heres my situation. I'm studying through the summer and i've been seeing this girl around, really beautiful girl blonde hair blue eyes everything. I end up having one of my classes with her and i start talking to her, get a date with her for last night and have a great time.
I get home and i talk to one of my friends who knows of this girl. My friend told me some stories about the promiscuity of this girl, who has apparently slept with a solid amount of guys in the last year and what not. after cross checking this information i'm putting the number of guys she's been with in her first year of college to be 6, give or take.
I'm not looking for a one night stand, i'm looking for a relationship. On the one hand i had a great time with this girl before i found out about this and she's a great time to hang with, personality and all. I understand that the first year of college people make some bad decisions, i get that as i've made some before. My question is should i give her a clean slate, confront her about it, or not call her back. those are basically the three options, whats the feeling of the community.
So there's this great, good looking girl that you went out with and had a great time, and now you are doubting her just solely on what your friend has been telling you? Even if it's true or not it doesn't really matter.
I feel like I should stress this, and you can apply it to girls as well (just change some pronouns/nouns):
Us guys cannot worry about how many guys a girl has slept with or not, of course she is going to sleep with other guys (especially in college) and you are fooling yourself if you think that any girl you are going to meet has never been with another guy before.
Six may seem like a lot to you and me but I don't think that it's really that much in the scheme of a long thing not to give this girl a chance for. Maybe with those other guys she just wanted one night stands and now she is ready to have a bf. What does it really matter how many guys she's been with. I'm sure any other girl you meet will have done it with six other guys as well.
Case in point: Don't worry about any of this! Go out with the girl, have a great time, and determine if you/she want(s) a relationship or not.
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heres my situation. I'm studying through the summer and i've been seeing this girl around, really beautiful girl blonde hair blue eyes everything. I end up having one of my classes with her and i start talking to her, get a date with her for last night and have a great time.
I get home and i talk to one of my friends who knows of this girl. My friend told me some stories about the promiscuity of this girl, who has apparently slept with a solid amount of guys in the last year and what not. after cross checking this information i'm putting the number of guys she's been with in her first year of college to be 6, give or take.
OMG 6 guys!!!!! holy crap that's like 0.016438356164383561 guys a night!!!! What a *****!!!! No way has any good woman ever slept with more than two guys ever!!!!!
I'm not looking for a one night stand, i'm looking for a relationship. On the one hand i had a great time with this girl before i found out about this and she's a great time to hang with, personality and all. I understand that the first year of college people make some bad decisions, i get that as i've made some before. My question is should i give her a clean slate, confront her about it, or not call her back. those are basically the three options, whats the feeling of the community.
QFT. You're overreacting to a non-issue. If you went on a sexless first date, you're already not a one night stand. That's all you need to know. Maybe you should just be glad that she probably actually enjoies sex, and if you're intimidated by a girl sleeping with more people than you, you're being rediculous.
You're answer: Calm down, relax, and take it slow with her if you are worried about her using you. Just don't wait too long, because she probably wants you to make a move sometime in the relationship.
And if you're waiting or not ready yet.... then tell her that without bringing up her past at all. Just sit her down, say that you want to make that clear up front, and that if she cannot handle that decision then she's isn't the girl for you.
Here's the perspective from a female (for whatever that's worth):
People do make some mistakes/bad choices in their life, and perhaps that's what this girl has done.
You haven't told us much more than the basics--she's been with X amount of guys in Y amount of time. Was she dating each guy, or just hooking up with them? If she's hooking up with them, she might not want a relationship. If she dated them...well, sometimes people don't learn after the first mistake. Or the 5th.
To me, she doesn't sound like a good match for you, as far as dating goes. She could be a good friend, but not much more than that. The way I see it, the amount of people she's been with in such a short period of time..she doesn't seem like she's looking for a relationship right now.
Good luck, whatever decision you make.
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The answer to this question is obvious. This girl is apparently going to continue on with her promiscuity. Maybe YOU had a good time. But this girl probably has a good time with all the guys she sleeps with. Some people just have that aura around them. To think that you're something more to her would be unwise.
Here's my advice:
1) Don't confront her. She won't care and she'll just laugh. That's the worse thing to do.
2) Don't give her a clean slate. Where in this story did you show that she has changed or wants to change? Some people like sleeping with random people.
