Actually, I hate to nitpick, but I rather think you did imply it.
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I'm not really sure whether I am gay*
That's implying that you at least are considering the possibility that you might be.
*I de-censored the word because I, personally, think it's far from derogatory, and no-one really seems to mind. 'tis a personal choice, and by no means assume I'm pressuring you to do the same.
I love my new laptop! I can post at my Dad's house now and do all kinds of sexy things with my webcam... okay not really, I don't think anyone wants to see my this skinny with a gnarly scar on me
Stil though, I love it
Trenton. I'm confident that it wouldn't be social suicide for you. You of all people should be able to handle the repurcussions. It's a risk but I have faith in you. Does Mr. secretloverpersondude also have that strength?
Well that's the thing. We share a group of friends, and I think something like this could send shockwaves through our group... Most of them are pretty 'typical high-schooler guys' and would undoubtedly shun us. Luckily, thewo of us are pretty tough, so we could take them in a fight
So? **** 'em. Trust me, there's worse things than being shunned by people you won't ever see again in a few years. No use being popular if you can't be happy at the same time.
That's the main thing though. Do I want to go through high school with a tag though? I'm not really sure if it's worth it. My friend and I can still hang out and 'do stuff', but for now it seems school is off limits.
but yeah, we're gonna 'date' on april fools day and pass it off as a joke
That's the main thing though. Do I want to go through high school with a tag though? I'm not really sure if it's worth it.
I would say that it is, but that judgment call is up to you. In my experience, everyone is tagged with something in high school, so it really doesn't matter. I wouldn't let the fear of what people might say keep me from doing something I wanted. Mostly because the opinions of people I don't care about and the labels they might give me aren't even blips on my radar.
I would say that it is, but that judgment call is up to you. In my experience, everyone is tagged with something in high school, so it really doesn't matter. I wouldn't let the fear of what people might say keep me from doing something I wanted. Mostly because the opinions of people I don't care about and the labels they might give me aren't even blips on my radar.
What you say about tags is true, but some are easier to deal with than others. Some are impossible to shake, like the "Sl*t" tag and such. I could give less of a damn about the people that I don't care aout. They're free to think whatever they want, but I'm afraid of close friends whom I actually DO care about.
What you say about tags is true, but some are easier to deal with than others. Some are impossible to shake, like the "Sl*t" tag and such.
I never tried to shake it (well at first, but once I realized it was futile, I gave up on it), I owned it. If I was going to be labelled, I might as well live up to the reputation. It really only matters what you think, anyway. Tags be damned.
And pssst, don't evade the censor.
I could give less of a damn about the people that I don't care aout. They're free to think whatever they want, but I'm afraid of close friends whom I actually DO care about.
I know about that fear all too well. And I can't even say it was unwarranted. I lost friends. But in the end, if my orientation was such a problem, we couldn't have been too close. It hurt and it sucked, but I think I'm better off for it. I can be sure that the friends that stuck around are the ones who actually cared and the ones that didn't probably didn't care about me as much as I did them.
So, yeah, I completely get where you're coming from. I can't even say that it's wrong to let that fear stop you. It's really just something that you have to decide whether the reward is worth the risk.
Anyways, the gay marriage dispute is rough here in Alberta. We're headed by neocons so It's always a losing battle
In other news, I hate the fact that If I were to go out with a guy right now (as in high school) you'd be committing social suicide. A good friend of mine and I are both into each other, but the reality is that it just wouldn't ****ing work. Gawdamn...
Why not do it, Trenton?
I think that you'll be okay with your friends. Here's the scenario. Either:
They "like" you, then learn that you're bisexual, and shun you. In that case, you lost the friendship of people who could not stomach one of the most personal parts of your personality. Then I would say that those people never really cared about you, since they don't care to know you. However, I'm sure it would still hurt, if nothing else because they weren't completely honest with you.
