Well, people still hold those "Chastity Balls" and so forth for their daughters. And make them take purity vows and all that. Which creeps the **** out of me, if you'll pardon the expression. (See? Even Dorian swears, when he finds something really unsettling!)
I, however, am a virgin by any standard.
I saw the baby yesterday! She's super cute. Tonight I'm going home to stay.
Also today, I have a job interview! Terrifically thrilling. Even though it's just in a mall kiosk. I'd be selling, like, bags and wallets. Pretty nice bags, though, so that's OK.
Finally, my two cents on the proverb: I like the version put forward in a lyric from the stage adaptation of Mary Poppins (which had several new songs): "If you shoot for the stars, all you'll get are the stars/but we've found a whole new spin/if you shoot for the heavens/you get the stars thrown in"
OK, so it's hardly great poetry. But I like the sentiment behind it.
...Yeah, I think I'm going to use my version. It's so much more... logical. And I'm all about logical.[/irony]
And your version is something like "shoot for the stars, at least you'll land on the moon?" That makes less sense. The idea is biblical; pretend the heavens are a big bowl over the Earth. The moon is a relatively small circle but all the rest of the sky is "the stars." Even if you want to take the expression more literally, you'll get to "the stars" eventually if you miss the moon.
As to the virgin discussion, I have always disliked the association of the term in the gay community with sodomy. Part of the reason is that although there is a simple 'right' way to do heterosex, there is no one 'right' way to do homosex. One must improvise on the theme of eventual mutual orgasm (whether gay or lesbian). Associating virgin with anal makes it seem like that's the only way to do things, or that other types of experiences are somehow 'less.'
And your version is something like "shoot for the stars, at least you'll land on the moon?" That makes less sense. The idea is biblical; pretend the heavens are a big bowl over the Earth. The moon is a relatively small circle but all the rest of the sky is "the stars." Even if you want to take the expression more literally, you'll get to "the stars" eventually if you miss the moon.
Well, my idea is that it's not so much about accuracy, but how far you get. If you try to reach the stars, but don't quite make it, at least you'll reach the moon.
Not that I think I'll be using that phrase anymore now than before.
Domestic... Yea thats the term I was looking for. Most of the guys around here (South Eastern US) don't think it's possible to be a domestic gay. I think my standards are to diverse too be to be too picky. I try and take everyone as they are... (insert blue's next sexual joke here). I pretty much take all comers (insert blue's second sexualy joke here)... (then put a third one here for using the word insert too many times)
Sorry for the breeder sitcom references. I don't watch much TV, and assumed that most of the gay relationships on Will & Grace or QAF are far removed from longterm, and domestic.
blue: You forgot I also require that he beautiful beyond reproach, totally subserviant to my whim,able recite the first season of Naruto from memory, able to beat Contra on one life, and impotent in the presence of all men but me.
Edit* Shoot for the moon.
Even if you miss it you will land among the stars."
- Les Brown
Les Brown was the guy tofirst use this quote. As an irrelevent but blatant attempt to bridge the lifestyle gap between me and Tautha he was married to Gladys Knight.
Well, blue, at least rest in the knowledge that you're not the only perv here.
Of course there's more than one perv here. I couldn't rest any other way except in the company of other pervs. Otherwise who would touch me at night when I'm too tired to do it myself?
BTW Gay clan on Facebook Heroes application is a lot of fun!
Of course there's more than one perv here. I couldn't rest any other way except in the company of other pervs. Otherwise who would touch me at night when I'm too tired to do it myself?
.....k well really is it considered volunteering if you run your crotch into their hand on purpose?
Not surprisingly while playing heroes with these gay guys a lot of them liked star trek back in the day. I might be falling in love with this group!
That's more volunteering your crotch for their usage (pleasure?), so maybe...
Ahhh, Facebook, my former nemesis. Back in the day I was adamant that I'd never get a MySpace, and technically I never did. I was then adamant that I'd never get a Facebook, but a friend lured me in with superhero abilities, which I couldn't refuse. Sadly, there just aren't enough perks to being a level 24 psychokinete with superhuman strength and telepathy.
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This may have been my shortest honey moon yet. Rye ruv roo blue.
Last time I was active the the MyFace and SpaceBook debate came up. I have both. I use Myspace for random people I don't really know and Facebook for people I actually communicate with.
This may have been my shortest honey moon yet. Rye ruv roo blue.
Last time I was active the the MyFace and SpaceBook debate came up. I have both. I use Myspace for random people I don't really know and Facebook for people I actually communicate with.
Just refer to them collectively as FaceSpace, as Ben Elton does in Blind Faith. Ev Love!
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I have Facebook and Livejournal (Which is generally more my way of spreading memes and whatever I find that piques my interest on YouTube. I also have the Heroes app, but I don't really use it much anymore. I'm busier tending to my dragon.
I used to be an avid LJ-er, but dropped it around the end of '06. I'm in the process of writing a character journal about a guy who works in a small and often very strange library. I've already written the "first season" (i.e. 24 entries), and am halfway through writing "season two".
Sadly, uni work gets in the way of just about everything. I'm very much looking forward to the end of my 4 1/2 year degree this June. =J
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I have both MySpace and Facebook, but I'm one of those weird people that only hase actual friends on them. I think I have 25 MS friends, and 12 FB, and I've intentionally kept those numbers low. It's not a competiton for me.
