So, just as some background information: there's this thing gamers call tilting, which basically happens when you lose enough games in a row that you snap, become immensely frustrated with everything and perform even worse because of that. A humorous blog called Hyperbole and a Half had a post about a very similar thing.
I was wondering if you guys have experienced this as well, and how you deal with it.
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In terms of playing magic? I usually just try to exit as gracefully as I can. No one wants to play with a sore sport, so when I feel that irritation coming on I usually figure it's time to call it quits for the night.
The thing about a rage spiral is that it usually results from you taking everything too seriously. I always had anger management issues as a kid, and I usually learned to cope by reminding myself that I'm being melodramatic. It's just a card game (or whatever the issues is), after all. Don't take every bad thing that happens to you personally.
Really, there are no easy techniques. Take some deep breaths, in through the nose out through the mouth, and try to force yourself to relax. You have to WANT to relax, though, which is the hardest part. It's easy to hold on to anger, it's not easy to let it go.
Having a good sense of humor about it helps, too. I'm usually very self-depricating when I play, even if I'm annoyed (at myself, or at whomever). It helps deflate me, and as a bonus it makes me more likeable to the rest of the table.
In terms of playing magic? I usually just try to exit as gracefully as I can. No one wants to play with a sore sport, so when I feel that irritation coming on I usually figure it's time to call it quits for the night.
The thing about a rage spiral is that it usually results from you taking everything too seriously. I always had anger management issues as a kid, and I usually learned to cope by reminding myself that I'm being melodramatic. It's just a card game (or whatever the issues is), after all. Don't take every bad thing that happens to you personally.
Really, there are no easy techniques. Take some deep breaths, in through the nose out through the mouth, and try to force yourself to relax. You have to WANT to relax, though, which is the hardest part. It's easy to hold on to anger, it's not easy to let it go.
Having a good sense of humor about it helps, too. I'm usually very self-depricating when I play, even if I'm annoyed (at myself, or at whomever). It helps deflate me, and as a bonus it makes me more likeable to the rest of the table.
Those are pretty decent tips, actually. I tend to lose all sense of self-decripating humour when I get into the rage spiral.
As for the origin of this question: today it was set off, after a week of stress, bad sleeping and overall bad luck in general when I had to renew my ID card and got preached at for five minutes about how I wasn't able to do so because I did not bring in my passport, which had expired. I was angry at my croissant and faces on the bus and it took me the entire day to snap out of it.
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I play league of legends and tilting is an absolutely integral part of the game. I've played league for 4-5 years now and I can say that I no longer tilt when I lose.
Maybe i'm "burnt out" from league and I no longer care as much as I did back when I first started but I still play a decent amount. I've stopped dwelling on the losses and instead I just look to the next game and leave everything from the previous one behind except for what can be learned from losing that game. This wasn't something I just decided on, this came with time and was a very natural progression. One of the best examples I can give from a LoL perspectives is this interview
around the 6 minute mark, Saintvicious is asked about how he feels about being potentially back into the LCS after being in and out for so long. His response is that he's been playing so long that he simply doesn't feel anything and that is exactly how I feel about this particular game now.
As for the origin of this question: today it was set off, after a week of stress, bad sleeping and overall bad luck in general when I had to renew my ID card and got preached at for five minutes about how I wasn't able to do so because I did not bring in my passport, which had expired. I was angry at my croissant and faces on the bus and it took me the entire day to snap out of it.
I'd also examine if your environment is toxic. What patterns do you usually find yourself in when you're starting to spiral? How can you break those patterns? For me, I found that doing just 20-30 minutes of cardio a couple times a week (usually regularly, but if I miss days I'll go when I feel myself becoming irritable for no reason) really helped reset my mood. Moving out of a place where I had a lot of bad memories was another thing that really changed how I was able to handle stress. Forcing myself to do chores right away when I get home and keeping my apartment clean so that those little stresses aren't there on top of everything else also helped me a lot.
*Raises hand* So, why are you doing this thing in the first place?
I assume the game in question is Magic, right? Why'd you start playing Magic in the first place?
I haven't this happen to me in Magic, I think. I've had it in DOTA2 and WoT, but also in real life, as I said in my previous post, when a streak of bad luck/stress can make me angry at everything.
I play league of legends and tilting is an absolutely integral part of the game. I've played league for 4-5 years now and I can say that I no longer tilt when I lose.
Maybe i'm "burnt out" from league and I no longer care as much as I did back when I first started but I still play a decent amount. I've stopped dwelling on the losses and instead I just look to the next game and leave everything from the previous one behind except for what can be learned from losing that game. This wasn't something I just decided on, this came with time and was a very natural progression. One of the best examples I can give from a LoL perspectives is this interview
around the 6 minute mark, Saintvicious is asked about how he feels about being potentially back into the LCS after being in and out for so long. His response is that he's been playing so long that he simply doesn't feel anything and that is exactly how I feel about this particular game now.
When I get to the point I don't care about the game any more, I usually stop playing, since I don't really care about playing either at that point. Case in point: I've been taking an extended break from World of Tanks for a while now.
As for the origin of this question: today it was set off, after a week of stress, bad sleeping and overall bad luck in general when I had to renew my ID card and got preached at for five minutes about how I wasn't able to do so because I did not bring in my passport, which had expired. I was angry at my croissant and faces on the bus and it took me the entire day to snap out of it.