Or:
They genuinely care for you, and even if they find the idea of you going out with a guy to be distasteful and simply accept it and leave the whole thing alone, then you know that you have real friends.
So, here's a possible way of thinking about it: it's a question of deciding whether or not you want to be friends with people who you think you can't be honest with.
And I don't presume to know the best way, but I hope and feel for you.
Help has come in the form of a bit of basic algebra. I feel that it'll shed some light on your problem here.
Basically:
S + T = W
...S in this case stands for 'spam' and the T stands for 'light trolling'. And the W? That stands for 'Warning'. I love math. -- {mikeyG}
Hm Trenton. You could probably try dating him on the down low for a while. If it was something you felt like you needed to share with people then sure go ahead and say something about it. I don't see the harm in just enjoying what you guys have if there's no guilt about it not being out in public all the time.
I'll tell you something though. I used to hate it when people didn't like a part of my personality or anything that I was. Someone once called me too girly for him to date me. I'm actually not girly. And when he said it I stopped caring about him. It was an instant change from having emotions for him and wanting him to like me to having no emotions for him at all and no longer caring what he thought. I'd been talking to him for about 2 months too so it wasn't like I didn't have anything invested in the relationship.
I think it kind of applies to your situation too. It's not a full enough explanation to say "They weren't your friends to begin with." More thoroughly you should no longer give a crap what they think. Truly you have nothing to lose for saying something about yourself that you feel needs to be said. Because the same instant that they dislike you for something about your personality is the instant you realize that their opinion is worth less than dirt.
We already know you're a cool guy. We already know you're capable of thinking in a way that sets you apart from the general mass of useless human flesh that congregates in most high schools. You have the capactiy to understand yourself better than anyone. And your opinion of yourself is the only thing that matters in the first place. Other people be damned. Sure it sucks to be alone. But it's better to be alone than it is to fake happiness amongst people that may or may not be your friends. I wouldn't say anything until you have to (by your standard of when it's necessary). But when you do, when you're ready, you'll understand that no matter who leaves you there will always be someone better to replace them. I'm not saying to look at the "coming out" as this epic event that will define you for the rest of your life. It's just that you'll have the opportunity at that juncture to keep going smoothly or even jar a little and find new friends that will accept you as you are (being open with them at the outset).
For a teenager, yes it's hard to get past the search for peer acceptance. Other people may not be as strong as you and will view their association with you as weakening their own social status amongst people that they believe to be important. You're not there to impress anyone and you know you don't give a damn about what anyone says. Your friends will stick by you. The people that dissociate from you just aren't as strong as you. You can't help that. Leave them. Remember some good times and things you've shared but know that they don't really want to know you for who you truly are.
Actually, I hate to nitpick, but I rather think you did imply it.
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Originally Posted by Magic Mage, this thread I'm not really sure whether I am gay*
That's implying that you at least are considering the possibility that you might be.
Well, maybe that was the intent, to imply that I was.^_^ There's a possibility [for something or other or other or other...?], as I see that there is a periphery to homo- and heterosexuality. I may have implied it, but I could just be a hetero member.:) Hopefully, you will understand.
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Hahaha I said the exact same thing when I joined the gaymers. Hehe, not that I mean to scare you off or anything
...errr, I'm confuddled.:confused2: Um, meanwhile, can I just be a not-so-straight-not-so-queer friend of the Gaymers?
What's that supposed to mean anyway, PurpleD?
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And pssst, don't evade the censor.
And pssst, don't " ' " ' " ' ".;) (No, that wasn't Morse code.^_^) The term here is something, hmmm.
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*I de-censored the word because I, personally, think it's far from derogatory, and no-one really seems to mind. 'tis a personal choice, and by no means assume I'm pressuring you to do the same.
Thank you for respecting my right to censor the word "***".:)
Since when is slot a bad word? Psh... mods these days
So, yeah, I completely get where you're coming from. I can't even say that it's wrong to let that fear stop you. It's really just something that you have to decide whether the reward is worth the risk.
