Did you just feel like the extra damage taken from Canopy wasn't relevant?
Were you, or have you, previously played the Archangel/Feeder combo? I'd assume you don't like it for the same reasons you don't like Ballista, but something about casting T3 archangel just from druid is appealing.
There seems to be a lot of list volatility for now, what do you consider to be the flex slots? Tracker/Skite/Ooze/2nd duskwatch/3rd E-wit?
First off, I'd like to thank everyone for their support. And for reading my incredibly long ramblings.
Von, all sound things to do, although I wish there was an actual beach anywhere near here. The suing thing would be terrible, hopefully it would never come to that. I don't want to sue my friend, but I also can't be taken advantage of like that.
Fluffy - that's a good idea. Even if I can't find a job immediately I can do something productive like that.
redthirst - It's hard to not feel dependent on someone when you feel empty without them there
Dechs, that makes sense. I understand what you are pointing out. Frankly she should feel bad about it, but that definitely doesnt' help me to feel that way. I'm most the way through college, been a senior for 2 years. Got caught up in the very stressful and time consuming job I was eventually fired from. I'm planning on going back to school in the fall, but need to finance that.
SoulProvider - That's kind of how I am trying to look at it. The problem is I can't help but think about the good as well as the bad. I like that quote a lot. thank you.
Kaitscralt - I am actually not in debt other than my car. I have been living at home and sold a LOT of magic in the last few weeks. Job is definitely a priority though.
I had been dating this girl for approximately 3 years. Our relationship had been tumultuous, and difficult. We reached a very good place about 2 years in, but she worked too much. I felt replaceable, and that she didn't care about me in the same way she used to. We worked for the same company, and I feel she took advantage of me in helping her with her work. We had been looking for wedding rings and had constantly discussed getting married. I felt so low about our relationship during this time that I broke up with her. We still talked every day, and she tried very diligently to make the situation better. During this time, I had begun to date another girl, but didn't tell her about it. After she found out she also went on a few dates, but I feel like they were insincere attempts to convince herself to move on.
During this period we learned a lot about communication, honesty, etc. We ended up working things out, but she still felt betrayed by my 'hiding' of this other girl. Our relationship continued to grow during the end of last summer, and we had reached a good place. In January I was fired from my job (long story, TLDR: set up), and the girl I had dated began to talk to me again (we were friends before ever dating). Our conversations were innocent, just friends being friends. We talked about how her life was going (just reconciled with her seperated husband), football, work, etc. My girlfriend finds out I had been talking to her, the trust issues all flood back in. I allow her to read all my text messages (not just with this girl), grant her access to my email and facebook accounts, etc. All in showing her I was being honest and making an attempt to make our relationship work. She has some trust issues, which is completely understandable, but we work through the problem.
Flash forward to this March. Everything is great. We are discussing marriage again (her idea!), and seriously looking at apartments. We have worked through our issues, and were doing extremely well. I feel at this point that this is what a relationship is supposed to be. We have issues, discuss them, and address them appropriately. We obviously still fight like a normal couple, but always resolve our issues. I am working at the game store I am a partner in. Our store is struggling, but it's ok. I don't take money in an attempt to help the store, my partner promises he will repay me when he comes back from his summer work (making 80K+ in 4 months).
We hang out with my group of friends almost daily. She tries exceptionally hard to make them all like her. She befriends one of my close friends, and is a great support to him when he goes through some rough patches. I am obviously thrilled at her acceptance of my friends and vice versa.
She begins talking to another of my friends, trying to get to know him and such because she feels like he doesn't like her. She tells me that she feels a strong connection to him, like her father or brother. Flags go up here, but she assures me nothing is going on, is very open and honest with me about their conversations etc.
A few weeks later we are all drinking (always a great idea!). After everyone starts heading home/going to bed, she decides she wants to watch a movie. I set everything up, while she tries to convince my friend to watch it with us. I go downstairs to get them, she says she will be up in just a minute.
I fall asleep waiting for them, and get woken up several hours later. My girlfriend is in a panic "you're going to hate me. I'm so sorry. Don't leave me" etc etc etc. I tell her to calm down and talk to me. She tells me that my friend kissed her and she kissed him back. She is full of remorse, and I tell her that it's ok. I have to go to work. In my mind I play off the incident as a drunken accident.
I am gravely mistaken.
