A 15 year old girl apparently was acting like a spoiled brat for a while and eventually posted a profanity-laden tirade to her Facebook account about how much she hated doing chores and crap like that. You know, the typical "I hate doing dishes and sweeping wah wah wah my dad so so damn evil!!!!111" She didn't think her dad would find it, but he did and he posted a video response on YouTube, calling out his daughter for being the spoiled brat she was. He then ends the video by pulling out his pistol and literally unloads a whole clip on his daughter's laptop.
Thoughts on what the dad did? Apparently from what he was describing his daughter definitely needed to be punished quite severely (especially since she was a persistent troublemaker) and had it coming to her, but posting a video on YouTube for the whole world to see was out of line. I feel that if you need to discipline your child, you should just do it in private. No need to stoop to his daughter's level, especially when parents are supposed to be role models. And I don't agree with shooting her laptop either. While it does get the point across, why not do something productive like sell the laptop or donate it to charity? Putting over half a dozen .45 ACP rounds into something very expensive comes off as irrational.
He's an asshat. He shouldn't have been reading her Facebook in the first place, and even putting that aside, destroying her possessions is not the reasonable response to seeing that she posted a stupid message.
In fact, it's the sort of thing I'd expect a fifteen-year-old to do.
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He's an asshat. He shouldn't have been reading her Facebook in the first place, and even putting that aside, destroying her possessions is not the reasonable response to seeing that she posted a stupid message.
In fact, it's the sort of thing I'd expect a fifteen-year-old to do.
Agreed, couldn't agree more. Was she stupid? Yes. But I know damn well that everyone one here has vented about their parents before. Its a part of growing up, and its psychologically healthy. And guess what? Parents also vent about kids.
Video isn't working for me. What other kind of terrible things has she supposedly done?
I agreed with him at first, but as time went on, I see why she's like this. the "lets shot it" mentality..... yea, leaves a lot to wonder why your kid is like that....
and she wants money for chores. Chores are work. Shes 15...... pay her the goddamn 20-30 dollars a week and maybe you wouldnt be having to deal with this man
Why? Whats so special about "private". She herself didn't make a private indiscretion but a public one.
He has presented himself as a quite up to date role model, acknowledging the internet age and social networks. World isn't stuck in the 20th century, and parents shouldn't be stuck either.
For all intents and purposes a Facebook profile is private (even if it isn't legally considered private). 99% of the time the only people looking at the updates are the ones who are her Facebook friends.
Oh. and private is special because everyone derserve some. Even kids from parents
Its not like she posted a sign in the lawn, and in fact 99% of the population would not know about this "disrespect" if he had not posted a video about it.
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I'm really mixed about it - the video, the invasion of privacy, the shooting the laptop.
I would not have made a video about it. I imagine he expected some response possibly from other parents who could rally behind him or that he could somehow be a part of getting other kids under control. I am just speculating. However, I don't think any of the parents or kids he might be targeting with this video will even care.
As for the invasion of privacy? There is a balance. I don't think a father checking up on his daughter is a bad thing. I know many will disagree with me here, but I think that's simply good parenting. There is, however, a such thing as too much. I don't think he crossed the line here.
Shooting the laptop? Well, it's his property so he can do whatever he wants to it. Still, it's senseless and stupid.
I find it hard to comprehend that posting on facebook actually means private.
When you post something on a facebook wall it ceases to be private. Thats the way internet works, in every possible intent and purpose I am aware of in this day and age.
Not in a sense that it becomes public property (acta, sope, we), but that the intent of the poster is specifacally that to make it not private.
Okay, think about this...
How many people that have not been invited to her Facebook page are actually viewing it? Before this whole fiasco.
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Agree with the action, particular making a spectacle of it. Even better would have been taking her out and making her watch him shoot the laptop. That would have burned the point into her mind. He bought it, and has every right to use it as an instrument to teach her a valuable lesson about life.
Completely disagree with the youtube video. The reprisal was fair, but publicly demonstrating it wasn't a smart idea.
To add a bit more to the conversation, here's some follow-up commentary from the dad, in light of his video going viral. The link also links to his FB page, where you can get some more of his insight.
Personally, it sounds to me like he and his daughter have a good relationship. What he did might have been extreme (or...maybe not), but it sounds like they've come to an agreement.