Which is exactly what I'm trying to do. I keep thinking about the pros and the cons.
Keeping in mind that he and I havent really discussed this in detail yet. We just talked about if/how it would work and what repercussions we'd face. It's definately not set in stone yet.
So, here's a possible way of thinking about it: it's a question of deciding whether or not you want to be friends with people who you think you can't be honest with.
And I don't presume to know the best way, but I hope and feel for you.
~~Nick
Well when you put it that way...
The main thing is that If I ever did 'come out', The key thing to keeping at least some friends is to assure them that I'm the same ****ing guy. I'd have to explain that I've been bi the entire time, and they didnt know about it, so It really makes no difference. Oh, and I'd have to assure them that I don't hit on straight guys... usually.
Hm Trenton. You could probably try dating him on the down low for a while. If it was something you felt like you needed to share with people then sure go ahead and say something about it. I don't see the harm in just enjoying what you guys have if there's no guilt about it not being out in public all the time.
That's pretty much what's going on now. The only thing with public places is that (this brings a whole new aspect into it) I definately dont want my parents finding anything out yet.
Anyways, Thanks for the input, everyone! I've definately decided on how I can do certain things, but I'm stil far away from a decision. I don't want to hog the spotlight any longer though
On another note, do you mind if I whore us out and try to get some members from another forum that I lurk on?
Help has come in the form of a bit of basic algebra. I feel that it'll shed some light on your problem here.
Basically:
S + T = W
...S in this case stands for 'spam' and the T stands for 'light trolling'. And the W? That stands for 'Warning'. I love math. -- {mikeyG}
A little about myself:
I'm a gay male in ninth grade. I haven't really come out to anybody else yet, although I'm sure its inevitable to be soon. I suppose a few people have been able to guess, but other than that. :slant: I got interested in gaymers because, well, they seemed cool.
My interests: Reading, music, mtg, politics, and patrolling the tubes.
I'm fine with whoring, Trenton. More members is always a good thing. So long as they post reasonably often and don't make asses of themselves.
See, that is the problem is it not? Look at people such as myself, i post infrequently, tho' about every second day is about right, and i constantly make an ass out of myself.
As i told Micah and Mikey, one of my closest and oldest friends, just came out to me about... an hour or two ago. It's interesting, but not nothing much will change because of it. Interestingday atleast.
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Help has come in the form of a bit of basic algebra. I feel that it'll shed some light on your problem here.
Basically:
S + T = W
...S in this case stands for 'spam' and the T stands for 'light trolling'. And the W? That stands for 'Warning'. I love math. -- {mikeyG}
Well now that i think of it, my fool-dom is lacking in recent days. Give me some time and ill end up doing something to make an ass out of myself, you just watch ;).
Btw micah: mmmmm Pink
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"The Critics always said that we'd only have a black president when pigs flu"...
I've become pretty obsessed with Baten Kaitos, which I attribute my lack of posting to. It's a pretty fun single-player RPG with terrible voice-acting, for anyone thats interested.
Okay, whoever decided to combine advanced calculus, linear algebra, circular graph theory, and programming, then made it a required course, needs to get a rusty cheesegrater crammed up his AS for my actual post...
Thanks for all the perspectives on dating. I'm definitely not looking for sex (well, purely just sex :P) and the parts with the MSN conversations are just to show my history. I took a step and after several more coffee dates, asked him if he was at all interested, and he told me that he wasn't on the market at this current point. Guess it's back to being patient and waiting for a good boat to fly by (go Airships?)
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Magic Mage:
Are you unsure of what you like? Or unsure of if you like? There's a slight difference. And really, from what I gather (and my involvement with GLBTQBlahBlahBlahAcronymCLubs), the list isn't exclusive so even if you aren't, but are in a supporting position, you have a place here.
