Without bringing up too much detail, I was hoping to get some advice on telling my family and close friends that I'm bi. I'm really at a loss for this, sadly. Any help or ideas would be very much appreciated. If more detail is needed, I'll glady submit it. Thank you.
Without bringing up too much detail, I was hoping to get some advice on telling my family and close friends that I'm bi. I'm really at a loss for this, sadly. Any help or ideas would be very much appreciated. If more detail is needed, I'll glady submit it. Thank you.
I'd recommend starting slowly and individually. If any of your close friends are GBLT, they'll likely understand. If they're out, or partially out, they might be able to offer some good advice.
For your liberal friends, don't make a big production of coming out. I don't know about your area, but where I'm from most educated people don't care about orientation. If you make a huge production out of it, they might wonder if you're trying to ask them out or something. Not a huge deal, and easily rectified, but you'll save yourself the awkwardness if you just tell them bluntly.
For your conservative close friends... treat it like telling someone that you have a different religion than them. Again, not a big deal. Just be tactful and honest.
For your family, well... they're your family. You know how to tell them better than us. What are they like?
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More detail, I can do. I live in Nova Scotia, Canada. Small town. Pitiful, really. Anyway, most of my close friends probably wouldn't care, really. Its just that I'm always so normal around them, I'm worried they may flip out a bit. As for my family...well, to put it simply, I doubt they've ever heard of a GBLT person except from tv. I don't think it would bother them too much, but then, given my frankly aweful track record with dating, they might think I'm doing it for attention. Hope that helps alittle.
Its just that I'm always so normal around them, I'm worried they may flip out a bit. .
You can be bi / gay / from another dimension / whatever and still be seen as "normal". If anything, your normalcy should allow your friends to see that being bi isn't some huge, personality changing factor. If they are your real friends, they will accept you (though they will probably ask questions like "which gender do you prefer more?", etc).
True, I guess. I just hear so many horror stories about coming out, I guess i let fear interfer with my thinking. I was going to try it tomorrow. I'll let you know how it goes.
True, I guess. I just hear so many horror stories about coming out, I guess i let fear interfer with my thinking. I was going to try it tomorrow. I'll let you know how it goes.
I still suggest talking to people on an individual basis. It doesn't need to be an event, just a several short conversations.
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I'll be sad if people don't start calling The Chain Veil "Fleetwood Mac."
I'd find the person you trust most, and tell them. Work from there. It's hard. You REALLY want to come out, but then each time you get a chance it's so easy to not do anything. Just do it, and feel free to visit the Gaymers clan thread and talk to us. We can give some advice that's a little more specific.
Seeing things like this makes me a bit sad If I was ever in this situation my family and friends would be fine about it all and it wouldn't make a difference!
Try telling the closest person to you first, then slowly tell your family if you are worried about their reactions! You are their own blood, they shouldn't care about who you love, as long as you are happy!
Best of luck! Also, go check out the Gaymers in clans!
Well, it went better then expected. At least with my friends. Went with most of them to a friends house for some games, magic and otherwise.
One of them, a guy I've had a crush on for weeks (he was the one that made me realize I did like guys), make a joking pass at me. I called him on it, and he said he did say he had feelings for me. He said if I was gay, he'd have asked me out. I said that he was in luck. Took them a second to get it, but then they figured. I explained that I'm bi, and I got a date this Friday with the guy I've had a crush on.
So, tomorrow I'll try my family. Hope it goes as well.
I'd recommend starting slowly and individually. If any of your close friends are GBLT, they'll likely understand. If they're out, or partially out, they might be able to offer some good advice.
For your liberal friends, don't make a big production of coming out. I don't know about your area, but where I'm from most educated people don't care about orientation. If you make a huge production out of it, they might wonder if you're trying to ask them out or something. Not a huge deal, and easily rectified, but you'll save yourself the awkwardness if you just tell them bluntly.
For your conservative close friends... treat it like telling someone that you have a different religion than them. Again, not a big deal. Just be tactful and honest.
For your family, well... they're your family. You know how to tell them better than us. What are they like?
You can be bi / gay / from another dimension / whatever and still be seen as "normal". If anything, your normalcy should allow your friends to see that being bi isn't some huge, personality changing factor. If they are your real friends, they will accept you (though they will probably ask questions like "which gender do you prefer more?", etc).
Why would they flip out? The moment you come out to your friends you're not going to undergo a dramatic transformation in front of them.
I still suggest talking to people on an individual basis. It doesn't need to be an event, just a several short conversations.
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Try telling the closest person to you first, then slowly tell your family if you are worried about their reactions! You are their own blood, they shouldn't care about who you love, as long as you are happy!
Best of luck! Also, go check out the Gaymers in clans!
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One of them, a guy I've had a crush on for weeks (he was the one that made me realize I did like guys), make a joking pass at me. I called him on it, and he said he did say he had feelings for me. He said if I was gay, he'd have asked me out. I said that he was in luck. Took them a second to get it, but then they figured. I explained that I'm bi, and I got a date this Friday with the guy I've had a crush on.
So, tomorrow I'll try my family. Hope it goes as well.
Thanks for all the help so far.
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