3) Just walk away. I don't think she'll notice that you're missing at all.
I know it may be hard to give up on a girl you want but that's exactly the point. A dozen other guys also want her and she knows this. Now some guys are fine with that but you're not. So you shouldn't make the mistake of going out with her again.
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OMG 6 guys!!!!! holy crap that's like 0.016438356164383561 guys a night!!!! What a *****!!!! No way has any good woman ever slept with more than two guys ever!!!!!
Lolz. It says she's slept with 6 different guys and not that she's only slept 6 nights an entire year. What you're looking for with this math is prostitution and not promisuity. Even if you had 0.1 a year, that would be many different guys. Also, his friend just counted 6. If the friend can do that right off the bat then there's probably even more guys he doesn't know about.
The answer to this question is obvious. This girl is apparently going to continue on with her promiscuity. Maybe YOU had a good time. But this girl probably has a good time with all the guys she sleeps with. Some people just have that aura around them. To think that you're something more to her would be unwise.
Here's my advice:
1) Don't confront her. She won't care and she'll just laugh. That's the worse thing to do.
2) Don't give her a clean slate. Where in this story did you show that she has changed or wants to change? Some people like sleeping with random people.
3) Just walk away. I don't think she'll notice that you're missing at all.
I know it may be hard to give up on a girl you want but that's exactly the point. A dozen other guys also want her and she knows this. Now some guys are fine with that but you're not. So you shouldn't make the mistake of going out with her again.
You're really going to give him advice based on second hand story he heard that may or may not be true?? Unless I had hard evidence, like other guys' testimonies saying she did this, then I would be inclined to give her a FAIR SHOT. Since when do we not give people fair chances anymore based on what other people may or may not hear. So she may have slept with 6 guys in the past year or two. As one other girl user said, people do make mistakes, and there may be a lot of circumstances you don't know about.
If you follow this attitude, I hope you ask the next girl you date how many guys she's slept with before hand, and you'll be surprised (even if you get a true answer). I think it's silly to think that she'd never be touched before. Welcome to adulthood.
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I agree with the first few people in that it really is no big deal. That's not even a high amount. If you would have said 6 guys in a week, now that's something to get a bit scared about. Also like someone stated, they could have been mostly boyfriends.
Honestly in theory you probably think you want a girl that has only been with 0 or 1 guy that year. But what does that say about her being a gorgeous girl and barely having sex?
My suggestion is to get over it. Don't even talk about it unless she brings it up. If something throws red flag signs when you're with her, then that is something to be worried about. In my experience, I've known many women that have had many partners that are great girlfriend material and many women who have had few or no partners that are definitely NOT girlfriend material.
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You're really going to give him advice based on second hand story he heard that may or may not be true?? Unless I had hard evidence, like other guys' testimonies saying she did this, then I would be inclined to give her a FAIR SHOT. Since when do we not give people fair chances anymore based on what other people may or may not hear. So she may have slept with 6 guys in the past year or two. As one other girl user said, people do make mistakes, and there may be a lot of circumstances you don't know about.
I guess it depends if the friend is gossipy or not. If the friend seems honest and rarely speaks behind people's backs, then he might just be looking out for you. Also, even secondhand information has some face value and it shouldn't be disregarded completely. One person says it and another and you should probably be suspicious to say the least. It's not about FAIR shots or not. It's about common sense. It could be a rumor but, even then, there's still people who think it's true and they may each have judgments of their own about this person. These people probably think that this situation is believable for this certain person they know.
You are probably over reacting, her past is past and that should not matter in what you want from her, just when the time comes let her know what you expect not to be, try to not be too serious either, one date isn't enough to know someone.
Lolz. It says she's slept with 6 different guys and not that she's only slept 6 nights an entire year. What you're looking for with this math is prostitution and not promisuity. Even if you had 0.1 a year, that would be many different guys. Also, his friend just counted 6. If the friend can do that right off the bat then there's probably even more guys he doesn't know about.
He's cross checked his resource (meaning he's being a tad bit creepy), and he said she slept with about 6 guys last year. 6 guys divided by 365 days in a year would be the ridiculous fraction I posted. I didn't say she had sex 6 times, I just said that worrying about 6 guys is 'tarded.
and I have no clue where you managed to say .1 a year is many different guys. 0.1 a night is 37 guys, which still is not bad accross an entire year. I know plenty of girls that have slept with more, and plenty that have slept with less. You're basically furthering the stereotype that people don't have sex.
