Don´t laugh at me, please :P. I am sixteen turning on seventeen years old. Around 5 months ago I met this ´´girl´´...she was a friend of my sister, eho is a couple of of years older than me. The person in question is 23 years old. Well, I met her last Christmas Eve and stayed at her house for about three weeks because my family was moving and she offered to take me in while that happened. The move was from Florida to Mexico. My first thought upon seeing her at the airport, ´´wow, she´s stunning!´´. She had the physical traits any normal teenager would find as perfect. Anyways, we found out we had a very similar personality and likes. She showed me the music she listened to as a teenager, told me her stories, and played board games with me. We would also go everywhere together, wether it was the shopping mall, her parents´ house, or anywhere in particular. We started getting closer and closer and closer every day, she would do things like touch my thigh, bend over in front of me, etc. She would tell me stuff like ´´I would date you if I could´´ to which I replied ´´me too´´. My sister came to visit because she was moving to NY for college. The three of us got really drunk but she guided me to my room because I could barely walk and she closed the door and started stroking my hair and other stuff. My sister left a few days later. After that, we would cuddle while watching movies and hold hands everywhere we went.It felt weird because she is 7 years older than me, but it was awesome. One day, we were cuddling and I went to kiss her cheek, but she turned to me and BAM, I ended up kissing her lips. She immediately stood up and left. She was really embarassed. That same night she told me she had turned her head on purpose, and that she really liked me. She was busy that weekened, so she couldn´t see me. At night, we would do nasty things on Skype. Finally, Monday came, so she came over to my house and we had sex that day and the entire week too. Unfortunately, my mother came in early from work one day and caught us in the act. She kept her silence as long and we stopped (obviously we didn´t stop). Fast forward 2 months and my sister came back. My now ´´girlfriend´´ got into an argument with my mother and my mother decided to break the silence with my sister. My sister now hates the girl (whose name I will not disclose) and the girl sort of hates me because she says I ruined her relationship with my family. She says I have to fix it but I do not think it´s my fault. She always curses me out but on other days she says sweet stuff to me, like if she hated me but at the same time wanted me to stay. She reminds me of my sister every day and we don´t date anymore. She´s a very lonely person, and she says that, if she didn´t have me, she would have no one. Maybe that´s why I don´t leave her. I know it´s as easy as saying ´bye´, but it´s so hard because you are left with the void that person once filled. At the same time, I feel we will never even be friends again, even if she got along with my sister again. I feel she´s manipulating me, and I´m still dumb enough to let myself be manipulated. What should I do?
Yeah, no don't feel bad about this. This girl was clearly manipulating you, despite the fact that it was essentially illegal depending on where you live. She clearly has some serious emotional issues, which are neither your problem nor your responsibility to fix. You didn't do anything wrong, just stop taking her calls/texts (block her number if you have to) and remove her from your life. She will drag you down if you let her.
Hello, my name is Patricio (Spanish for Patrick) and I am 17 years old. Today, I look back 7 months ago and realize how much my life has turned around. I might not be looking for advice, but I don´t really know how to relate well to most people and I feel like telling my story to someone. 7 months ago (December 21st, 2013, to be exact) I moved to Mexico, my home country. My dad lost his job for the second time in 2 years and we could not afford to live in the United States. I left a week before everyone because I was eager to go. My house was really tense and there is the occasional domestic violence. My mother and my dad are divorced, but it is my brother who has anger issues. Obviously, my dad does not live with us. In the two weeks that I spent alone, I met a very special person who ended up destroying me emotionally and psychologically a few months later. Of the opposite sex, of course. I was deeply in love with her but she is a destructive person. I feel that at the beginning of every relationship we only see the positive things in our partners, eventually, the negative things start to surface and we both realize that we may not be so alike, and differences also surface. At that critical point, both people can learn to live with that or a breakup happens. Usually, it is just after a couple months. Who knows, I am just a kid. That has really been my only intimate contact with someone of the opposite sex, as I was incredibly shy. Of course, I have gotten better, but some small memories still linger in my mind at night. If I get busy, I forget about it, for the most part. I have noticed it is easier for me to relate to new people now, although I think that has been mostly luck. I started going to parties/drinking/smoking some weed, but I realized that it was not really the type of stuff that I enjoy. I still drink, but very moderately. The first party I went to I ended up *****-faced drunk in less than an hour, LOL! I found an entry level job at a pawn store in February, though I only worked on Saturday due to school. I planned to work full time in the summer so I could stuff that I wanted. However, on the second day of working at the store full-time, I was called to corporate and was offered an office job on the IT/Audit departments. I accepted it. It feels weird because I am a 17 year old, but I have to go to work with my hair combed, shoes and formal clothing to an office full of adults. I work 60 hours a week, 6 days. It has been enjoyable, though. I think it will look great on my Resume. Two jobs already, that´s great! I barely have time to play Magic or video games at all. What is unfortunate is that my brother does not go to school or work, so he stays in the house all the time. When I arrive, he instantly wants to play and be in my room, but I want to have space for me. He is the same age as me. Surprisingly, I still do not know how much money I am getting paid, but right now I get a car from the company, my tuition paid (high school is not free here) and free trips to the dentist (I drank way too much coke in my puberty years). I think my life is going in the right track, but sometimes I get really sad because I miss her (how she was when we first met) and I am afraid of failure/rejection. I am quite handsome, but I always get rejected by girls, haha. I will have to leave when I go to college because I want to study abroad, but my family cannot afford it, so I will have to do it on my own. Bear in mind, my father does not give us any money at all. I am the only person that writes to him without asking him for money, because I know he does not have any. My only questions are, what should I be afraid of now? Am I going on the right track? I do not know. I want to be extremely rich when I grow up.
Since this seems to still more or less directly relate to your last thread, I'm merging the two
Patoo, there is no 'right track' to success. You seem dedicated to bettering yourself, which is a fantastic goal to have, and it sounds like your experience will do good for you. Don't worry about being 'extremely rich', worry about being content with your life, think about what will actually make you happy (it's tempting to think that money alone will make you happy) and set about trying to get there. Do you really want to be extremely wealthy, or do you just not want to have to worry about money the way your family has?
In response to the first post, I'd just leave this girl be. It doesn't matter how she doesn't have anyone in her life and that she is lonely. Your relationship with her is toxic. It doesn't matter that you love cuddling or having sex with her (in Texas this is called Statutory Rape.) Your being happy is what matters.
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Patoo, there is no 'right track' to success. You seem dedicated to bettering yourself, which is a fantastic goal to have, and it sounds like your experience will do good for you. Don't worry about being 'extremely rich', worry about being content with your life, think about what will actually make you happy (it's tempting to think that money alone will make you happy) and set about trying to get there. Do you really want to be extremely wealthy, or do you just not want to have to worry about money the way your family has?
TerribleBad at Magic since 1998.A Vorthos Guide to Magic Story | Twitter | Tumblr
[Primer] Krenko | Azor | Kess | Zacama | Kumena | Sram | The Ur-Dragon | Edgar Markov | Daretti | Marath
EDH:
Zur, The Enchanter
Modern:
Burn
Legacy:
Cheeri0s
Burn