Secretly disturbing peoples' personal lives by lying to them is not a good way to resolve issues. In this case, it is a doubly bad plan because a family struggling with money issues isn't likely to come up with over two thousand dollars for a mysterious 'gift'. I can't guess at what type of relationship exists in this family, but secretly ******* with it will just about guarantee you'll never see your money.Quote from Slarg232 »You could just let his wife know. Politely.
As you said, she doesn't know and you don't think he wants her to know. Go to her, ask for the remaining money (Just say you're going to get him a gift and you need a boost to get the last bit) and presto.
Gonna lose a friend after that, but you'll get your money back.
Keep trying to get payments, even small amounts like Jay13x is suggesting. Given the inconsistent timeline, this guy will not pay you back without prodding, but the fact he has paid back around four thousand is a hopeful sign.