I'd also examine if your environment is toxic. What patterns do you usually find yourself in when you're starting to spiral? How can you break those patterns? For me, I found that doing just 20-30 minutes of cardio a couple times a week (usually regularly, but if I miss days I'll go when I feel myself becoming irritable for no reason) really helped reset my mood.
I should start working out again, I know. I know it helps with other psychological issues I have as well, but I can't find the time for it at the moment. I have a big project due in three weeks and I need all the hours I can get.
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When I get to the point I don't care about the game any more, I usually stop playing, since I don't really care about playing either at that point. Case in point: I've been taking an extended break from World of Tanks for a while now.
Not caring gives off the wrong connotation in this sense. The best way to describe the feeling is when you enter the state of flow and you don't care about anything other than the task that is at hand and even then, you don't put too much thought into it. It's extremely hard to put into words but if you've ever had any sports coach talk about getting into "the zone" that is the exact feeling and it counteracts tilting
As many have said, when I feel the urge coming on (while playing magic since it's the only competitive thing I do) it's time to stop playing for the night. That said, I do have two strategies that may or may not be healthy. The first is to grab a Mr. Pibb. Nothing calms me down more than a 0.5 degrees C Mr. Pibb. ICE COLD. The second thing is to rush over to the game counter and drop 20+ bucks on cards I want, but usually restrain myself from buying do to cost. I figure, 20-40 bucks and a soda is a small price to pay a few times a year rather than becoming "That Guy" at my LGS, because who want's to get thrown out of a great store?
I often catch myself tilting on pokemonshowdown.com. Instead of staying awake at night wondering if I can improve my team/(or in this case deck) or berating someone on chat like most people do I take a day or 2 off and do pretty much anything else. When you come back after a few days to a week you'll forget what the problem was most of the time and your normal gamer feeling will go back to normal.
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I was wondering if you guys have experienced this as well, and how you deal with it.
The thing about a rage spiral is that it usually results from you taking everything too seriously. I always had anger management issues as a kid, and I usually learned to cope by reminding myself that I'm being melodramatic. It's just a card game (or whatever the issues is), after all. Don't take every bad thing that happens to you personally.
Really, there are no easy techniques. Take some deep breaths, in through the nose out through the mouth, and try to force yourself to relax. You have to WANT to relax, though, which is the hardest part. It's easy to hold on to anger, it's not easy to let it go.
Having a good sense of humor about it helps, too. I'm usually very self-depricating when I play, even if I'm annoyed (at myself, or at whomever). It helps deflate me, and as a bonus it makes me more likeable to the rest of the table.
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Those are pretty decent tips, actually. I tend to lose all sense of self-decripating humour when I get into the rage spiral.
As for the origin of this question: today it was set off, after a week of stress, bad sleeping and overall bad luck in general when I had to renew my ID card and got preached at for five minutes about how I wasn't able to do so because I did not bring in my passport, which had expired. I was angry at my croissant and faces on the bus and it took me the entire day to snap out of it.
I assume the game in question is Magic, right? Why'd you start playing Magic in the first place?
Maybe i'm "burnt out" from league and I no longer care as much as I did back when I first started but I still play a decent amount. I've stopped dwelling on the losses and instead I just look to the next game and leave everything from the previous one behind except for what can be learned from losing that game. This wasn't something I just decided on, this came with time and was a very natural progression. One of the best examples I can give from a LoL perspectives is this interview
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r02oczQ7CU8
around the 6 minute mark, Saintvicious is asked about how he feels about being potentially back into the LCS after being in and out for so long. His response is that he's been playing so long that he simply doesn't feel anything and that is exactly how I feel about this particular game now.
I'd also examine if your environment is toxic. What patterns do you usually find yourself in when you're starting to spiral? How can you break those patterns? For me, I found that doing just 20-30 minutes of cardio a couple times a week (usually regularly, but if I miss days I'll go when I feel myself becoming irritable for no reason) really helped reset my mood. Moving out of a place where I had a lot of bad memories was another thing that really changed how I was able to handle stress. Forcing myself to do chores right away when I get home and keeping my apartment clean so that those little stresses aren't there on top of everything else also helped me a lot.
You should probably go ahead and clarify what you mean here.
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I haven't this happen to me in Magic, I think. I've had it in DOTA2 and WoT, but also in real life, as I said in my previous post, when a streak of bad luck/stress can make me angry at everything.
When I get to the point I don't care about the game any more, I usually stop playing, since I don't really care about playing either at that point. Case in point: I've been taking an extended break from World of Tanks for a while now.
I should start working out again, I know. I know it helps with other psychological issues I have as well, but I can't find the time for it at the moment. I have a big project due in three weeks and I need all the hours I can get.
I mean exactly what I said... shooting stuff in general is a great stress reliever like punching a pillow.
Not caring gives off the wrong connotation in this sense. The best way to describe the feeling is when you enter the state of flow and you don't care about anything other than the task that is at hand and even then, you don't put too much thought into it. It's extremely hard to put into words but if you've ever had any sports coach talk about getting into "the zone" that is the exact feeling and it counteracts tilting
I agree, but I meant you should probably be specific in that you mean shooting targets, yes? I didn't want to misconstrue what you were saying.
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a program of a slightly different strain.
Tonight my listeners, a new power will rise,
unleashed upon you all in this musical disguise.
Your cities turn to ash, for the broadcast is cursed.
The signal is peaking and can't be reversed.
If you choose my children, you can try to hide.
But I strongly suggest you run for your life."
-The Sermon 2, The Creepshow