Also, if I'm not mistaken, I believe you asked why T's are here. This can be seen from several perspectives:
A) Socially unaccepted sexual orientation has forced them into being something more accepted, so their origins started out as a G/L
B) A lot of the time, GLBTQ organizations are for those who are uncertain of where they belong (much like your current state if I'm not wrong). Some people are born sexually ambiguous and face the same discrimination (sometimes less based on the premise they were born that way and can't help it, and sometimes worse based on the premise that they're so abnormal.)
C) Sex and Gender are different things. I know of someone who was born male, had the operation, and now identifies herself as a lesbian. Studies have shown that some people feel really strongly that they were born and grew as the wrong sex, but feel their gender role remains the same. Several incidents have occured (to the point where documentries aren't uncommon) so even after an operation, their orientation is still homosexual in nature.
The list goes on. T can stand for Transvestites, Transgendered, Transexual... I think the acronym just attempts an all-inclusive stance.
Also, I understand the awkwardness of using the word "gay" and "homosexual" et cetera. Many places have made those words taboo and it's rather hard to change the values taught while growing up. Just remember that unless people use it, the situation won't change and it will always be looked down upon. You also shouldn't use them if you're not ready though so that'll be up to you.
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Lots more to say, but more studies need to be done... go mid-term-cram!
So I decided that after a brief rest, it was time to return to the man-flesh parade known as the HGOtW. I thought it would be nice to continue the 'The Boys of ..." series and I even settled on a show; Battlestar Galactica. Beyond being a really good show, there's plenty of hot guys frakking around. But I stumbled upon a problem.
And his name is Jamie Bamber.
You see, he plays Lee Adama on the show, son of Admiral Adama and an altogether studly hero. And once upon a time, he was featured in a lot of those Horatio Hornblower (a name so unabashedly gay that it never ceases to make me chuckle when I hear it) flicks back in the day. And he is deeply attractive. So much so that I lost interest in assembling a tester's platter of Galactica's other resident man-candies. But no matter, I mused, I'll just do a Bamber-specific HGOtW. And so here we are.
As I did a bit of research into the man, I found several points that pinged my gaydar to 'intrigued eyebrow'. He does a lot of stage plays, has seemingly never had a public relationship, has done interviews with both Out and Playgirl magazines, has quite the massive gay following and has fantastic taste in clothes if his frequent convention visits are anything to go by. Anecdotal at best, but still, I was both suspicous and a little bit giddy. Then I found out he was British, which explained everything.
Anyway, watch Battlestar Galactica. It's a great show, and even though they currently have Jamie Bamber in a fat suit, there's still other hot guys to gawk at in between crazy Cylon stuff, harrowing battles and deep socio-political messages. You know, if you're into boring **** like that.
Mikey's questioning our relationship again. Why does he always do this? I don't understand...
I made a post in my LJ commenting on the fact that it was nice to talk to a theater major about feeling overwhelmed and all that. Mikey and I talked about it, but he just doesn't quite understand, not being a theater major himself. It was nice to know I'm not alone, is all, and I guess somehow he twisted it to mean that I don't think he's important or special to me anymore.
Which isn't true...I couldn't live without Mikey. Sounds silly, I know, but it's true. I love him more than anything in the world, I don't want anyone but him.
[[sighs]]
Only 14 more days until he's here.
Now I'm scared. Off to my scene shop hours, I guess...
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That's implying that you at least are considering the possibility that you might be.
*I de-censored the word because I, personally, think it's far from derogatory, and no-one really seems to mind. 'tis a personal choice, and by no means assume I'm pressuring you to do the same.
Stil though, I love it
Well that's the thing. We share a group of friends, and I think something like this could send shockwaves through our group... Most of them are pretty 'typical high-schooler guys' and would undoubtedly shun us. Luckily, thewo of us are pretty tough, so we could take them in a fight
That's the main thing though. Do I want to go through high school with a tag though? I'm not really sure if it's worth it. My friend and I can still hang out and 'do stuff', but for now it seems school is off limits.
but yeah, we're gonna 'date' on april fools day and pass it off as a joke
Hahaha I said the exact same thing when I joined the gaymers. Hehe, not that I mean to scare you off or anything
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I would say that it is, but that judgment call is up to you. In my experience, everyone is tagged with something in high school, so it really doesn't matter. I wouldn't let the fear of what people might say keep me from doing something I wanted. Mostly because the opinions of people I don't care about and the labels they might give me aren't even blips on my radar.
