You're not familiar with the concept of obsession, are you?
Apparently not, sire.
I'm just pointing out sometimes porn does **** up lives and relationships. That doesn't seem to be a danger here, but it must be acknowledged that it is not always not a problem.
Yes, but obsession can happen to anything, porn or not.
For every relationship broken up by porn, I bet just as many go down to gambling, collectibles, drugs, or anything else, because a person can obsess over anything, not just porn.
Actually, the point of this thread isn't about his girlfriend being reasonable, it's about what Zyrakis can do to kick his habit of looking at pornography.
By the way, Zyrakis, I applaud the fact that you weren't too embarrassed to bring it up.
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I disagree. I think that the fact is that what you are obsessing over is critically important to what the results will be. Obsessing over pr0n in many womens' eyes is akin to obsessing over other women, reasonably or not. The fact is that a minor interest in pr0n is far more likely to damage your relationship than a great deal of interest in most other things, with the exceptions of drugs or gambling, which are universally considered to be detrimental once they leave your ability to control.
(Sorry for the bold text...but I want to head off the dozens of replies wherein people say, "Alcohol is just as bad for you as maryjuana!!!11!!")
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But I'm not talking about the level or depth of the obsession or interest, I'm merely saying that if a person pays too much attention to anything (whatever "too much attention may be. For some, it may be five minutes of porn. For others, it might be a half ounce of pot.) it can damage the relationship.
All of the people here posting as if their definition of cheating matters more than Zyrakius' girlfriend's definition does are not being very helpful at all =/
All of the people here posting as if their definition of cheating matters more than Zyrakius' girlfriend's definition does are not being very helpful at all =/
Yeah, true. I was hoping my input on quitting a habit might help, but . . . he doesn't even appear to have been here for some time . . .
I guess it's easy to forget that this thread is about Zyrakis asking for support, not a debate thread about porn (which is similar to what you pointed out).
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Yes, they are. Those people are helping define what is a reasonable benchmark for cheating, and by extension whether or not Zyrakris' GF has a legitimate concern or is a crazy ***** who he needs to get away from while he still has the bits he values. And since nobody is all "What do you mean, a blow job counts as cheating? Those chastity pledgers don't count it as sex!", I think they're doing a fair job.
The thing is she's not accusing him of cheating, really. She thinks pornography is harmful and would rather him quit what she feels is an unhealthy habit because of her feelings for him. That's the issue at hand.
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Lol, here's an idea. I saw it on a episode of "That 70's show" once ....
If you are sexually active with her, make your own porn. If she's okay with it, have her pose and such. That way you're looking at her and not some random person.
So to speak. But hadn't we already determined that why she thinks it's harmful to their relationship is because she should be enough for him?
Not according to what Zyrakis said.
Even then, deciding that porn isn't cheating still doesn't help Zyrakis quit (which is why he asked for support), nor does it help whatever problem there is in their relationship.
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It'd be nice if I or someone else could just close this thread. Really guys, I've gotten all the help I needed. Just drop it already, please? I'd rather go without people calling my girlfriend "a crazy ***** who I need to get away from" or whatever else, but I suppose I brought it upon myself when I came looking for help with the wrong topic in the wrong place- though really, I didn't have much of a choice.
The bottom line is, please just drop it. The thread's point is dead.
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Getting the last word does not mean that you win the argument.
It'd be nice if I or someone else could just close this thread. Really guys, I've gotten all the help I needed. Just drop it already, please? I'd rather go without people calling my girlfriend "a crazy ***** who I need to get away from" or whatever else, but I suppose I brought it upon myself when I came looking for help with the wrong topic in the wrong place- though really, I didn't have much of a choice.
The bottom line is, please just drop it. The thread's point is dead.
Apparently not, sire.
Yes, but obsession can happen to anything, porn or not.
For every relationship broken up by porn, I bet just as many go down to gambling, collectibles, drugs, or anything else, because a person can obsess over anything, not just porn.
"Obsessing is dangerous to a relationship."
By the way, Zyrakis, I applaud the fact that you weren't too embarrassed to bring it up.
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But I'm not talking about the level or depth of the obsession or interest, I'm merely saying that if a person pays too much attention to anything (whatever "too much attention may be. For some, it may be five minutes of porn. For others, it might be a half ounce of pot.) it can damage the relationship.
Do you think that it's common enough, though, that the OP's girlfriend's concern is that he is obsessing over it?
Yeah, true. I was hoping my input on quitting a habit might help, but . . . he doesn't even appear to have been here for some time . . .
I guess it's easy to forget that this thread is about Zyrakis asking for support, not a debate thread about porn (which is similar to what you pointed out).
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The thing is she's not accusing him of cheating, really. She thinks pornography is harmful and would rather him quit what she feels is an unhealthy habit because of her feelings for him. That's the issue at hand.
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All that I yearn for, for richer or poorer, is to fill your heart on my own.
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If you are sexually active with her, make your own porn. If she's okay with it, have her pose and such. That way you're looking at her and not some random person.
Just an idea. Please don't flame me.
Not according to what Zyrakis said.
Even then, deciding that porn isn't cheating still doesn't help Zyrakis quit (which is why he asked for support), nor does it help whatever problem there is in their relationship.
All that I yearn for, for richer or poorer, is to be the peace that you feel.
All that I yearn for, for richer or poorer, is to fill your heart on my own.
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The bottom line is, please just drop it. The thread's point is dead.
Sure thing.