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To add a bit more to the conversation, here's some follow-up commentary from the dad, in light of his video going viral. The link also links to his FB page, where you can get some more of his insight.
Personally, it sounds to me like he and his daughter have a good relationship. What he did might have been extreme (or...maybe not), but it sounds like they've come to an agreement.
Well I wouldn't be surprised if Child Protective Services weren't called after that went viral.
I've got mixed feelings too. When it comes to snooping on your child, the outcome of your findings can justify your behavior. That is to say, although shooting a laptop because of whiny comments is silly, the parent is doing something right, and that's checking to make sure his daughter is not being threatened online.
There's not a lot of privacy for a normal internet user, and there's a whole lot of danger for young girls and boys. If I were a father, I would not want my daughter exposing herself on cam to be uploaded on motherless. I wouldn't want my daughter sending naked pics of herself to anyone. I wouldn't want strangers to be talking to her on any kind of social network. I think it's the parent's job to educate and protect their children.
So I don't think what the guy did was totally wrong - it could be good to deny a child a personal computer to force them to use a shared computer to discourage shady things. If the guy discovered a transaction of nudes between her daughter and a stranger on facebook, I think a lot of people would be reacting differently towards the video. But the whole shooting the laptop and publicizing the act, yeah that was a little weird.
When you act like this as a parent, I don't see how you can be surprised that your daughter acts out. I mean seriously. He shot up the kids laptop. Really? What is a teenager supposed to learn from this? How to inappropriately express your frustration and how to waste money? Good job buddy.
And besides, people(including children and teenagers) need an outlet to be able to express their frustrations. Adults use facebook to ***** about their friends/family/co-workers/random strangers all of the time. Why wouldn't kids? This is normal and healthy. It would be much worse if she went and broke something. Like a laptop. By shooting it. My kids have facebook, with the stipulation that I am on all of their friend lists. But if they use it to complain about decisions that we make that they don't like, that is fine. It's not like they're going to magically agree with everything that I say as a parent. I don't care if they ***** about it, as long as they do it anyway.
Anyone that thinks that this would a good action on his parent probably isn't a parent. Or at least I hope they're not, and don't become one unless they do a ton of growing up themselves first.
@el pato: Snooping doesn't magically become justified if you happen to find something. What if you didn't? Are you never going to snoop again? Are you going to go to the person that you were spying on and admit your wrongdoing? I doubt it. Should the government wiretap people just to see if they're doing something wrong? Obviously not. As a parent, invading your kids privacy is no difference. If you don't trust your children, they will never trust themselves either(or anyone else). If you have a valid reason BEFOREHAND, that is another story. But just going through your kids crap because 'you're the parent' is completely unacceptable. When you do that, you are virtually guaranteeing that they will eventually find out, and then they will just rebel anyway.
This is the equivalent of her ranting about her parents to her friends, then her dad spying on her, and getting buttfrustrated. I ranted about my parents all the time to my friends, it's a natural thing to do, because you want to be more independent when you aren't actually ready.
I don't hold this girl responsible at all, I blame her dad for spying on her and getting egotistical when she doesn't act exactly how he wants her to.
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and she wants money for chores. Chores are work. Shes 15...... pay her the goddamn 20-30 dollars a week and maybe you wouldnt be having to deal with this man
Her chores sound entirely reasonable. According to his description, at least, she's barely doing anything. And in the beginning of the video he talked about all the stuff he just paid for her computer and the work he did on it.
Honestly I'm the first to come down harshly on parents but I respect this. Yeah obviously, shooting the laptop was extreme. But really, the girl is an idiot posting that stuff on facebook and she sounds like a spoiled brat. And she doesn't think she owes him any respect so he doesn't owe her any either IMO.
Poor Hannah...life is just so messed up. Doing her own laundry wiping the counters sweeping the floors making a bed and pouring a cup of coffee. Jeez if I were her I run away to Mexico where life is easy.
And in the beginning of the video he talked about all the stuff he just paid for her computer and the work he did on it.