I guess it depends if the friend is gossipy or not. If the friend seems honest and rarely speaks behind people's backs, then he might just be looking out for you. Also, even secondhand information has some face value and it shouldn't be disregarded completely. One person says it and another and you should probably be suspicious to say the least. It's not about FAIR shots or not. It's about common sense. It could be a rumor but, even then, there's still people who think it's true and they may each have judgments of their own about this person. These people probably think that this situation is believable for this certain person they know.
Ok, so for the sake of argument let's say the friend is sort of reliable, and it's true that she has slept with 6 guys in a year, and that is ALL you know. You don't know any other circumstances, if they were bfs, one night stands, NOTHING.
Now, you don't know this and you go out with her, she's normal like any other girl, pretty, has a great attitude, and you get along with her great after the first date. Obviously she doesn't just want in your pants because you had a sexless/kissless first date (which is what I do if I'm going to date someone). Now you hear this info from your friend. Are you really going to just walk away from her and give up what could be a good relationship solely because she's more sexually active then you? What if she only had sex with 2-3 guys in a year? Would that change it?
I just think it's ridiculous to judge her on just that, especially when six isn't even that much, as FCG said before, it's not like she said six in a week. That is what would raise concern. The fact is this girl did not get the guy to raise concern on the first date so I don't see what the problem is.
Are you going to think that when you get married (if you do and I'm assuming you're a guy) someday, your wife has never going to had sex with anyone else? That only happens nowadays if she is saving herself or you are high-school sweethearts.
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thanks guys/girls. I understand people have sex, and i've gone out with girls who aren't virgins before. thats not what i have a problem with (i haven't really decided if i have a problem with the situation yet, i just wanted opinions of others). I asked around people i know that know her, and i asked them about the situation (3 girls and one guy) and the consensus is around 6.
I guess the real question is how do i find out what she wants. This is more what i'm concerned about. Can i just ask her if she wants a relationship or does that come across as too strong/w/e. I wouldn't do it before another couple dates, but its something i wanna know.
I wasn't really freaking out about the number, just that its hard to read what she wants because from what i can tell its a mix of one night stands/two week relationships. and like i said, when ppl get drunk we all make mistakes.
Well, the ethical call here seems to be quite clear to me.
If you're looking for a relationship (a serious one, I presume), and you are interested in an individual to be your partner in that relationship, you are ethically bound to judge them only on what they do with you. It's not fair to decide that someone isn't suitable for you based on secondhand hearsay under any circumstances.
Think of it this way- if you were in a budding relationship and then she broke it off because one of her girlfriends told her that you had slept around in the past, wouldn't you be hurt and upset regardless of whether you actually had or not? She deserves a fair shake, especially since the most common false rumor that is put out about a girl (especially a pretty one) is that she sleeps around; this is a relic of old, Victorian cultural memes, which still hold an unfortunate amount of sway in our culture. (i.e., It's just fine for a guy to sleep around, but if a girl does, goodness gracious, the sun's going to implode!)
Give the relationship a chance. If she's looking for a fling, it'll become clear to you shortly. If she's not, the only time where you need to (or, moreover, are allowed to) ask her about her experience is if the two of you decide to become intimate, and even then you only need to know so you can mutually assess the risk you each carry of giving the other an STD.
And for goodness sake, women are allowed to enjoy sex too!
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I guess the real question is how do i find out what she wants. This is more what i'm concerned about. Can i just ask her if she wants a relationship or does that come across as too strong/w/e. I wouldn't do it before another couple dates, but its something i wanna know.
I wouldn't ask her at all yet. That will definitely come off as too strong and she may end up not wanting to go out with you again because you're moving too fast. I would just do what everyone else does when they want to get information like this. Keep going on dates with her! You will find out what she wants after a bunch of dates, and just keep on having fun with her. After a couple of more times it will be abundantly clear about what you both want, and then it is a good time to talk about it. No reason to worry after a first date, and I think it may have been a little too much to ask all these people about who she's been with. Let's hope she doesn't find out somehow.
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DO NOT CONFRONT HER WITH THIS! You will only bring up issues between the two of you. Continue doing what you've been doing and hopefully you can be Lucky Number Seven... if not, don't worry about it. She was fun to be around. Have fun, it's college.