Everything is roughly normal for the next few days. We are with our group of friends again, and everything is fine. While we are watching a movie my girlfriend tells me "I think I want the chance to date friend X". I immediately freak out, and we step outside to have a conversation. She tells me that he asked her to move away from the summer (3,000 miles), and that she is considering going. I go into full rage mode, storm back into the house, and go to find my "friend". Luckily my 400lb friend stops me in the doorway. He doesn't know what is going on, but isn't going to let me beat the hell out of my "friend".
We have a long talk, roughly 'moderated' by our reasonable level headed friend.
What I wrote off as a drunken accident is apparently them being in love. My friend of 10 years had been actively pursuing my girlfriend, and she allowed it. She tells me that she wants to move away with im, but my "friend" decides that he is destroying our group of friends and can't handle it. He tells her she can't go and that he is removing himself as an 'option' for her.
My store gets an opportunity to get out of our lease, which is a good thing. We close our doors with the promise of reopening when my partner returns from the summer. I am unemployed, and owed $4000 in wages for the past several months, and $4000 invested in the store (aka, my buyout).
My ex and I decide to remain friends, mostly for reasons of co-dependence. She has been my best friend for 4 years. I have been hers. We both agree that our relationship is terrible, and we are better apart.
My friends all leave for the summer to work. My ex and "friend" seem like they've given up on making something work, and have relegated themselves back to being friends.
I begin to talk to her less, spend less time with her, etc. We make plans to do things, but most of them fall through. One day I go over to her house because we are supposed to go hiking. I arrive earlier than expected, and she is on the phone with my "friend". She says "well, I guess the cat is out of the bag". I feel incredibly stupid. Of course they wouldn't stay apart. I didn't ever think they would, but I wanted to be naive enough to believe it.
Now that I know she makes attempts to make sure I am 'ok' with what is going on. Obviously at this point they shouldn't care about me, because they clearly didn't before. Why bother being considerate now? She tries to confide in me when they fight, I don't want anything to do with it. She lies to me about several things in their relationship, I dont' care, or at least try not to.
At this point I begin to retract, for obvious reasons. I try to sink myself into ANYTHING but her. I go out of town for GP portland, do fine day 1, have really clouded thoughts and am very distracted day 2. I decide to focus on the Pro Tour. I'm still unemployed at this point, and the PT is the only thing on my radar. I focus as much attention on it as I can, but my team is all gone for the summer working, and I am very distracted. I obviously don't do well at the Pro Tour, and come home distraught and saddened. Magic, which my ex and I played together, has lost it's joy for me, because it reminds me of her. Other things I enjoy, like hiking, league of legends, and other things become lack luster as well, for the same reason.
Everything reminds me of her. Anything I do. I can't stop thinking about her, my "friend", their betrayal. I try to seek solace in my friends, but they are either gone, busy, or I have made them feel alienated by my infrequency of seeing them. The best friend I have is the one who is killing me. Seeing her moving on, while still trying to hold on to me, is incredibly difficult. I'm not ready to let her go. She is such a good friend, just like we were before we started dating. She has been my life for the past 3 years, but I have been thrown away.
I don't know how to find happiness in the things I use to escape from the world, because they all remind me of her.
TLDR:
1 - I am unemployed
2 - I am owed $8000 and will likely never receive it
3 - My girlfriend left me for my "friend" of 10 years
4 - I am dependent on her, as she is my best friend
5 - Everything reminds me of her and I can't stop thinking about the betrayal.
So, any advice for moving on, finding happiness in the things I used to enjoy, getting past betrayal and trusting again, or anything else people feel like would be useful?
EDIT - I thought that writing this out would be therapeutic. I was wrong. I feel like a fool for sticking around so long.
Posting for a friend. He doesn't play much, if at all. Is this worth it? He's the one with the foil.
Pile A: Voice of Resurgence (foil)
Pile B: $40 Store Credit
Honestly depends on store prices. If they are using SCG or something I probably wouldn't. If the store has reasonable prices on singles and the guy can't ship it to another player in a trade then $40 would seem reasonable.
It's all in finding the right buyer. Those kind of lands have a very particular audience. Having signed versions further limits the audience. That said, some of the signatures are difficult to find, so those may hold some premium to collectors.
There is disparity in some packs. Sometimes you open a bunch of less powerful or support cards, sometimes you open Jitte/clamp/JTMS/etc. It happens. It can also happen in powered cubes. Say we're playing powered and I get sol ring, and a pair of moxes. You have none. I am playing on an entirely different axis than you are. At least if you have 'less powerful' cards you still get to play magic, instead of getting run over by my turn 2/3 five drop or whatever ridiculousness is possible.