That's pretty much what irritated me about the video. He pays for her laptop, pays to upgrade it and get software for it... then destroys it and declares he's going to get all that money back from her? That's just going overboard no matter how you slice it (and declaring he wants to be reimbursed for the bullets is just petty), plus it's a waste of perfectly good resources. If it were me and I decided a permanent solution was necessary, I'd just take the laptop, format it, and use it myself. You know, "I paid for all this, it's mine, you using it is a privilege which you've just lost."
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Pretty much. The reaction was just so extreme that I doubt the daughter's actually going to learn anything from it.
I applaud his creativity, but he overreacted to a small context. Fifteen year olds don't have a lot of access to "great jobs" well at least through application processes. Depending on the area, there's a high unemployment rate. It just might have been better to start teaching her how to work on her own laptop and doing her own software and hardware work.
Modeling good behavior doesn't stop when you cut the apron strings, it's a life long process. It is a process on how to do work, it is a process to include them in what you do when appropriate and possible, and to show them what you know so they at least have an idea of what is possible for them in the future. At least then she could've had her own business eventually fixing her school friend's computers and buying up old pieces of gear to fix and resell.
An application, the hell does one "application that I made you write out" do? That's not teaching work ethic and creating passion for work, it's just making a chore by reinforcing whining.
Sniveling and ruining good property do little by not illuminating a path forward.
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And if your father happened to have been behind and overheard your ranting I guess everything would have been just dandy.
No, because I wouldn't do it in front of him. I would do it somewhere he wouldn't normally be.
It's the exact same thing with her on fb. Based on the video, I believe she hid a status from her parents and her dad logged onto her facebook and read it. That's the equivalent of my dad (back when I was in high school) following me around in school to make sure I don't badmouth him. It's pathetic on the father's part.
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No, because I wouldn't do it in front of him. I would do it somewhere he wouldn't normally be.
It's the exact same thing with her on fb. Based on the video, I believe she hid a status from her parents and her dad logged onto her facebook and read it. That's the equivalent of my dad (back when I was in high school) following me around in school to make sure I don't badmouth him. It's pathetic on the father's part.
I'd tend to disagree that it's like your "father wandering around school," it maybe a tad more private than this forum "supposedly" however with the "friends of friends" privacy setting it can be potentially much higher. Facebook is just a forum, not your high school. And until we know all the stupid little norms that are coming out of Facebook and how they will affect future employment, it's often better to treat it with a bit of conservatism. Equally, this guy should've treated it with a bit more conservatism rather than going "red neck" on the laptop.
Facebook is semi-public semi-private without many norms for the "rest of society," we're still grappling with the technology. Granted most of the norms are obvious, however the question over "child's privacy rights" I'd fathom until we have strict laws that deal with employment and the like he had a right to be pissed.
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He's gonna get screwed in his professional life for this more than likely.
That being said the response was BEAUTIFUL, I vomited rainbows, there are millions of girls like that in this country just like that, to see one actually get what she deserves, it really is wonderful. She has the duties of picking up after herself, she is so spoiled that she feels like a "slave" (lololololololol), and rather than be like far too many parents nowadays ACTUALLY PUTS HER IN HER PLACE.
Basically, while the world will ridiculously that this guy is the bad guy, I have a new hero.
Well I wouldn't be surprised if Child Protective Services weren't called after that went viral.
Why, so they can investigate whether he locks his gun up? There are no threats, just destruction of his own property.
Personally I wouldn't go around shooting it, but he seems to act like the money isn't that big of a deal.
Personally I like the idea of paying her to do the chores and letting her buy her own laptop cord.
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That being said the response was BEAUTIFUL, I vomited rainbows, there are millions of girls like that in this country just like that, to see one actually get what she deserves, it really is wonderful. She has the duties of picking up after herself, she is so spoiled that she feels like a "slave" (lololololololol), and rather than be like far too many parents nowadays ACTUALLY PUTS HER IN HER PLACE.
Inasmuch as it's a very heavy-handed response that satisfies some desire of the father's to punish his daughter as much as he can (also fueling the audience's schadenfreude), the daughter really doesn't "deserve" a disproportionate response that will ultimately teach her nothing. It's normal for teenagers to lash out at their parents and say things they regret later. To say she's been "put in her place" is missing the obvious that these actions are more than likely going to add fuel to the fire—and maybe teach her to do her complaining in more discreet ways. There's a reason modern parenting theory has a habit of discouraging authoritarian parenting styles.