I agree with those who say take it easy, it's not that big a deal. But also, don't bring it up. It's her thing, not yours. If you do end up going out, then good for you. If not, don't sweat it.
And if you end up bedding down with her, use protection.
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To me this is another "what's the problem?" You say nothing about her past unless she brings it up, you relax and see what develops.
As to Leilani's female perspective I don't think she can know if the girl is a good match for you or not. Maybe she IS looking for a relationship now. Or if not, maybe she will be if the right guy comes along. Six guys doesn't seem like a sordid past in this day and age in any event. Sixty would be more questionable.
Adding to the nigh-unanimous advice, just go out with her, keep your ears open, and let it go.
Months into the relationship, you could gently start bringing up past relationships if you've got a good context for it. Or, if/when you being exploring more intimate physical activities with her, you could gently, carefully, bring up past experiences with sex and introduce the topic that way, but here, again, I'd give it time after you start such activity before bringing it up.
But really, it's nothing, don't waste your time thinking about it.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
And if you end up bedding down with her, use protection.
This. Not that you shouldn't anyways of course, just noting to make sure you use it. That's pretty much the only conclusion I would draw from the information you were given. Other than that keep going out with her, enjoy yourself, keep college as the wonderfully less drama-filled time it should be.
Okay. Maybe I overreacted. But assuming she had sex with her 6 different BOYFRIENDS, it still doesn't say anything good about planning a prolonged relationship in the future. At the very least, this says 6 out of 6 of her relationships in the year failed... so all I'm going to say is don't expect too much. Go out with her as the others suggested. She isn't a red flag but there's still a good chance your relationship won't last.
Maybe her relationships with the previous people ended once she had sex with them a few times, and maybe the reason it ended then was because the guy didn't know wtf he was doing in bed. A LOT of young guys, especially around college, think they learned all they need to know about pleasing a woman from porn. Some girls, upon encountering several bad sexual experiences with several different guys, believe that there's something wrong with them. Some girls are smart enough to realize that is probably not the case. Perhaps she's one of those. Just make sure you read up (unless you're quite experienced yourself) on the female side of sex - The Art of the Female Orgasm is an excellent read. Chances are that even if she didn't end her previous relationships for this reason that you'll still get a strong hold on her if you blow her mind.
My only issue with this is STDs, if you can somehow find out she's clean, then go for it. Seriously, there's no reason a sexually liberated girl can't make for a great relationship so long as you're not sharing in any bacterial/viral baggage she may be carrying.
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Maybe it's just me, but I say just go for it either way. I know the whole "wanting a relationship" thing seems really sweet and noble, but this is the sort of thing that 10-20 years down the line you're gonna be kickin yourself thinking "Why the hell didn't I just run with that?!?!?!?".
Even if it does end up being a one night stand, once you go into it understanding that it very well might be, I really don't think that's wholly wrong. You're both old enough to handle any sort of emotional consequence, and it seems there's certainly a good chance of the good outweighing the bad.
In short, I say just go for it. Don't complicate anything, or worry too much, just go for it and enjoy whatever you do end up with.
Jolly's post reminded me of another point that I think is relevant to this situation specifically as well as life in general. Be careful when making decisions based on your desire to be in a relationship. It can lead to spending too much time with the wrong person, but more importantly it can cause you to discount someone when you shouldn't. There are many people who think that they don't want to be in a relationship and then change their mind when they meet the right person. Getting to know her (both literally and in the Biblical sense (no I'm not Christian for those who would ask)) for a little while is worth it because then you both have a stronger sense of wether or not it could go where you want it to go.
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I get home and i talk to one of my friends who knows of this girl. My friend told me some stories about the promiscuity of this girl, who has apparently slept with a solid amount of guys in the last year and what not. after cross checking this information i'm putting the number of guys she's been with in her first year of college to be 6, give or take.
I'm not looking for a one night stand, i'm looking for a relationship. On the one hand i had a great time with this girl before i found out about this and she's a great time to hang with, personality and all. I understand that the first year of college people make some bad decisions, i get that as i've made some before. My question is should i give her a clean slate, confront her about it, or not call her back. those are basically the three options, whats the feeling of the community.
