person when you tell them something's bothering you and they say ok and ask for no further details nor try to console you?
>_>
It sounds like your new best gay friend isn't very emotionally or socially competent. Seriously... if your friends question whether or not you are friends in the first place... that's an issue. If you display no empathy whatsoever toward them, that's an issue. Hmm... it also sounds potentially like masculine anti-emotion bravado ********.
How did this person become your new best gay friend anyway? Was he the only gay around?
I agree with DD. Some people are introverted; they like to spend time alone, when they are bored they tend to amuse themselves; they tend not to seek out the company of others. It's not a character flaw or a response to you as a person. I am one of those people. I am rarely the person to pick up the phone or organize the get-together.
But like DD said, if he's that way with just you and not everyone else, then that's a sign that he just doesn't care.
Again, is he like that with everyone? Some people just don't give a crap about other people's feelings, or don't like to talk about emotional stuff, or whatever. But unlike the previous question, this is a character flaw and goes way beyond "thats just how he is", it's more like "is he the kind of person who's worth my time?" If you value the friendship for other reasons, he might be. My good friend is... well he's kind of a dick. He's pretty insensitive when it comes to other people's feelings and he's pretty hypocritical about it. On the other hand, he's generally fun to be around, is very generous, shares a lot of interests, and my life is generally a little better for having him around. I value him as a friend even if his shortcomings piss me off.
If your friend's redeeming qualities do not outweigh the things that bother you about him, then cut him loose.
Question for you: have you told him about his behavior that bothers you? If so, how did he respond?
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She knows why.
with me it's "K." He's nicer to strangers than he is to me.
I've known him for 3 years that's how he became my best gay friend.
But it's very tiring because I do feel like I'm more of a friend to him than he is to me. He took this semester off of being an RA (resident's assistant) at his dorm so that he could focus on himself. When I asked him if he could hang out this week he said he was "booked" and then I said well we're supposed to hang out Saturday night do you just want to sleep over (not sexually) and he said he couldn't. Doesn't sound much like he's taking much time to himself >_>....
Sometimes it's great though. We go visit my cousins every once in a while and we have a really good time. But as soon as we get back to our town he's off as quickly as possible and doesn't look back. Granted we'd spend 6 hours at with my family but that's once in a blue moon and the disparity between when we're hanging out and when he leaves is disturbing. I really feel like he just doesn't care.
Thanks for the advice. I'll talk to him about it and basically tell him, if he's still being insensitive, "If you want to be my friend and want to hang out with me. Call me. Otherwise you won't hear from me again."
Anywho, I hope one way or another, you get some resolution to the status of your friendship with said friend.
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I actually have some gay news. *lol* I'm convinced that my friend Ashleigh likes me. She always makes a point to say she isn't gay or even bi but loves it when I...umm..touch her intimately. I'm talking like halfway between second and third base touching btw. She knows I find her attractive and I've been frank about my sexual designs on her body. Yesterday she gave me a kiss and said I love you when I left the card shop and we usually just do a quick hug. Maybe she just needed some emotional reassurance or something or maybe she was sending me a signal. *shrug* I don't really understand women every well. >.< I generally hang out with men and thats sort of socially isolated me from other women. Because of that I've been enjoying Ashleigh's company alot and I'd hate it if she reacted badly to any more aggressive sexual forays on my part.
Except my face looks like I'm storing nuts for the winter.
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I had my wisdom teeth taken out on a Wednesday; my face was numb the rest of the day. Thursday, the painkillers kept things at bay. By Friday, I was feeling pretty chipper, even ready to go back to work. Saturday, I wanted to rip my face off, it hurt SOOOO bad and the drugs weren't helping much.
So, you may be fine now, but just wait...
The b/f wanted photographic evidence. He told me I was somewhat hostile about it...
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Why wouldn't you want a picture? It's not like you'll ever look like that again.
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Aw. You think that now but honestly you'll be able to look back at the picture for memories. You can say you were experimenting with being a furry.
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A, GG has never experimented with this and that
B, GG does not already have an extensive phtographic and video library of it.
I have to quit drinking soda. I can actually feel how weak my teeth are getting:mad:
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Nah, the whole furry thing ain't for me.
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*evil chuckle*
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I much prefer giving my two headed dragon double strike. If you get me.
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2 very random notes, for any interested:
1.) My toe is bleeding, and I don't know why. It doesn't hurt, it's just bleeding around the toenail; quite a bit, actually. 'Tis weird.
2.)I have discovered yet another gay Dwarf named David. That brings the grand total (including myself) to 4 (still have yet to find a straight one named David, BTW). Who would have thunk it?