The father wants respect, but respect is never forced. More likely he'll get the illusion of respect, which is largely worthless.
I can definitely see where this man is coming from, and I very much so agree with his 'heavy handed' method of dealing with the problem. It was fairly obvious by her reaction to the first incident that she had zero respect or appreciation for what her parents do for her and why she was punished. When she should have grown from it she didn't, and got petty enough to post it on FaceBook. Twenty years ago, it might have taken a literal beating to punish her. Now, it takes a strong youtube video and the public will do it for you.
Inasmuch as it's a very heavy-handed response that satisfies some desire of the father's to punish his daughter as much as he can (also fueling the audience's schadenfreude), the daughter really doesn't "deserve" a disproportionate response that will ultimately teach her nothing. It's normal for teenagers to lash out at their parents and say things they regret later. To say she's been "put in her place" is missing the obvious that these actions are more than likely going to add fuel to the fire—and maybe teach her to do her complaining in more discreet ways. There's a reason modern parenting theory has a habit of discouraging authoritarian parenting styles.
The father wants respect, but respect is never forced. More likely he'll get the illusion of respect, which is largely worthless.
Maybe you should read Coffee's link. While shooting the lap top may seem like extreme overkill and 'wont teach her anything', I guarantee that the social media aspect where the general community by and large punishes her is going to hurt her just as much, if not more. I say this because the words of complete strangers in response to her fathers action that she saw scared her pretty darn straight
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I'm not sure I understand the sentiment in this thread. The girl is a 15 year old who's disconnected from reality in regards to chores and her responsibilities as a member of a family. She's being handed expensive gifts on a silver platter and still complaining about life.
To the idea that facebook should be a completely private thing that dad shouldn't access? This is complete hogwash. Should this have been a situation were she was posting suicide threats on Facebook and attempted to take her own life, people would be saying Dad should have been reading her facebook to see what was going on. I completely support the idea of checking on your child's Facebook account to make sure there's nothing going on in her life that you should know about but don't.
As for his response, he didn't take this public. She did. She chose the forum for this particular discussion. If she had screamed about it in front of her friends and he punished her in front of them, he'd still have been responding correctly. If she takes it to the internet, he can too. This was an attempt to get her to take him seriously.
When it comes to shooting the laptop, I don't think it was a good use of resources, but I don't disagree with him. It's there to get the point across. He's punishing her in a way that gets to her in the heart of hearts, as sad as that is. Taking away her computer. This isn't taking away the power cord or battery. He's not changing her password. He isn't doing something she can fix or change. This is permanent.
Chances are, guns and the like are a known quantity in their house. I doubt the fact he used a gun was shocking. Furthermore, apparently he had warned her that if she continued her behavior, he'd shoot it. He's proving he doesn't make empty threats and that he will punish her exactly as he says he will.
This is good parenting. Over the top? Yes. Disproportionate response? Yes. Bad parenting? No.
Thoughts on what the dad did? Apparently from what he was describing his daughter definitely needed to be punished quite severely (especially since she was a persistent troublemaker) and had it coming to her, but posting a video on YouTube for the whole world to see was out of line. I feel that if you need to discipline your child, you should just do it in private. No need to stoop to his daughter's level, especially when parents are supposed to be role models. And I don't agree with shooting her laptop either. While it does get the point across, why not do something productive like sell the laptop or donate it to charity? Putting over half a dozen .45 ACP rounds into something very expensive comes off as irrational.
In fact, it's the sort of thing I'd expect a fifteen-year-old to do.
Video isn't working for me. What other kind of terrible things has she supposedly done?
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Youtube just perpetuates this sentiment.
and she wants money for chores. Chores are work. Shes 15...... pay her the goddamn 20-30 dollars a week and maybe you wouldnt be having to deal with this man
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Its not like she posted a sign in the lawn, and in fact 99% of the population would not know about this "disrespect" if he had not posted a video about it.
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I would not have made a video about it. I imagine he expected some response possibly from other parents who could rally behind him or that he could somehow be a part of getting other kids under control. I am just speculating. However, I don't think any of the parents or kids he might be targeting with this video will even care.