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What you say about tags is true, but some are easier to deal with than others. Some are impossible to shake, like the "Sl*t" tag and such. I could give less of a damn about the people that I don't care aout. They're free to think whatever they want, but I'm afraid of close friends whom I actually DO care about.
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What you say about tags is true, but some are easier to deal with than others. Some are impossible to shake, like the "Sl*t" tag and such.
I never tried to shake it (well at first, but once I realized it was futile, I gave up on it), I owned it. If I was going to be labelled, I might as well live up to the reputation. It really only matters what you think, anyway. Tags be damned.
And pssst, don't evade the censor.
I know about that fear all too well. And I can't even say it was unwarranted. I lost friends. But in the end, if my orientation was such a problem, we couldn't have been too close. It hurt and it sucked, but I think I'm better off for it. I can be sure that the friends that stuck around are the ones who actually cared and the ones that didn't probably didn't care about me as much as I did them.
So, yeah, I completely get where you're coming from. I can't even say that it's wrong to let that fear stop you. It's really just something that you have to decide whether the reward is worth the risk.
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Why not do it, Trenton?
I think that you'll be okay with your friends. Here's the scenario. Either:
They "like" you, then learn that you're bisexual, and shun you. In that case, you lost the friendship of people who could not stomach one of the most personal parts of your personality. Then I would say that those people never really cared about you, since they don't care to know you. However, I'm sure it would still hurt, if nothing else because they weren't completely honest with you.
Or:
They genuinely care for you, and even if they find the idea of you going out with a guy to be distasteful and simply accept it and leave the whole thing alone, then you know that you have real friends.
So, here's a possible way of thinking about it: it's a question of deciding whether or not you want to be friends with people who you think you can't be honest with.
And I don't presume to know the best way, but I hope and feel for you.
~~Nick
Help has come in the form of a bit of basic algebra. I feel that it'll shed some light on your problem here.
Basically:
S + T = W
...S in this case stands for 'spam' and the T stands for 'light trolling'. And the W? That stands for 'Warning'. I love math. -- {mikeyG}
I'll tell you something though. I used to hate it when people didn't like a part of my personality or anything that I was. Someone once called me too girly for him to date me. I'm actually not girly. And when he said it I stopped caring about him. It was an instant change from having emotions for him and wanting him to like me to having no emotions for him at all and no longer caring what he thought. I'd been talking to him for about 2 months too so it wasn't like I didn't have anything invested in the relationship.
I think it kind of applies to your situation too. It's not a full enough explanation to say "They weren't your friends to begin with." More thoroughly you should no longer give a crap what they think. Truly you have nothing to lose for saying something about yourself that you feel needs to be said. Because the same instant that they dislike you for something about your personality is the instant you realize that their opinion is worth less than dirt.
We already know you're a cool guy. We already know you're capable of thinking in a way that sets you apart from the general mass of useless human flesh that congregates in most high schools. You have the capactiy to understand yourself better than anyone. And your opinion of yourself is the only thing that matters in the first place. Other people be damned. Sure it sucks to be alone. But it's better to be alone than it is to fake happiness amongst people that may or may not be your friends. I wouldn't say anything until you have to (by your standard of when it's necessary). But when you do, when you're ready, you'll understand that no matter who leaves you there will always be someone better to replace them. I'm not saying to look at the "coming out" as this epic event that will define you for the rest of your life. It's just that you'll have the opportunity at that juncture to keep going smoothly or even jar a little and find new friends that will accept you as you are (being open with them at the outset).