The archtypes remain, everything is still roughly draftable, you just have to use more variants of the same cards. People will draft 'good stuff' decks regardless of the cube construction. You just need people to draft well and crush those archetypes out of the draft.
Reanimator sometimes has to use worse (more expensive) and the fatties might be slightly worse in some drafts, but you will also T1 Iona people on occasion. Things happen. Dark Ritual is a hell of a drug. I don't play other 'combo' things like storm or anything, they are far too hard when not every card will be in each draft.
Your aggro decks will have to go a little bit lower down the totem pole in search of creatures to add density, but they still attack and kill people just fine. I don't have any terrible creatures in my box.
You can't equate legacy's growing pains with that of Modern. Legacy is interesting because it is cyclic, correct? Certain decks become good, the best, or bad due to shifts in the metagame. Modern doesn't have the card pool for that to happen. They have to ban cards to balance the metagame because the metagame can't adapt reasonably.
Additionally, and it has been mentioned before, legacy corrects itself with 'police' cards. Things like daze, force of will, wasteland, various color hosers of days gone by, etc. are all capable of hating undesirable things out of the metagame. In modern you don't have that. You have Tec Edge, ghost quarter, and regular counterspells. There are cards like stony silence, sure, but you are boarding in cards to deal with problematic matches. You have to dedicate a lot of slots to matches you are unlikely to play. In Legacy if combo decks become well positioned in the metagame you just pick up a deck with islands and put down Maverick. While it is possible for me to build a deck that hates on eggs and could NEVER lose to it, I will lose to everything else. That's the problem.
While I think that wizards has overstepped itself on some banned cards (such as Zenith), removing fast combo decks doens't matter to me. I know some people like those decks, and possibly can't afford other decks, or other formats, but Wizards can't please everyone.
The issue with eggs is this: to have enough hate to 'guarantee' drawing one it means you've wasted half your sideboard. To the person who says they board 7 cards in against legacy dredge, how is your 8 card sideboard against everyone else? Eggs represents such a small portion of most fields that having significant slots dedicated to it hurts your odds of winning the tournament. You don't want rest in peace against anything else, so it's a wasted slot for a match you are highly unlikely to play.
The format is obviously skewed towards creatures decks. A top tier deck plays 1/4+ of it's 60 cards as straight creature removal. But I'd still rather have that then noninteractive turn 3 combo decks. Storm didn't need the axe. Eggs likely does.
Currently changing foils in my cube into correct (original) frames. So the question is:
7th foil Llanowar Elf or FNM Elf (Maddocks A/B/U art)?
Also, regarding basic lands:
Foil old border (all same art of each), Zen foil 10 of each, or zen foil all the same of each? (unhinged would be sweet, but I'm not sinking 1800 into islands alone)
Did you just feel like the extra damage taken from Canopy wasn't relevant?
Were you, or have you, previously played the Archangel/Feeder combo? I'd assume you don't like it for the same reasons you don't like Ballista, but something about casting T3 archangel just from druid is appealing.
There seems to be a lot of list volatility for now, what do you consider to be the flex slots? Tracker/Skite/Ooze/2nd duskwatch/3rd E-wit?
You should be able to pick up most for 8-9. Even the more expensive islands should be able to be found around 12-13.
I picked up ~75 from a vendor @$8/ea in trade (all types, including islands).
Von, all sound things to do, although I wish there was an actual beach anywhere near here. The suing thing would be terrible, hopefully it would never come to that. I don't want to sue my friend, but I also can't be taken advantage of like that.
Fluffy - that's a good idea. Even if I can't find a job immediately I can do something productive like that.
redthirst - It's hard to not feel dependent on someone when you feel empty without them there
Dechs, that makes sense. I understand what you are pointing out. Frankly she should feel bad about it, but that definitely doesnt' help me to feel that way. I'm most the way through college, been a senior for 2 years. Got caught up in the very stressful and time consuming job I was eventually fired from. I'm planning on going back to school in the fall, but need to finance that.
SoulProvider - That's kind of how I am trying to look at it. The problem is I can't help but think about the good as well as the bad. I like that quote a lot. thank you.
Kaitscralt - I am actually not in debt other than my car. I have been living at home and sold a LOT of magic in the last few weeks. Job is definitely a priority though.
