MTG Salvation

Quote from Wildfire393

So yeah, there's a lot of problems going on here.

1) Her approach of telling you her rape story and then demanding that you disclose information about yourself to her is definitely emotional manipulation. (Sidenote, should you really be revealing her personal life to the internet?) As others have said, her information was freely given with no promise from you, expecting that you reciprocate is misguided, and becoming upset over it is definitely wrong. Especially given that she volunteered that information when you two were not even dating yet.

2) Her insistence on telling her parents *everything* is a major red flag. If this is something that you don't want to be public knowledge for whatever reason, the fact that she would immediately turn around and tell other people about it, against your express wishes, is reason enough to not tell her. It's also reason enough to not continue a relationship with her.

3) However, we cannot place all of the blame squarely on her. You have told her that you have a medical condition, without revealing the specifics or even the scope. In her position, I would put that as a reason not to continue a relationship with you. What is the point in investing several more months into the relationship when your eventual revelation could be a dealbreaker? Worse yet, what if your intent is to hide this information until she is so emotionally invested that she could not in good conscience break off the relationship, despite the fact that she would then be consigned to, for example, taking care of a severe Alzheimer's patient for the rest of her life?

IF you want to continue the relationship (and that seems like a fairly big if, given 1 and 2), you need to address 3 as well. My suggestion would be to talk to her, and tell her that you are willing to disclose your medical condition, but only under the conditions that it stays between you and her; she cannot tell her parents. If she cannot accept that, then the relationship needs to end. This talk does not need to happen immediately, but I would recommend that it happens soon, likely within the next two months.

Quote from donasdux

Anyone considered running a 2-of Bojuka Bog at least in the SB for Valakut/Elf decks that run Vengvine, or even against the mirror? Hold back and when they have a Bloodghast or 2 in the garveyard, cast it?
Just thinking out loud I guess......