I hate to say it but if you need to look to internet strangers for advice on women, you either won't be happy with what you hear or you won't be able to apply whatever advice you manage to sift. Do you want to know why? Because the answer is different for every person, for every prospective date/love interest/heart throb, and for every situation at any given time.
It's not really "advice" so much as "intel." It's research. Measure twice cut once.
Handing over a piece of paper with details on after all you've said so far is essentially 'I find you attractive' is asking them to judge purely on your appearance. How much do they want to turn round and contact you, give you their phone number back, facebook etc...it's a big ask because if you turn out to be crazy then it's going to be hard to get shut of you. (Not saying you are, just that stranger danger exists)
It depends on your target audience, but usually the safe bet is going to be walking up and either commenting on something relevant to the situation or just a simple 'you seemed cool, I wanted to come and say hi'. NOTE: Please try and read into their body language if they're going to welcome an approach or not. If they look completely immersed with their friends and you haven't got so much as a glance, or they have headphones in, a book on lap etc then they probably won't miss if you never walk up. Harsh but true.
Before you ask for or give out a number, at least have a conversation. If you can't manage that how do you expect a date will go? Physical attraction alone isn't going to make you want to spend any amount of significant time for someone...
Not into guys, but for anyone in that situation, I'd be flattered but would probably otherwise ignore them. I might be more likely to pursue them depending on exactly how attractive they are, though, in which case I would go with the "look up on Facebook" option.
I've always seen approaching the girl you like when she is with her friends as a supreme no no. You might as well throw yourself at some hungry lions. Unless you don't think girls talk to each other about boys.
Have you tried showing her your pimped edh deck?
That works well as a conversation starter. Also whip out dem ab duals for it to 4shore work.
If she isnt into magic then def. tell her about your speed runs on Cave Story.
Do all this while never asking her and questions with depth. 100% hookup rate!
Obv. That was sarcasm (except the cave story bit), but if you just want to have sex then clubs are a great option. As are parties. If you lack social skills then sex workers are a legit option too. Also ask your friends, tactfully. You'd be surprised how many friends are just looking for a sex buddy.
Have you tried showing her your pimped edh deck?
That works well as a conversation starter. Also whip out dem ab duals for it to 4shore work.
If she isnt into magic then def. tell her about your speed runs on Cave Story.
Do all this while never asking her and questions with depth. 100% hookup rate!
Obv. That was sarcasm (except the cave story bit), but if you just want to have sex then clubs are a great option. As are parties. If you lack social skills then sex workers are a legit option too. Also ask your friends, tactfully. You'd be surprised how many friends are just looking for a sex buddy.
To suggest that he has platonic female friends in such mass that he could just casually ask if one of them wants a mustache ride wouldn't make much sense since he is here asking how to approach ONE girl.
Clubs are good for sticky floors and drunk ****s, if that's your game then game on. Most people look for something past sex believe it or not.
Average looking guy randomly walks up to me when I'm hanging out with my friends at a mall food court (i.e. not actively scoping for guys), knows nothing about me other than that he's physically attracted to me, doesn't ask me out, and expects ME to look HIM up on FB?
No. No way in hell.
I'm not actively looking for a relationship at this time, and if a guy wants me to believe he's interested in something more than sex, he could at least try to have an actual conversation first. Doing the "call me maybe" shtick is just a lazy cop-out.
I also don't FB friend people unless we're friends in real life, or share some kind of a social network (e.g. I'll friend pretty much any judge who I've met in person or had a conversation with at least once).
To suggest that he has platonic female friends in such mass that he could just casually ask if one of them wants a mustache ride wouldn't make much sense since he is here asking how to approach ONE girl.
I wouldn't rule it out. I have plenty of female friends but I'm less-than-stellar socially around girls that I'm interested in.
To suggest that he has platonic female friends in such mass that he could just casually ask if one of them wants a mustache ride wouldn't make much sense since he is here asking how to approach ONE girl.
Clubs are good for sticky floors and drunk ****s, if that's your game then game on. Most people look for something past sex believe it or not.
I mixed up op and another poster who was speaking on just wanting sex. Though to the op, coming up and trying to date some random person at a mall is ill advised. Look to your social circles for the depth to have a solid relationship.
Okay now let's say that you're single, and you're at the mall with three of your friends. Let's say that, a fairly attractive (average looking?) guy walks up to you and your friends while you are sitting down in the food court, and he tells you that "I just wanted to let you know that you look beautiful" to you, and you say "thank you" to him, then he says "you're welcome" and goes back to joining his group of friends. Well let's say that five minutes later and is very polite, and says that it is really unlike him to do something like this, then he hands you a piece of paper with his Facebook profile URL and e-mail address on it, and he tells you his name. Then you shake hands with him and tell him your name, and he goes back to join his friends again. Would you send him a friend request and/or message on Facebook (or e-mail)?