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So there's this great, good looking girl that you went out with and had a great time, and now you are doubting her just solely on what your friend has been telling you? Even if it's true or not it doesn't really matter.
I feel like I should stress this, and you can apply it to girls as well (just change some pronouns/nouns):
Us guys cannot worry about how many guys a girl has slept with or not, of course she is going to sleep with other guys (especially in college) and you are fooling yourself if you think that any girl you are going to meet has never been with another guy before.
Six may seem like a lot to you and me but I don't think that it's really that much in the scheme of a long thing not to give this girl a chance for. Maybe with those other guys she just wanted one night stands and now she is ready to have a bf. What does it really matter how many guys she's been with. I'm sure any other girl you meet will have done it with six other guys as well.
Case in point: Don't worry about any of this! Go out with the girl, have a great time, and determine if you/she want(s) a relationship or not.
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OMG 6 guys!!!!! holy crap that's like 0.016438356164383561 guys a night!!!! What a *****!!!! No way has any good woman ever slept with more than two guys ever!!!!!
QFT. You're overreacting to a non-issue. If you went on a sexless first date, you're already not a one night stand. That's all you need to know. Maybe you should just be glad that she probably actually enjoies sex, and if you're intimidated by a girl sleeping with more people than you, you're being rediculous.
You're answer: Calm down, relax, and take it slow with her if you are worried about her using you. Just don't wait too long, because she probably wants you to make a move sometime in the relationship.
And if you're waiting or not ready yet.... then tell her that without bringing up her past at all. Just sit her down, say that you want to make that clear up front, and that if she cannot handle that decision then she's isn't the girl for you.
People do make some mistakes/bad choices in their life, and perhaps that's what this girl has done.
You haven't told us much more than the basics--she's been with X amount of guys in Y amount of time. Was she dating each guy, or just hooking up with them? If she's hooking up with them, she might not want a relationship. If she dated them...well, sometimes people don't learn after the first mistake. Or the 5th.
To me, she doesn't sound like a good match for you, as far as dating goes. She could be a good friend, but not much more than that. The way I see it, the amount of people she's been with in such a short period of time..she doesn't seem like she's looking for a relationship right now.
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Here's my advice:
1) Don't confront her. She won't care and she'll just laugh. That's the worse thing to do.
2) Don't give her a clean slate. Where in this story did you show that she has changed or wants to change? Some people like sleeping with random people.
3) Just walk away. I don't think she'll notice that you're missing at all.
I know it may be hard to give up on a girl you want but that's exactly the point. A dozen other guys also want her and she knows this. Now some guys are fine with that but you're not. So you shouldn't make the mistake of going out with her again.
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Lolz. It says she's slept with 6 different guys and not that she's only slept 6 nights an entire year. What you're looking for with this math is prostitution and not promisuity. Even if you had 0.1 a year, that would be many different guys. Also, his friend just counted 6. If the friend can do that right off the bat then there's probably even more guys he doesn't know about.
You're really going to give him advice based on second hand story he heard that may or may not be true?? Unless I had hard evidence, like other guys' testimonies saying she did this, then I would be inclined to give her a FAIR SHOT. Since when do we not give people fair chances anymore based on what other people may or may not hear. So she may have slept with 6 guys in the past year or two. As one other girl user said, people do make mistakes, and there may be a lot of circumstances you don't know about.
If you follow this attitude, I hope you ask the next girl you date how many guys she's slept with before hand, and you'll be surprised (even if you get a true answer). I think it's silly to think that she'd never be touched before. Welcome to adulthood.
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Honestly in theory you probably think you want a girl that has only been with 0 or 1 guy that year. But what does that say about her being a gorgeous girl and barely having sex?
My suggestion is to get over it. Don't even talk about it unless she brings it up. If something throws red flag signs when you're with her, then that is something to be worried about. In my experience, I've known many women that have had many partners that are great girlfriend material and many women who have had few or no partners that are definitely NOT girlfriend material.
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He's cross checked his resource (meaning he's being a tad bit creepy), and he said she slept with about 6 guys last year. 6 guys divided by 365 days in a year would be the ridiculous fraction I posted. I didn't say she had sex 6 times, I just said that worrying about 6 guys is 'tarded.
and I have no clue where you managed to say .1 a year is many different guys. 0.1 a night is 37 guys, which still is not bad accross an entire year. I know plenty of girls that have slept with more, and plenty that have slept with less. You're basically furthering the stereotype that people don't have sex.
