FML, or, quitting facebook
i've been having a dispute with a guy i've been friends with for 21 years because i recommended to him that he NOT date a mutual friend of ours. (while the girl is nice as a friend, she's, well, not the kind of girl i'd ever date.)
after some FB mail exchanges, i changed my status last night to something discussing "bros before hoes" - just because that's what i was thinking as i was messaging the guy in this situation.
apparently, two other friends of mine (both of whom i've known for 16 years) have recently hooked up. they were going to come by my house to hang out last night, but bailed on the plan because the girl "wasn't feeling well."
so, naturally, they both thought i was ****ing talking about them, like i was THAT pissed that they didn't come by. to pour salt in the wound, the girl told me that, if i had a "hoe," i'd be "all up in that." (she should know better, first of all... plus, i had ended a very long-term relationship earlier this year, and am still affected by that - never mind that i had to attend a family dinner last weekend where my sister and her new baby, my cousin and her new baby, and my other cousin with his baby twins were around.)
so, yeah, **** facebook now. i've just about ****ing had it.
the other couple is still dating, and the boyfriend is off his meds and taking offense to anything and everything said to him.
so, arborea, shove it where the sun don't shine, cause you don't know jack.
i've dropped deuces with more intelligence.
Yeah, dude, FYL. You suck. Quit Magic too, I just read one of your posts in the UW control forum and I wish I hadn't.
Despite my dearth of years of experience, the rules "bros before 'hoes'" and "chicks before [something that rhymes with chicks]" prove to be noteworthy adages, which are, unfortunately, not always time-honoured.
While once in a blue moon, those with several mutual friends dating and those with good friends like yourself offering advice regarding a romantic interest, for lack of a more precise or better term, "work" out for the two and others, including valued friends and family, most of the time, someone or people get hurt.
Not to make short of these recent downers, but perhaps you could be a little more tolerant, even a little supportive, of the pair's relationship, even if it irks you and is to your chagrin; I doubt soiling your long-standing friendship with your buddy is worth it (although, I don't really know what kind of friend he is, friendship it is, and what you're like in expansive depth; so, I'm going solely by the number of years). (I had a falling out with a person over a relationship, but I never quite made up, as they pursued the person who I was with. One key difference, however, is that I'm me and I just sit back and watch life pass me by, unfortunately, and I wasn't really all that great mates with the person with which I fell out with.)
As for your family and extended family with their children, don't let it get you down; and, of Facebook, you could de-activate it.
I used to have a profile till I broke up/was jilted, and sought social isolation (actually kind of stupid if I wanted to get back up on the horse, I guess (but, knowing me, I have pretty slim chances of getting what I want)). I also considered de-activating my profile long before (I de-activated it in midlate/September-ish 2008), as I felt a lack of privacy and security. With everyknow acquiescent of everything, my knowing of other people's crap, (and the loss of a regular Internet connection), I got really peeved, I decided the quasi-break up ("it's complicated") would be the final straw.
Anyway, sorry for my ramblings and meanderings, but I feel for you, and though I don't know whether I'm of any help, or hinder (I hope not), goc, or simply full of it, I genuinely hope that life works itself out for you (and all (being the hopeless romantic I am)).
Perhaps, if romance is a bother, you could take things slowly by attending to yourself (e.g. self-improvement, shrink-y kind of stuff, relaxing, etc.) a little more; whether you should hit the dating scene or allowing for time to heal the wounds of relationships past isn't for me to advise, but you'll know when, and I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours, and till then, and after that point, best of physical and mental/emotional health.