By placing the onus her to reach out to you, you have pretty strongly ensured that she WONT contact you.
For example, I had a flirty conversation with waitress once. It was fun for the moment, but I didn't want to pursue. But I thought it would be awkward to just say goodbye. So instead, before saying goodbye, I gave her my phone number and told her to call me, knowing that she never would. (If I was interested, I would ask for her phone # instead)
She hasn't called, and I knew she wouldn't. I thought however for the moment, it was the politest way to say "I'm not interested."
It's not cognitive dissonance. It's life. If you want something done do it yourself. If you dont want it done, simply put the onus on the other party.
Don't believe me? The next time your credit card bill has an error, your health insurance overcharges you, or there's some other administrative task you need taken care of---just try leaving your number, tell them to call you back and see what happens.
If you want to ask out a girl, you ask for her number.
If you want to make sure nothing comes of it, give her your number, dont ask for hers, and tell her to call you.
I said I would look him up on Facebook and see if there's anything there to make me think it's worth a shot, which I think any girl who was flattered would at LEAST do that.
In my younger days i went to the local mall with one of those giant cartoon like U shaped magnets and whenever a girl I thought was cute walked by I would act like it was pulling me toward her and I would say "Sorry, I am attracted to gorgeous." (because magnets attract each other) Girls like wit, so in the situation you described it has no cleverness so I doubt it would work UNLESS you are very assertive because all girls are attracted to gallontry.
It's not really "advice" so much as "intel." It's research. Measure twice cut once.
It depends on your target audience, but usually the safe bet is going to be walking up and either commenting on something relevant to the situation or just a simple 'you seemed cool, I wanted to come and say hi'. NOTE: Please try and read into their body language if they're going to welcome an approach or not. If they look completely immersed with their friends and you haven't got so much as a glance, or they have headphones in, a book on lap etc then they probably won't miss if you never walk up. Harsh but true.
Before you ask for or give out a number, at least have a conversation. If you can't manage that how do you expect a date will go? Physical attraction alone isn't going to make you want to spend any amount of significant time for someone...
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You dehumanize it so. But it becomes problematic when you only want hook up. Can you sympathize? Or does everything devolve into a relationship?
sir i must say you are looking in the very wrong place for any kind of relationship advice
That works well as a conversation starter. Also whip out dem ab duals for it to 4shore work.
If she isnt into magic then def. tell her about your speed runs on Cave Story.
Do all this while never asking her and questions with depth. 100% hookup rate!
Obv. That was sarcasm (except the cave story bit), but if you just want to have sex then clubs are a great option. As are parties. If you lack social skills then sex workers are a legit option too. Also ask your friends, tactfully. You'd be surprised how many friends are just looking for a sex buddy.
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To suggest that he has platonic female friends in such mass that he could just casually ask if one of them wants a mustache ride wouldn't make much sense since he is here asking how to approach ONE girl.
Clubs are good for sticky floors and drunk ****s, if that's your game then game on. Most people look for something past sex believe it or not.
No. No way in hell.
I'm not actively looking for a relationship at this time, and if a guy wants me to believe he's interested in something more than sex, he could at least try to have an actual conversation first. Doing the "call me maybe" shtick is just a lazy cop-out.
I also don't FB friend people unless we're friends in real life, or share some kind of a social network (e.g. I'll friend pretty much any judge who I've met in person or had a conversation with at least once).
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You can also set their status low can't see everything.
I wouldn't rule it out. I have plenty of female friends but I'm less-than-stellar socially around girls that I'm interested in.
Because we care about facts.
I mixed up op and another poster who was speaking on just wanting sex. Though to the op, coming up and trying to date some random person at a mall is ill advised. Look to your social circles for the depth to have a solid relationship.
So Pro I have an alpha Volcanic Island
By placing the onus her to reach out to you, you have pretty strongly ensured that she WONT contact you.
For example, I had a flirty conversation with waitress once. It was fun for the moment, but I didn't want to pursue. But I thought it would be awkward to just say goodbye. So instead, before saying goodbye, I gave her my phone number and told her to call me, knowing that she never would. (If I was interested, I would ask for her phone # instead)
She hasn't called, and I knew she wouldn't. I thought however for the moment, it was the politest way to say "I'm not interested."
I know a girl you should call, her name is cognitive dissonance. she can be reached at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance
Interesting read troll.
speaking as a human being, if someone asked me out like that, i would probably add them if they were confident and charming.
It's not cognitive dissonance. It's life. If you want something done do it yourself. If you dont want it done, simply put the onus on the other party.
Don't believe me? The next time your credit card bill has an error, your health insurance overcharges you, or there's some other administrative task you need taken care of---just try leaving your number, tell them to call you back and see what happens.
If you want to ask out a girl, you ask for her number.
If you want to make sure nothing comes of it, give her your number, dont ask for hers, and tell her to call you.
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