Ok, so for the sake of argument let's say the friend is sort of reliable, and it's true that she has slept with 6 guys in a year, and that is ALL you know. You don't know any other circumstances, if they were bfs, one night stands, NOTHING.
Now, you don't know this and you go out with her, she's normal like any other girl, pretty, has a great attitude, and you get along with her great after the first date. Obviously she doesn't just want in your pants because you had a sexless/kissless first date (which is what I do if I'm going to date someone). Now you hear this info from your friend. Are you really going to just walk away from her and give up what could be a good relationship solely because she's more sexually active then you? What if she only had sex with 2-3 guys in a year? Would that change it?
I just think it's ridiculous to judge her on just that, especially when six isn't even that much, as FCG said before, it's not like she said six in a week. That is what would raise concern. The fact is this girl did not get the guy to raise concern on the first date so I don't see what the problem is.
Are you going to think that when you get married (if you do and I'm assuming you're a guy) someday, your wife has never going to had sex with anyone else? That only happens nowadays if she is saving herself or you are high-school sweethearts.
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I guess the real question is how do i find out what she wants. This is more what i'm concerned about. Can i just ask her if she wants a relationship or does that come across as too strong/w/e. I wouldn't do it before another couple dates, but its something i wanna know.
I wasn't really freaking out about the number, just that its hard to read what she wants because from what i can tell its a mix of one night stands/two week relationships. and like i said, when ppl get drunk we all make mistakes.
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If you're looking for a relationship (a serious one, I presume), and you are interested in an individual to be your partner in that relationship, you are ethically bound to judge them only on what they do with you. It's not fair to decide that someone isn't suitable for you based on secondhand hearsay under any circumstances.
Think of it this way- if you were in a budding relationship and then she broke it off because one of her girlfriends told her that you had slept around in the past, wouldn't you be hurt and upset regardless of whether you actually had or not? She deserves a fair shake, especially since the most common false rumor that is put out about a girl (especially a pretty one) is that she sleeps around; this is a relic of old, Victorian cultural memes, which still hold an unfortunate amount of sway in our culture. (i.e., It's just fine for a guy to sleep around, but if a girl does, goodness gracious, the sun's going to implode!)
Give the relationship a chance. If she's looking for a fling, it'll become clear to you shortly. If she's not, the only time where you need to (or, moreover, are allowed to) ask her about her experience is if the two of you decide to become intimate, and even then you only need to know so you can mutually assess the risk you each carry of giving the other an STD.
And for goodness sake, women are allowed to enjoy sex too!
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I wouldn't ask her at all yet. That will definitely come off as too strong and she may end up not wanting to go out with you again because you're moving too fast. I would just do what everyone else does when they want to get information like this. Keep going on dates with her! You will find out what she wants after a bunch of dates, and just keep on having fun with her. After a couple of more times it will be abundantly clear about what you both want, and then it is a good time to talk about it. No reason to worry after a first date, and I think it may have been a little too much to ask all these people about who she's been with. Let's hope she doesn't find out somehow.
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Seriously. Not a big deal. What is this, the 1950s?
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As to Leilani's female perspective I don't think she can know if the girl is a good match for you or not. Maybe she IS looking for a relationship now. Or if not, maybe she will be if the right guy comes along. Six guys doesn't seem like a sordid past in this day and age in any event. Sixty would be more questionable.
Months into the relationship, you could gently start bringing up past relationships if you've got a good context for it. Or, if/when you being exploring more intimate physical activities with her, you could gently, carefully, bring up past experiences with sex and introduce the topic that way, but here, again, I'd give it time after you start such activity before bringing it up.
But really, it's nothing, don't waste your time thinking about it.
This. Not that you shouldn't anyways of course, just noting to make sure you use it. That's pretty much the only conclusion I would draw from the information you were given. Other than that keep going out with her, enjoy yourself, keep college as the wonderfully less drama-filled time it should be.
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Even if it does end up being a one night stand, once you go into it understanding that it very well might be, I really don't think that's wholly wrong. You're both old enough to handle any sort of emotional consequence, and it seems there's certainly a good chance of the good outweighing the bad.
In short, I say just go for it. Don't complicate anything, or worry too much, just go for it and enjoy whatever you do end up with.