^ this. Being a nice guy means nothing. Everyone is a nice guy ~ they're also good looking, funny, educated, impressively employed or something else as well.
Yes and no. There are nice guys, and there are Nice GuysTM. The latter is the far more insidious group because they tend to make assumptions like "I've been nice to her, so she owes me a relationship/sex/whatever." Being a nice guy is always a plus... but I do agree that it's not nearly enough on its own. And the notion that being a nice guy is enough is only a hop, skip, and a jump away from turning someone into a Nice GuyTM.
Yes and no. There are nice guys, and there are Nice GuysTM. The latter is the far more insidious group because they tend to make assumptions like "I've been nice to her, so she owes me a relationship/sex/whatever." Being a nice guy is always a plus... but I do agree that it's not nearly enough on its own. And the notion that being a nice guy is enough is only a hop, skip, and a jump away from turning someone into a Nice GuyTM.
There's also the pretty boy with the entitlement attitude. The same arrogance can be seen in women. It's one of the major things to look out for in people are certain tropes that often play out in the "great game."
You should make yourself available to things that other people can benefit from. it doesn't matter if that is making money or offering a service. People become more attractive once people can "use" you if needed. Interpret it how you will.
Then you may be thinking... crap I don't do anything.........well.
CHANGE THAT! no pity party here.
"who you are inside" is the metaphorical dirt from which your fruit grows. But, you are nothing but the fruit. Women love cocktail........FRUIT!!
Like I said, there's nothing hard about it at all. You just need to be self confident enough to handle rejection. You will get rejected. A lot. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It just means you're not her type. If you take it personally, you will never get anywhere with women.
Agreed.. However, improve yourself and you will notice the "type" that women are looking for is very similar.
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Bars and clubs aren't that bad as some of the less social people make them out to be, though many people do meet their future girlfriends when they least expect it. But they still have to leave their comfort zone first.
Don't go out with an intention to "pick up" a girl. But instead just go out (with some friends if you feel anxious), be social and enjoy the time you spend whether you get a woman's number or not. Then, when you'll see women nearby and you can naturally start a conversation, rather than it feeling forced.
Online dating is legit, I met my wife on eHarmony, my sister met her husband there a few years later. Online dating is also subjective. If you do not like answering the same question 4 different ways 8 different times then do not bother. The trick with eHarmony (and other dating sites) is much like dating face to face, JUST BE YOURSELF. Also, invest some thought into what you want out of the relationship. DO you want a fling? a buddy or a wife? During my time in the USMC I learned a lot of less then admirable ways to get women into bed. Treating them like crap and lying about your personality and life goals is fine if you are just looking for a good night. SO again, take a personal inventory on what you want and follow the paths to achieve it.
If all else fails, join the Marine Corps. Survive boot camp and come home on leave in your Dress Blues. Women cannot resist the Blues.
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I think a lot of people here are not considering the local culture when commenting on this thread. The OP is from Australia, this is a country where most people go to bars after work, bars are places for more settled people where those looking for a hook up and fast action frequent clubs and lounges more often. Bars are for people to sit around, drink, meet people and enjoy a nice night.
And online dating isnt as prominent as other countries. So bars are the best way to go
You can meet a quick fling anywhere. Real life or online.
thats the one things i've never been able to grasp in understanding. "what goes into picking up the quick flings started in all places outside of the bar and club scene?
such as work, grocery, even campus.
i've seen people who can do it on a regular basis, and few who brag too much.
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Bars and clubs are fine. I met my better-half at a club and we've been together for 5+ years.
Multi-sex sports leagues, especially more laid back ones like softball, kickball, bowling, frisbee, and frisbee-golf are great places to meet people. Another fantastic way to meet gals/guys are at art or technical classes (pottery/computer/etc.) at a local community center or even a place like Michaels. If you have a dog, dog parks are awesome too, and so are coffee houses. Another method is to volunteer at a soup kitchen, library, school, etc. But if you do that, you should genuinely care about the volunteering as well.
Basically wherever the same people gather more than once is a good place to meet a potential mate.
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Yes and no. There are nice guys, and there are Nice GuysTM. The latter is the far more insidious group because they tend to make assumptions like "I've been nice to her, so she owes me a relationship/sex/whatever." Being a nice guy is always a plus... but I do agree that it's not nearly enough on its own. And the notion that being a nice guy is enough is only a hop, skip, and a jump away from turning someone into a Nice GuyTM.
There's also the pretty boy with the entitlement attitude. The same arrogance can be seen in women. It's one of the major things to look out for in people are certain tropes that often play out in the "great game."
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Then you may be thinking... crap I don't do anything.........well.
CHANGE THAT! no pity party here.
"who you are inside" is the metaphorical dirt from which your fruit grows. But, you are nothing but the fruit. Women love cocktail........FRUIT!!
Agreed.. However, improve yourself and you will notice the "type" that women are looking for is very similar.
Double posts merged. In the future, please use the edit function rather than creating a new post.
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Don't go out with an intention to "pick up" a girl. But instead just go out (with some friends if you feel anxious), be social and enjoy the time you spend whether you get a woman's number or not. Then, when you'll see women nearby and you can naturally start a conversation, rather than it feeling forced.
If all else fails, join the Marine Corps. Survive boot camp and come home on leave in your Dress Blues. Women cannot resist the Blues.
Thanks to Heroes of the Plane Studios for the amazing sig!
but many people depend on online dating as a crutch, as it justifies the belief that you don't need to go and be social in order to talk to women.
it's a supplement, not a basis, for meeting people. in the same way a vitamin is a good supplement, but you still need a nutritious diet.
And online dating isnt as prominent as other countries. So bars are the best way to go
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thats the one things i've never been able to grasp in understanding. "what goes into picking up the quick flings started in all places outside of the bar and club scene?
such as work, grocery, even campus.
i've seen people who can do it on a regular basis, and few who brag too much.
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Multi-sex sports leagues, especially more laid back ones like softball, kickball, bowling, frisbee, and frisbee-golf are great places to meet people. Another fantastic way to meet gals/guys are at art or technical classes (pottery/computer/etc.) at a local community center or even a place like Michaels. If you have a dog, dog parks are awesome too, and so are coffee houses. Another method is to volunteer at a soup kitchen, library, school, etc. But if you do that, you should genuinely care about the volunteering as well.
Basically wherever the same people gather more than once is a good place to meet a potential mate.