As for the invasion of privacy? There is a balance. I don't think a father checking up on his daughter is a bad thing. I know many will disagree with me here, but I think that's simply good parenting. There is, however, a such thing as too much. I don't think he crossed the line here.
Shooting the laptop? Well, it's his property so he can do whatever he wants to it. Still, it's senseless and stupid.
How many people that have not been invited to her Facebook page are actually viewing it? Before this whole fiasco.
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Completely disagree with the youtube video. The reprisal was fair, but publicly demonstrating it wasn't a smart idea.
http://twentytwowords.com/2012/02/10/follow-up-from-the-dad-who-shot-his-daughters-computer/
Personally, it sounds to me like he and his daughter have a good relationship. What he did might have been extreme (or...maybe not), but it sounds like they've come to an agreement.
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Well I wouldn't be surprised if Child Protective Services weren't called after that went viral.
There's not a lot of privacy for a normal internet user, and there's a whole lot of danger for young girls and boys. If I were a father, I would not want my daughter exposing herself on cam to be uploaded on motherless. I wouldn't want my daughter sending naked pics of herself to anyone. I wouldn't want strangers to be talking to her on any kind of social network. I think it's the parent's job to educate and protect their children.
So I don't think what the guy did was totally wrong - it could be good to deny a child a personal computer to force them to use a shared computer to discourage shady things. If the guy discovered a transaction of nudes between her daughter and a stranger on facebook, I think a lot of people would be reacting differently towards the video. But the whole shooting the laptop and publicizing the act, yeah that was a little weird.
And besides, people(including children and teenagers) need an outlet to be able to express their frustrations. Adults use facebook to ***** about their friends/family/co-workers/random strangers all of the time. Why wouldn't kids? This is normal and healthy. It would be much worse if she went and broke something. Like a laptop. By shooting it. My kids have facebook, with the stipulation that I am on all of their friend lists. But if they use it to complain about decisions that we make that they don't like, that is fine. It's not like they're going to magically agree with everything that I say as a parent. I don't care if they ***** about it, as long as they do it anyway.
Anyone that thinks that this would a good action on his parent probably isn't a parent. Or at least I hope they're not, and don't become one unless they do a ton of growing up themselves first.
@el pato: Snooping doesn't magically become justified if you happen to find something. What if you didn't? Are you never going to snoop again? Are you going to go to the person that you were spying on and admit your wrongdoing? I doubt it. Should the government wiretap people just to see if they're doing something wrong? Obviously not. As a parent, invading your kids privacy is no difference. If you don't trust your children, they will never trust themselves either(or anyone else). If you have a valid reason BEFOREHAND, that is another story. But just going through your kids crap because 'you're the parent' is completely unacceptable. When you do that, you are virtually guaranteeing that they will eventually find out, and then they will just rebel anyway.
This is the equivalent of her ranting about her parents to her friends, then her dad spying on her, and getting buttfrustrated. I ranted about my parents all the time to my friends, it's a natural thing to do, because you want to be more independent when you aren't actually ready.
I don't hold this girl responsible at all, I blame her dad for spying on her and getting egotistical when she doesn't act exactly how he wants her to.
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Her chores sound entirely reasonable. According to his description, at least, she's barely doing anything. And in the beginning of the video he talked about all the stuff he just paid for her computer and the work he did on it.
Honestly I'm the first to come down harshly on parents but I respect this. Yeah obviously, shooting the laptop was extreme. But really, the girl is an idiot posting that stuff on facebook and she sounds like a spoiled brat. And she doesn't think she owes him any respect so he doesn't owe her any either IMO.
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That's pretty much what irritated me about the video. He pays for her laptop, pays to upgrade it and get software for it... then destroys it and declares he's going to get all that money back from her? That's just going overboard no matter how you slice it (and declaring he wants to be reimbursed for the bullets is just petty), plus it's a waste of perfectly good resources. If it were me and I decided a permanent solution was necessary, I'd just take the laptop, format it, and use it myself. You know, "I paid for all this, it's mine, you using it is a privilege which you've just lost."
Pretty much. The reaction was just so extreme that I doubt the daughter's actually going to learn anything from it.