Ok, so some background on my situation:
I had been dating this girl for approximately 3 years. Our relationship had been tumultuous, and difficult. We reached a very good place about 2 years in, but she worked too much. I felt replaceable, and that she didn't care about me in the same way she used to. We worked for the same company, and I feel she took advantage of me in helping her with her work. We had been looking for wedding rings and had constantly discussed getting married. I felt so low about our relationship during this time that I broke up with her. We still talked every day, and she tried very diligently to make the situation better. During this time, I had begun to date another girl, but didn't tell her about it. After she found out she also went on a few dates, but I feel like they were insincere attempts to convince herself to move on.
During this period we learned a lot about communication, honesty, etc. We ended up working things out, but she still felt betrayed by my 'hiding' of this other girl. Our relationship continued to grow during the end of last summer, and we had reached a good place. In January I was fired from my job (long story, TLDR: set up), and the girl I had dated began to talk to me again (we were friends before ever dating). Our conversations were innocent, just friends being friends. We talked about how her life was going (just reconciled with her seperated husband), football, work, etc. My girlfriend finds out I had been talking to her, the trust issues all flood back in. I allow her to read all my text messages (not just with this girl), grant her access to my email and facebook accounts, etc. All in showing her I was being honest and making an attempt to make our relationship work. She has some trust issues, which is completely understandable, but we work through the problem.
Flash forward to this March. Everything is great. We are discussing marriage again (her idea!), and seriously looking at apartments. We have worked through our issues, and were doing extremely well. I feel at this point that this is what a relationship is supposed to be. We have issues, discuss them, and address them appropriately. We obviously still fight like a normal couple, but always resolve our issues. I am working at the game store I am a partner in. Our store is struggling, but it's ok. I don't take money in an attempt to help the store, my partner promises he will repay me when he comes back from his summer work (making 80K+ in 4 months).
We hang out with my group of friends almost daily. She tries exceptionally hard to make them all like her. She befriends one of my close friends, and is a great support to him when he goes through some rough patches. I am obviously thrilled at her acceptance of my friends and vice versa.
She begins talking to another of my friends, trying to get to know him and such because she feels like he doesn't like her. She tells me that she feels a strong connection to him, like her father or brother. Flags go up here, but she assures me nothing is going on, is very open and honest with me about their conversations etc.
A few weeks later we are all drinking (always a great idea!). After everyone starts heading home/going to bed, she decides she wants to watch a movie. I set everything up, while she tries to convince my friend to watch it with us. I go downstairs to get them, she says she will be up in just a minute.
I fall asleep waiting for them, and get woken up several hours later. My girlfriend is in a panic "you're going to hate me. I'm so sorry. Don't leave me" etc etc etc. I tell her to calm down and talk to me. She tells me that my friend kissed her and she kissed him back. She is full of remorse, and I tell her that it's ok. I have to go to work. In my mind I play off the incident as a drunken accident.
I am gravely mistaken.
Everything is roughly normal for the next few days. We are with our group of friends again, and everything is fine. While we are watching a movie my girlfriend tells me "I think I want the chance to date friend X". I immediately freak out, and we step outside to have a conversation. She tells me that he asked her to move away from the summer (3,000 miles), and that she is considering going. I go into full rage mode, storm back into the house, and go to find my "friend". Luckily my 400lb friend stops me in the doorway. He doesn't know what is going on, but isn't going to let me beat the hell out of my "friend".
We have a long talk, roughly 'moderated' by our reasonable level headed friend.
What I wrote off as a drunken accident is apparently them being in love. My friend of 10 years had been actively pursuing my girlfriend, and she allowed it. She tells me that she wants to move away with im, but my "friend" decides that he is destroying our group of friends and can't handle it. He tells her she can't go and that he is removing himself as an 'option' for her.
My store gets an opportunity to get out of our lease, which is a good thing. We close our doors with the promise of reopening when my partner returns from the summer. I am unemployed, and owed $4000 in wages for the past several months, and $4000 invested in the store (aka, my buyout).
My ex and I decide to remain friends, mostly for reasons of co-dependence. She has been my best friend for 4 years. I have been hers. We both agree that our relationship is terrible, and we are better apart.
My friends all leave for the summer to work. My ex and "friend" seem like they've given up on making something work, and have relegated themselves back to being friends.
I begin to talk to her less, spend less time with her, etc. We make plans to do things, but most of them fall through. One day I go over to her house because we are supposed to go hiking. I arrive earlier than expected, and she is on the phone with my "friend". She says "well, I guess the cat is out of the bag". I feel incredibly stupid. Of course they wouldn't stay apart. I didn't ever think they would, but I wanted to be naive enough to believe it.