For a teenager, yes it's hard to get past the search for peer acceptance. Other people may not be as strong as you and will view their association with you as weakening their own social status amongst people that they believe to be important. You're not there to impress anyone and you know you don't give a damn about what anyone says. Your friends will stick by you. The people that dissociate from you just aren't as strong as you. You can't help that. Leave them. Remember some good times and things you've shared but know that they don't really want to know you for who you truly are.
...errr, I'm confuddled.:confused2: Um, meanwhile, can I just be a not-so-straight-not-so-queer friend of the Gaymers?
What's that supposed to mean anyway, PurpleD?
And pssst, don't " ' " ' " ' ".;) (No, that wasn't Morse code.^_^) The term here is something, hmmm.
Thank you for respecting my right to censor the word "***".:)
Welcome. Joining is as easy as asking and telling us a bit about yourself.
And yes, we are cool. Especially me. But I'm modest about it.
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Since when is slot a bad word? Psh... mods these days
So, yeah, I completely get where you're coming from. I can't even say that it's wrong to let that fear stop you. It's really just something that you have to decide whether the reward is worth the risk.
Which is exactly what I'm trying to do. I keep thinking about the pros and the cons.
Keeping in mind that he and I havent really discussed this in detail yet. We just talked about if/how it would work and what repercussions we'd face. It's definately not set in stone yet.
Well when you put it that way...
The main thing is that If I ever did 'come out', The key thing to keeping at least some friends is to assure them that I'm the same ****ing guy. I'd have to explain that I've been bi the entire time, and they didnt know about it, so It really makes no difference. Oh, and I'd have to assure them that I don't hit on straight guys... usually.
That's pretty much what's going on now. The only thing with public places is that (this brings a whole new aspect into it) I definately dont want my parents finding anything out yet.
Anyways, Thanks for the input, everyone! I've definately decided on how I can do certain things, but I'm stil far away from a decision. I don't want to hog the spotlight any longer though
On another note, do you mind if I whore us out and try to get some members from another forum that I lurk on?
Haha, your modesty and humblesness astound me
But Dont forget about how good looking we are
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It's not a requisite so don't get too concerned with that. (It just happens. Trust.)
TEll us a bit about yourself.
Help has come in the form of a bit of basic algebra. I feel that it'll shed some light on your problem here.
Basically:
S + T = W
...S in this case stands for 'spam' and the T stands for 'light trolling'. And the W? That stands for 'Warning'. I love math. -- {mikeyG}
A little about myself:
I'm a gay male in ninth grade. I haven't really come out to anybody else yet, although I'm sure its inevitable to be soon. I suppose a few people have been able to guess, but other than that. :slant: I got interested in gaymers because, well, they seemed cool.
My interests: Reading, music, mtg, politics, and patrolling the tubes.
I have absolutely no excuse for poor spelling.
See, that is the problem is it not? Look at people such as myself, i post infrequently, tho' about every second day is about right, and i constantly make an ass out of myself.
As i told Micah and Mikey, one of my closest and oldest friends, just came out to me about... an hour or two ago. It's interesting, but not nothing much will change because of it. Interestingday atleast.
* Goatchunx scratches head
Help has come in the form of a bit of basic algebra. I feel that it'll shed some light on your problem here.
Basically:
S + T = W
...S in this case stands for 'spam' and the T stands for 'light trolling'. And the W? That stands for 'Warning'. I love math. -- {mikeyG}
Welcome all newbs to this clan. Kraj will dole out the pink chairs but feel free to choose your own suited to your needs.
LFR: gaymers.... well it's totally true. We're the coolest.
Btw micah: mmmmm Pink
Can I have a beanie bag?
(Actually it's the preferred method of sitting/laying. I usually say pull up a bean bag chair so yes. You can have one too)
Thanks for all the perspectives on dating. I'm definitely not looking for sex (well, purely just sex :P) and the parts with the MSN conversations are just to show my history. I took a step and after several more coffee dates, asked him if he was at all interested, and he told me that he wasn't on the market at this current point. Guess it's back to being patient and waiting for a good boat to fly by (go Airships?)