Modeling good behavior doesn't stop when you cut the apron strings, it's a life long process. It is a process on how to do work, it is a process to include them in what you do when appropriate and possible, and to show them what you know so they at least have an idea of what is possible for them in the future. At least then she could've had her own business eventually fixing her school friend's computers and buying up old pieces of gear to fix and resell.
An application, the hell does one "application that I made you write out" do? That's not teaching work ethic and creating passion for work, it's just making a chore by reinforcing whining.
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No, because I wouldn't do it in front of him. I would do it somewhere he wouldn't normally be.
It's the exact same thing with her on fb. Based on the video, I believe she hid a status from her parents and her dad logged onto her facebook and read it. That's the equivalent of my dad (back when I was in high school) following me around in school to make sure I don't badmouth him. It's pathetic on the father's part.
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I'd tend to disagree that it's like your "father wandering around school," it maybe a tad more private than this forum "supposedly" however with the "friends of friends" privacy setting it can be potentially much higher. Facebook is just a forum, not your high school. And until we know all the stupid little norms that are coming out of Facebook and how they will affect future employment, it's often better to treat it with a bit of conservatism. Equally, this guy should've treated it with a bit more conservatism rather than going "red neck" on the laptop.
Facebook is semi-public semi-private without many norms for the "rest of society," we're still grappling with the technology. Granted most of the norms are obvious, however the question over "child's privacy rights" I'd fathom until we have strict laws that deal with employment and the like he had a right to be pissed.
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That being said the response was BEAUTIFUL, I vomited rainbows, there are millions of girls like that in this country just like that, to see one actually get what she deserves, it really is wonderful. She has the duties of picking up after herself, she is so spoiled that she feels like a "slave" (lololololololol), and rather than be like far too many parents nowadays ACTUALLY PUTS HER IN HER PLACE.
Basically, while the world will ridiculously that this guy is the bad guy, I have a new hero.
Why, so they can investigate whether he locks his gun up? There are no threats, just destruction of his own property.
Personally I wouldn't go around shooting it, but he seems to act like the money isn't that big of a deal.
Personally I like the idea of paying her to do the chores and letting her buy her own laptop cord.
Inasmuch as it's a very heavy-handed response that satisfies some desire of the father's to punish his daughter as much as he can (also fueling the audience's schadenfreude), the daughter really doesn't "deserve" a disproportionate response that will ultimately teach her nothing. It's normal for teenagers to lash out at their parents and say things they regret later. To say she's been "put in her place" is missing the obvious that these actions are more than likely going to add fuel to the fire—and maybe teach her to do her complaining in more discreet ways. There's a reason modern parenting theory has a habit of discouraging authoritarian parenting styles.
The father wants respect, but respect is never forced. More likely he'll get the illusion of respect, which is largely worthless.
Maybe you should read Coffee's link. While shooting the lap top may seem like extreme overkill and 'wont teach her anything', I guarantee that the social media aspect where the general community by and large punishes her is going to hurt her just as much, if not more. I say this because the words of complete strangers in response to her fathers action that she saw scared her pretty darn straight
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To the idea that facebook should be a completely private thing that dad shouldn't access? This is complete hogwash. Should this have been a situation were she was posting suicide threats on Facebook and attempted to take her own life, people would be saying Dad should have been reading her facebook to see what was going on. I completely support the idea of checking on your child's Facebook account to make sure there's nothing going on in her life that you should know about but don't.
As for his response, he didn't take this public. She did. She chose the forum for this particular discussion. If she had screamed about it in front of her friends and he punished her in front of them, he'd still have been responding correctly. If she takes it to the internet, he can too. This was an attempt to get her to take him seriously.
When it comes to shooting the laptop, I don't think it was a good use of resources, but I don't disagree with him. It's there to get the point across. He's punishing her in a way that gets to her in the heart of hearts, as sad as that is. Taking away her computer. This isn't taking away the power cord or battery. He's not changing her password. He isn't doing something she can fix or change. This is permanent.
Chances are, guns and the like are a known quantity in their house. I doubt the fact he used a gun was shocking. Furthermore, apparently he had warned her that if she continued her behavior, he'd shoot it. He's proving he doesn't make empty threats and that he will punish her exactly as he says he will.
This is good parenting. Over the top? Yes. Disproportionate response? Yes. Bad parenting? No.
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