Now that I know she makes attempts to make sure I am 'ok' with what is going on. Obviously at this point they shouldn't care about me, because they clearly didn't before. Why bother being considerate now? She tries to confide in me when they fight, I don't want anything to do with it. She lies to me about several things in their relationship, I dont' care, or at least try not to.
At this point I begin to retract, for obvious reasons. I try to sink myself into ANYTHING but her. I go out of town for GP portland, do fine day 1, have really clouded thoughts and am very distracted day 2. I decide to focus on the Pro Tour. I'm still unemployed at this point, and the PT is the only thing on my radar. I focus as much attention on it as I can, but my team is all gone for the summer working, and I am very distracted. I obviously don't do well at the Pro Tour, and come home distraught and saddened. Magic, which my ex and I played together, has lost it's joy for me, because it reminds me of her. Other things I enjoy, like hiking, league of legends, and other things become lack luster as well, for the same reason.
Everything reminds me of her. Anything I do. I can't stop thinking about her, my "friend", their betrayal. I try to seek solace in my friends, but they are either gone, busy, or I have made them feel alienated by my infrequency of seeing them. The best friend I have is the one who is killing me. Seeing her moving on, while still trying to hold on to me, is incredibly difficult. I'm not ready to let her go. She is such a good friend, just like we were before we started dating. She has been my life for the past 3 years, but I have been thrown away.
I don't know how to find happiness in the things I use to escape from the world, because they all remind me of her.
TLDR:
1 - I am unemployed
2 - I am owed $8000 and will likely never receive it
3 - My girlfriend left me for my "friend" of 10 years
4 - I am dependent on her, as she is my best friend
5 - Everything reminds me of her and I can't stop thinking about the betrayal.
So, any advice for moving on, finding happiness in the things I used to enjoy, getting past betrayal and trusting again, or anything else people feel like would be useful?
EDIT - I thought that writing this out would be therapeutic. I was wrong. I feel like a fool for sticking around so long.
Honestly depends on store prices. If they are using SCG or something I probably wouldn't. If the store has reasonable prices on singles and the guy can't ship it to another player in a trade then $40 would seem reasonable.
There is disparity in some packs. Sometimes you open a bunch of less powerful or support cards, sometimes you open Jitte/clamp/JTMS/etc. It happens. It can also happen in powered cubes. Say we're playing powered and I get sol ring, and a pair of moxes. You have none. I am playing on an entirely different axis than you are. At least if you have 'less powerful' cards you still get to play magic, instead of getting run over by my turn 2/3 five drop or whatever ridiculousness is possible.
The archtypes remain, everything is still roughly draftable, you just have to use more variants of the same cards. People will draft 'good stuff' decks regardless of the cube construction. You just need people to draft well and crush those archetypes out of the draft.
Reanimator sometimes has to use worse (more expensive) and the fatties might be slightly worse in some drafts, but you will also T1 Iona people on occasion. Things happen. Dark Ritual is a hell of a drug. I don't play other 'combo' things like storm or anything, they are far too hard when not every card will be in each draft.
Your aggro decks will have to go a little bit lower down the totem pole in search of creatures to add density, but they still attack and kill people just fine. I don't have any terrible creatures in my box.
Additionally, and it has been mentioned before, legacy corrects itself with 'police' cards. Things like daze, force of will, wasteland, various color hosers of days gone by, etc. are all capable of hating undesirable things out of the metagame. In modern you don't have that. You have Tec Edge, ghost quarter, and regular counterspells. There are cards like stony silence, sure, but you are boarding in cards to deal with problematic matches. You have to dedicate a lot of slots to matches you are unlikely to play. In Legacy if combo decks become well positioned in the metagame you just pick up a deck with islands and put down Maverick. While it is possible for me to build a deck that hates on eggs and could NEVER lose to it, I will lose to everything else. That's the problem.
While I think that wizards has overstepped itself on some banned cards (such as Zenith), removing fast combo decks doens't matter to me. I know some people like those decks, and possibly can't afford other decks, or other formats, but Wizards can't please everyone.
The format is obviously skewed towards creatures decks. A top tier deck plays 1/4+ of it's 60 cards as straight creature removal. But I'd still rather have that then noninteractive turn 3 combo decks. Storm didn't need the axe. Eggs likely does.
7th foil Llanowar Elf or FNM Elf (Maddocks A/B/U art)?
Also, regarding basic lands:
Foil old border (all same art of each), Zen foil 10 of each, or zen foil all the same of each? (unhinged would be sweet, but I'm not sinking 1800 into islands alone)