We're doing analysis and rebuttals and all sorts of things like that.
The teacher is an absolute idiot, telling us what we SHOULDN'T do, and then she'll sit and talk about her personal life for the last 45 minutes of class.
Yeah, drama. We're speaking now, but I'm still not quite ready to forgive him. I feel like I'm being a ***** to him, but I'm not going to lie and pretend everything is okay when it really isn't. You know?
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Bleh... well, today sucked. Props go to Mr. Idiot for shouting out "Greg's openly gay" during life drawing. Of course I denied it, and make of that what you will, but it was rather demeaning to have it happen in bunch of some six-formers, from both the boys and girls schools, whom I actually like. :/ I left asap as soon as the lesson ended, and since one of the girls who shares my coach normally didn't get on, I probably won't be seeing anyone until Wednesday, so it'll have some time to cool. What's extra annoying is that this guy has done it before, and just doesn't show any respect for my privacy.
You let him get a big rise out of you, which is probably why he keeps doing it. I think a lot of people have at times denied their sexuality, so I wouldn't be too embarassed by that. If this guy bothers you that much, though, you should probably speak to a principal or teacher about it so that even if he doesn't stop, he gets smacked with harassment every time he does it.
Bleh... well, today sucked. Props go to Mr. Idiot for shouting out "Greg's openly gay" during life drawing. Of course I denied it, and make of that what you will, but it was rather demeaning to have it happen in bunch of some six-formers, from both the boys and girls schools, whom I actually like. :/ I left asap as soon as the lesson ended, and since one of the girls who shares my coach normally didn't get on, I probably won't be seeing anyone until Wednesday, so it'll have some time to cool. What's extra annoying is that this guy has done it before, and just doesn't show any respect for my privacy.
Seriously though. You're the only one that this bothers. Everyone else would be fine with it if you were just fine with it. the more uncomfortable it makes you the more uncomfortable it makes them. The more you get used to it the more they get used to it. You don't need to go to the principal or a teacher to stop this. You just need to accept who you are and stop being afraid of it. That guy in your class may have had many different reasons for saying the things he did. The thing is that you can't know why. you always seem to run away from the problem and never get close enough to solve it let alone analyze it. Stop running.
He said you were gay. YOU ARE GAY. You know that! If you truly know that then it doesn't matter any more. OMG he told the truth! Honestly look at it like that. He's telling the truth. And you lied. Whether what he did or not was right doesn't matter. He was being honest and you weren't.
Then tell people you don't know if you are or not. That's the best way to play it safe. Say, "look I'm trying to figure out who I am. I want to know if I am or not and i'm not sure. It'd be a lot easier for me if you'd just leave me alone about it cuz I don't see how it concerns you in the first place."
I too know the angst of not being able to control exactly who does and doesn't know. But it's something that you have the power to interpret. Don't use your age as an excuse for this. You'll be doing it forever. And if you haven't figured it out when you're 20 you can't use age anymore. It'll turn into "I'm still young"
You don't have to worry about it. You'll figure it out. Let him know that you might be and you might not. You don't know yet. And you'd appreciate it if he didn't make the rush judgments and you'll try not to either.
Do you not tell people because you don't know how they'll react or you don't know how you'll react or you don't know if you're gay or not?
if you don't know then don't tell people you're gay. Tell them you're thinking you might be. Just remember that whatever you've said in the past will be highly scrutinized if you KEEP changing your story. Figure it out on your own but when you've figured it out don't try hiding it. It's harder in the long run since people will already think it about you anyways.
Then tell people you don't know if you are or not. That's the best way to play it safe. Say, "look I'm trying to figure out who I am. I want to know if I am or not and i'm not sure. It'd be a lot easier for me if you'd just leave me alone about it cuz I don't see how it concerns you in the first place."
Pretty much. Other than that, there's not much you can say. It doesn't guarantee anything, but it's the only way to approach the situation that doesn't make things worse.
I too know the angst of not being able to control exactly who does and doesn't know.
I experienced that for about a day or two. Then I realized that the control I thought I had over who knew or not was all an illusion. Fact is, once someone even suspects, you have no real control over who will know unless you take it upon yourself to make sure everyone knows.
if you don't know then don't tell people you're gay.
For real. Not exactly something you can take back with any success, really.
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I'm gonna make this short and sweet.
I'll be reading the forums, but probably not posting for a bit.
Hi everyone. I'm new here and am quite frankly just procrastinating my classes and assignments at this point. Haven't been able to read up on all of your posts and such so I can't contribute much yet. Not sure if I'll be able to contribute much seeing as how University life and work have killed my ability to remain conscious.