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Magic Mage:
Are you unsure of what you like? Or unsure of if you like? There's a slight difference. And really, from what I gather (and my involvement with GLBTQBlahBlahBlahAcronymCLubs), the list isn't exclusive so even if you aren't, but are in a supporting position, you have a place here.
Also, if I'm not mistaken, I believe you asked why T's are here. This can be seen from several perspectives:
A) Socially unaccepted sexual orientation has forced them into being something more accepted, so their origins started out as a G/L
B) A lot of the time, GLBTQ organizations are for those who are uncertain of where they belong (much like your current state if I'm not wrong). Some people are born sexually ambiguous and face the same discrimination (sometimes less based on the premise they were born that way and can't help it, and sometimes worse based on the premise that they're so abnormal.)
C) Sex and Gender are different things. I know of someone who was born male, had the operation, and now identifies herself as a lesbian. Studies have shown that some people feel really strongly that they were born and grew as the wrong sex, but feel their gender role remains the same. Several incidents have occured (to the point where documentries aren't uncommon) so even after an operation, their orientation is still homosexual in nature.
The list goes on. T can stand for Transvestites, Transgendered, Transexual... I think the acronym just attempts an all-inclusive stance.
Also, I understand the awkwardness of using the word "gay" and "homosexual" et cetera. Many places have made those words taboo and it's rather hard to change the values taught while growing up. Just remember that unless people use it, the situation won't change and it will always be looked down upon. You also shouldn't use them if you're not ready though so that'll be up to you.
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Lots more to say, but more studies need to be done... go mid-term-cram!
And his name is Jamie Bamber.
You see, he plays Lee Adama on the show, son of Admiral Adama and an altogether studly hero. And once upon a time, he was featured in a lot of those Horatio Hornblower (a name so unabashedly gay that it never ceases to make me chuckle when I hear it) flicks back in the day. And he is deeply attractive. So much so that I lost interest in assembling a tester's platter of Galactica's other resident man-candies. But no matter, I mused, I'll just do a Bamber-specific HGOtW. And so here we are.
As I did a bit of research into the man, I found several points that pinged my gaydar to 'intrigued eyebrow'. He does a lot of stage plays, has seemingly never had a public relationship, has done interviews with both Out and Playgirl magazines, has quite the massive gay following and has fantastic taste in clothes if his frequent convention visits are anything to go by. Anecdotal at best, but still, I was both suspicous and a little bit giddy. Then I found out he was British, which explained everything.
Anyway, watch Battlestar Galactica. It's a great show, and even though they currently have Jamie Bamber in a fat suit, there's still other hot guys to gawk at in between crazy Cylon stuff, harrowing battles and deep socio-political messages. You know, if you're into boring **** like that.
Jamie Bamber
Archatmos
Excellion
Fracture: Israfiel (WBR), Wujal (URG), Valedon (GUB), Amduat (BGW), Paladris (RWU)
Collision (Set Two of the Fracture Block)
Quest for the Forsaken (Set Two of the Excellion Block)
Katingal: Plane of Chains
Mikey's questioning our relationship again. Why does he always do this? I don't understand...
I made a post in my LJ commenting on the fact that it was nice to talk to a theater major about feeling overwhelmed and all that. Mikey and I talked about it, but he just doesn't quite understand, not being a theater major himself. It was nice to know I'm not alone, is all, and I guess somehow he twisted it to mean that I don't think he's important or special to me anymore.
Which isn't true...I couldn't live without Mikey. Sounds silly, I know, but it's true. I love him more than anything in the world, I don't want anyone but him.
[[sighs]]
Only 14 more days until he's here.
Now I'm scared. Off to my scene shop hours, I guess...
I know it seems that I don't care,
but something in me does I swear.
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Anyway, nice HGOTW.