Asking out a girl is like trying to cast a first turn Necropotence. Sometimes the other player will have the Force of Will to say no. You shouldn't let that stop you from trying it.
To continue the analogy, it takes some setup and some preparation to actually accomplish it (this is the hygiene and/or confidence posted above). You have to prepare ahead of time for what you want to accomplish and take every step you can to maximize success and minimize failure while simultaneously understanding that failure is a possible outcome.
After that, you've done what you can do, don't obsess about the end result. Too many of life's problems are caused by people not letting go of things that are out of their control. Getting the knack for learning when to let go is a great skill to acquire as young as possible.
Some general thoughts about wooing said scrumpet. Compliments are good. If she's smart enough to see through false flattery then don't just compliment randomly. Actually think about what you like about her and figure out a way to compliment it that is sincere. i.e. You like her hair. Tell her something to effect of "I like the way you're wearing your hair today, that <whatever> really looks nice.". If she wants to talk about it, great, let her talk about whatever conditioner she's using, or the leave-in she just tried... whatever. Be attentive, try to remember the details. For flattery/compliments to work though you also have to be confident (as mentioned above). You have to be calm, you have to stay composed. She might just say thanks and ignore you, if that happens, move along and try again another time. Persistance is good, but don't over do it. That will do more damage than pretty much anything else.
And always, always, always be willing to laugh at yourself if things go 'weird'. Things might crash and burn, things might get awkward, but be prepared for that and realize that if she's not into you she's not into you and that there's nothing to be done for it.
I wish I thought to ask this advice when I was younger.... it would have saved me a lot of headaches.
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To continue the analogy, it takes some setup and some preparation to actually accomplish it (this is the hygiene and/or confidence posted above). You have to prepare ahead of time for what you want to accomplish and take every step you can to maximize success and minimize failure while simultaneously understanding that failure is a possible outcome.
After that, you've done what you can do, don't obsess about the end result. Too many of life's problems are caused by people not letting go of things that are out of their control. Getting the knack for learning when to let go is a great skill to acquire as young as possible.
Some general thoughts about wooing said scrumpet. Compliments are good. If she's smart enough to see through false flattery then don't just compliment randomly. Actually think about what you like about her and figure out a way to compliment it that is sincere. i.e. You like her hair. Tell her something to effect of "I like the way you're wearing your hair today, that <whatever> really looks nice.". If she wants to talk about it, great, let her talk about whatever conditioner she's using, or the leave-in she just tried... whatever. Be attentive, try to remember the details. For flattery/compliments to work though you also have to be confident (as mentioned above). You have to be calm, you have to stay composed. She might just say thanks and ignore you, if that happens, move along and try again another time. Persistance is good, but don't over do it. That will do more damage than pretty much anything else.
And always, always, always be willing to laugh at yourself if things go 'weird'. Things might crash and burn, things might get awkward, but be prepared for that and realize that if she's not into you she's not into you and that there's nothing to be done for it.
I wish I thought to ask this advice when I was younger.... it would have saved me a lot of headaches.