Hey, it's kind of a contribute whatever you want kind of place here. A nice starting point would be to introduce yourself. And it's a bit of a lethargic clan lately, so no worries about not adding a whole lot.
I'm Matt. Currently a University Student from Canada. I work at the University's Student Union Building Arcade... I draft there regularly with co-workers and friends so if you're in the area come out and play
Main purpose of me coming here is to get more action... uh, in terms of Magic of course... ... ...
I'm Matt. Currently a University Student from Canada. I work at the University's Student Union Building Arcade... I draft there regularly with co-workers and friends so if you're in the area come out and play
Main purpose of me coming here is to get more action... uh, in terms of Magic of course... ... ...
I'll stop now.
Psh. More action. Indeed. Well played sir. Well played.
Welcome to the illustrious clan. Hope you like Pink. It's sort of a motif we've got going on. Pink and beanbag chairs. Plus, if you're into it, lots of hot guys.
Psh. More action. Indeed. Well played sir. Well played.
Welcome to the illustrious clan. Hope you like Pink. It's sort of a motif we've got going on. Pink and beanbag chairs. Plus, if you're into it, lots of hot guys.
Where is this pink? No one even (Thank God) posts in pink font.
Where is this pink? No one even (Thank God) posts in pink font.
Mostly in Micah's head, apparently. And word on the pleasant lack of pink fonts.
Welcome, Matt. I hope you enjoy it here, though honestly Gaymers isn't exactly the best clan in terms of Magic discussion (it rarely comes up and quite quickly dies off when it does), though it is a great social environment. Especially for LGBT and LGBT-friendly posters. Or anyone who loves hot guys.
though honestly Gaymers isn't exactly the best clan in terms of Magic discussion
Seriously. There's a disheartening lack of hot guys on Magic cards. I know we're not exactly the "target demographic", but think about it: as kids/teenagers pretty much everyone's ability to buy cards is based on what their parents give them. As adults, though, it's the gays who have the cash (because we're not giving it to our kids to buy Magic cards ) so pander to the homo's already! C'Mon, everyone else is doing it...
I think someone should do the magic card post thing. I would, but the library computers don't give me enough time.
It's friggin' hard. I just sifted through the Ravnica Block visual spoilers and found not one art that panders to the 'mos. Plenty of "tits and cooters", though.
Best one I know off the top of my head is Gift of the Woods. (version 2)
Even in Magic guys shave their chests =\ Usually when I'm looking at Mtg cards, it's not with the intent to find a good-looking guy, so I can't help out too much.
Pink - Two years ago, when it was the "in" thing, I thought it was too forced, and still only looked good on Metro's.
Beanbag Chairs - Only if they have microfibre covers that match the rest of the room.
Hot men - Yes, yes, and yes!
Gift of the Woods 2 - Not quite my type... but I do see the virtues
But yeah... not many cards come to mind... Maybe Maraxus of Keld if you like the whole Muscle and body-pierced-cape thing...
Pink - Two years ago, when it was the "in" thing, I thought it was too forced, and still only looked good on Metro's.
Honestly, I don't think it even looked good then. Though a friend of mine tries to pull off the pink thing all the time. It's his thing. And straight as an arrow, if you can believe it.
The teacher is an absolute idiot, telling us what we SHOULDN'T do, and then she'll sit and talk about her personal life for the last 45 minutes of class.
Yeah, drama. We're speaking now, but I'm still not quite ready to forgive him. I feel like I'm being a ***** to him, but I'm not going to lie and pretend everything is okay when it really isn't. You know?
I know it seems that I don't care,
but something in me does I swear.
[gaymers]
founder of the MTGS Forum Pirates
'tar/banner by R&Doom.
You let him get a big rise out of you, which is probably why he keeps doing it. I think a lot of people have at times denied their sexuality, so I wouldn't be too embarassed by that. If this guy bothers you that much, though, you should probably speak to a principal or teacher about it so that even if he doesn't stop, he gets smacked with harassment every time he does it.
Seriously though. You're the only one that this bothers. Everyone else would be fine with it if you were just fine with it. the more uncomfortable it makes you the more uncomfortable it makes them. The more you get used to it the more they get used to it. You don't need to go to the principal or a teacher to stop this. You just need to accept who you are and stop being afraid of it. That guy in your class may have had many different reasons for saying the things he did. The thing is that you can't know why. you always seem to run away from the problem and never get close enough to solve it let alone analyze it. Stop running.
He said you were gay. YOU ARE GAY. You know that! If you truly know that then it doesn't matter any more. OMG he told the truth! Honestly look at it like that. He's telling the truth. And you lied. Whether what he did or not was right doesn't matter. He was being honest and you weren't.
