The nice thing about marriage is that it's a ready-made agreement. The bureaucracy is all in place; you can update your insurance records, your banking information, etc very easily, because everyone knows what forms to hand somebody who just got married. There's very little practical difference when you extend that to same-sex couples.
Poly is different. I'm not against polyamory, as practiced by grownups who can give informed consent (not barely pubescent girls "marrying" the local cult leader). But there are a lot of moving parts involved in a poly relationship, pretty much by definition, and it's difficult to graft a legal framework designed for two people onto that. Maybe there will eventually be a consensus on what a good "poly marriage contract" looks like, and that could serve as the basis for new laws, but there isn't one yet.
I suspect that guys may tend towards the girly when building their ladyfriend's first casual deck, just from not knowing what else to do. (Erm...what do girls like? Pink! Wait there's no pink. Angels! Cute animals!) And there are women who are more comfortable with that sort of thing, who don't like / don't think they're supposed to like the darker-themed cards.
In tournaments, though, the ladyfriends typically enter with a stock deck from someone's testing gauntlet. Which makes sense; she needs a deck, there's a deck no one's playing, problem solved.
And yes, the ladyfriends typically scrub out, but it's worth noting that men (and single ladies) of equal scrubbiness likely wouldn't go to a tournament to begin with. I'm a ladyfriend, and while I can T32 a PTQ if the heart of the cards is with me, I'm not Pro Tour material and don't really want to be. I'd be perfectly happy with shop-level tourneys (cheaper! closer!) if I didn't have the boy taking me along to bigger ones.
I think I'm solid relationship material. But I'm a hard sell...0.1% of the population would love someone like me, the rest not so much.
I've got high compulsiveness, and have a demanding job which I have the kind of addictive relationship to that some people have with Magic. I'm a lifelong atheist, a blunt-spoken feminist, and an introvert. I'm taller than most, smarter than most, and could eventually make more bank than most (all of which bother the heck out of insecure guys). And I play Magic, though as a straight female, that's an advantage - it's how I met my current BF.
That said, I'm very loyal and patient. I see relationships as a partnership, and I make sure the partner knows I have their back, by word and deed. I can communicate honestly, and I'm empathetic enough to pick up on what the other person needs. And I'm mature enough to pick battles and let little things go.
I'm dating a Magic-addict PTQ grinder. We're both hard sells...but we get each other, and it's going well. There's a key to every lock, I guess.
Poly is different. I'm not against polyamory, as practiced by grownups who can give informed consent (not barely pubescent girls "marrying" the local cult leader). But there are a lot of moving parts involved in a poly relationship, pretty much by definition, and it's difficult to graft a legal framework designed for two people onto that. Maybe there will eventually be a consensus on what a good "poly marriage contract" looks like, and that could serve as the basis for new laws, but there isn't one yet.
In tournaments, though, the ladyfriends typically enter with a stock deck from someone's testing gauntlet. Which makes sense; she needs a deck, there's a deck no one's playing, problem solved.
And yes, the ladyfriends typically scrub out, but it's worth noting that men (and single ladies) of equal scrubbiness likely wouldn't go to a tournament to begin with. I'm a ladyfriend, and while I can T32 a PTQ if the heart of the cards is with me, I'm not Pro Tour material and don't really want to be. I'd be perfectly happy with shop-level tourneys (cheaper! closer!) if I didn't have the boy taking me along to bigger ones.
I've got high compulsiveness, and have a demanding job which I have the kind of addictive relationship to that some people have with Magic. I'm a lifelong atheist, a blunt-spoken feminist, and an introvert. I'm taller than most, smarter than most, and could eventually make more bank than most (all of which bother the heck out of insecure guys). And I play Magic, though as a straight female, that's an advantage - it's how I met my current BF.
That said, I'm very loyal and patient. I see relationships as a partnership, and I make sure the partner knows I have their back, by word and deed. I can communicate honestly, and I'm empathetic enough to pick up on what the other person needs. And I'm mature enough to pick battles and let little things go.
I'm dating a Magic-addict PTQ grinder. We're both hard sells...but we get each other, and it's going well. There's a key to every lock, I guess.