I too know the angst of not being able to control exactly who does and doesn't know. But it's something that you have the power to interpret. Don't use your age as an excuse for this. You'll be doing it forever. And if you haven't figured it out when you're 20 you can't use age anymore. It'll turn into "I'm still young"
You don't have to worry about it. You'll figure it out. Let him know that you might be and you might not. You don't know yet. And you'd appreciate it if he didn't make the rush judgments and you'll try not to either.
Do you not tell people because you don't know how they'll react or you don't know how you'll react or you don't know if you're gay or not?
if you don't know then don't tell people you're gay. Tell them you're thinking you might be. Just remember that whatever you've said in the past will be highly scrutinized if you KEEP changing your story. Figure it out on your own but when you've figured it out don't try hiding it. It's harder in the long run since people will already think it about you anyways.
I'll be reading the forums, but probably not posting for a bit.
If you wanna talk, catch me on AIM or PM me.
talk to you kids later.
I know it seems that I don't care,
but something in me does I swear.
[gaymers]
founder of the MTGS Forum Pirates
'tar/banner by R&Doom.
Pretty much. Other than that, there's not much you can say. It doesn't guarantee anything, but it's the only way to approach the situation that doesn't make things worse.
I experienced that for about a day or two. Then I realized that the control I thought I had over who knew or not was all an illusion. Fact is, once someone even suspects, you have no real control over who will know unless you take it upon yourself to make sure everyone knows.
For real. Not exactly something you can take back with any success, really.
Hmmm, ominous.
Hope things are okay.
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So um... for now... Hi everyone.
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I'm Matt. Currently a University Student from Canada. I work at the University's Student Union Building Arcade... I draft there regularly with co-workers and friends so if you're in the area come out and play
Main purpose of me coming here is to get more action... uh, in terms of Magic of course... ... ...
I'll stop now.
Current New Favorite Person™: Mallory Archer
She knows why.
Psh. More action. Indeed. Well played sir. Well played.
Welcome to the illustrious clan. Hope you like Pink. It's sort of a motif we've got going on. Pink and beanbag chairs. Plus, if you're into it, lots of hot guys.
Where is this pink? No one even (Thank God) posts in pink font.
Indeed. Have a seat, Matt.
Like me!
Current New Favorite Person™: Mallory Archer
She knows why.
Mostly in Micah's head, apparently. And word on the pleasant lack of pink fonts.
Welcome, Matt. I hope you enjoy it here, though honestly Gaymers isn't exactly the best clan in terms of Magic discussion (it rarely comes up and quite quickly dies off when it does), though it is a great social environment. Especially for LGBT and LGBT-friendly posters. Or anyone who loves hot guys.
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Katingal: Plane of Chains
Says the guy with the pink text in his siggy.
Seriously. There's a disheartening lack of hot guys on Magic cards. I know we're not exactly the "target demographic", but think about it: as kids/teenagers pretty much everyone's ability to buy cards is based on what their parents give them. As adults, though, it's the gays who have the cash (because we're not giving it to our kids to buy Magic cards ) so pander to the homo's already! C'Mon, everyone else is doing it...
Current New Favorite Person™: Mallory Archer
She knows why.
I ....... shut up.
I'd do a multi-card-linked post of many cards with hot guys on them, but I'm really, really lazy.
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My avatar is about the gayest thing imaginable, though.
At least, without it actually being gay.
ANYWAY.
I think someone should do the magic card post thing. I would, but the library computers don't give me enough time.
It's friggin' hard. I just sifted through the Ravnica Block visual spoilers and found not one art that panders to the 'mos. Plenty of "tits and cooters", though.
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Probably there are a couple of dozen total, at most.
Whereas, arts with busty females are definitely present in much higher quantity.
Current New Favorite Person™: Mallory Archer
She knows why.
Even in Magic guys shave their chests =\ Usually when I'm looking at Mtg cards, it's not with the intent to find a good-looking guy, so I can't help out too much.
I know, I find it distressing, too.
Congrats on the moderatorship, by the way. You'll do great.
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Beanbag Chairs - Only if they have microfibre covers that match the rest of the room.
Hot men - Yes, yes, and yes!
Gift of the Woods 2 - Not quite my type... but I do see the virtues
But yeah... not many cards come to mind... Maybe Maraxus of Keld if you like the whole Muscle and body-pierced-cape thing...
Honestly, I don't think it even looked good then. Though a friend of mine tries to pull off the pink thing all the time. It's his thing. And straight as an arrow, if you can believe it.
You'll fit in just fine.
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Quest for the Forsaken (Set Two of the Excellion Block)
Katingal: Plane of Chains
Current New Favorite Person™: Mallory Archer
She knows why.