I basically use them as my e-mail services, to keep in contact with some frineds from high school. I check them each once a day, but am usually on for a combined total of 2 minutes. I don't really download many apps or "pimp out" my profiles.
hey hey now just cause I have like almost 300 friends on myspace doesn't mean its a contest. I part time bartend and surprisingly a lot of people add me because of that. Since they are acquantences I usually accept. Plus it gives me away send event invites (like turnabout and Sleezeball), and keep in touch with customers.
I do have a few facebook applications. I need a daily ass beating by blue in scrabble to keep me in myplace. Cause sometimes I talk to much. i just tell the neibors I fell when they ask questions about the bruises on my ego.
hey hey now just cause I have like almost 300 friends on myspace doesn't mean its a contest. I part time bartend and surprisingly a lot of people add me because of that. Since they are acquantences I usually accept. Plus it gives me away send event invites (like turnabout and Sleezeball), and keep in touch with customers.
I do have a few facebook applications. I need a daily ass beating by blue in scrabble to keep me in myplace. Cause sometimes I talk to much. i just tell the neibors I fell when they ask questions about the bruises on my ego.
Haha, the old "hit-my-head-on-the-doorknob" pretence? What a good little 1920's housewife you are.
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I used to be an avid LJ-er, but dropped it around the end of '06. I'm in the process of writing a character journal about a guy who works in a small and often very strange library. I've already written the first season (i.e. 24 entries), and am halfway through writing season two
That could be really interesting. Lemme know when you finish...I wouldn't mind reading it!
Heeheehee... That could be really interesting. Lemme know when you finish...I wouldn't mind reading it!
Here's the first lot, in all its glory (complete with typos): http://shelf-read.blogspot.com (gotta read them in order though)
For work (I work in a library) we had to do this online learning program, which was pretty basic stuff about creating a blog, posting pictures, using RSS feeds, etc. It came in around the time I was doing exams, and I really couldn't be bothered learning even more new stuff. Instead I started to do a bit of creative writing about working in a library, and before I knew it I'd worked out the details for this whole story.
I've recently reprised my writing (exams coming up again, and I need an outlet for more creative energies) and have even started designing a card set around the story. Library-themed, of course. I don't just procrastinate, I do it with style. =J
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hey hey now just cause I have like almost 300 friends on myspace doesn't mean its a contest. I part time bartend and surprisingly a lot of people add me because of that. Since they are acquantences I usually accept. Plus it gives me away send event invites (like turnabout and Sleezeball), and keep in touch with customers.
300 isn't that many, and if you actually know all of them, that's fine. There are people with over 10,000, and you just have to wonder ihow many of them they're actually friends with.
Like I said, I could have alot more: co-workers, customers, old acquaintences from the drama depts. at HS/college... I just try to stick to people I really want to maintain contact with, or I don't see very often.
Yea I wonder what people like that are thinking, but I doubt even they see it as a contest, or competition. Its not too hard to send mass invites to stranges via friend chain prgrams.
Howler I read most of your blogs on here and I have to confess they are kinda facinating. I've gotten to the point were I've accepted being gay as not only normal for me the part of the person I want to be. Without touching on the choice vs non-choice issue, is the process of self-appriecation similar for being a dwarf as being gay.
Howler I read most of your blogs on here and I have to confess they are kinda facinating.
Thanks. I've been meaning to write another one, but I don't really know what on...
I've gotten to the point were I've accepted being gay as not only normal for me the part of the person I want to be. Without touching on the choice vs non-choice issue, is the process of self-appriecation similar for being a dwarf as being gay.
Um... not really, but at the same time, kind of yes. I had to deal with both curve balls at about the same time (my size became an issue in 6th grade, and I first started noticing my sexuallity around 8th), so they've always been somewhat connected in my mind. The dwarfism was more dealing with how other viewed me and treated me, while the gay thing was much more of an "inter-conflict."
You can never really do much about how people react to you, you can only control how you let that effect you. When I was younger, I defineatly let that kind of stuff get to me, and as a result, became very reclusive. Theatre gave me a place where, for one of the first times ever, my size didn't really seem to be a problem. I don't know if it's because of the type of people theatre attracts, but I didn't get the stares, the whispers, the taunts... they all just didn't even seem to notice, and it was very helpful having a place like that.
The thing that really helped me accept "myself" was a very good friend that I met through drama. He helped me learn to ignore what others thought and said, and just do what I wanted to do. The reason he was so helpful was because of how well he was able to relate to my situation: he had no legs. It was very inspiring to see him do some of the things he did (he did track, wrestling, plays, etc.); it kind of gave me hope. He also helped me find religion, which I think helped with both situations (does it suprise you that I'm a very religious person?). I'd say I only just in the last year or so really accepted who I am, in both facets.
It's also a bit easier to deal with because you don't have people trying to "fix" you for being a dwarf; not many people will tell you being one is "wrong"or a sin, so that's not an obstacle (though you do occationally have to deal with pity, which is irksome).
Basically, they are different mostly in that being a dwarf is (usually) alot more obvious than being gay, and as such, you have to deal with people's reactions to it alot more, perhaps before you're ready to. Your sexuallity is much more personal and easier to hide if needs be.
You can never really do much about how people react to you, you can only control how you let that effect you. When I was younger, I defineatly let that kind of stuff get to me, and as a result, became very reclusive. Theatre gave me a place where, for one of the first times ever, my size didn't really seem to be a problem. I don't know if it's because of the type of people theatre attracts, but I didn't get the stares, the whispers, the taunts... they all just didn't even seem to notice, and it was very helpful having a place like that.
The thing that really helped me accept "myself" was a very good friend that I met through drama. He helped me learn to ignore what others thought and said, and just do what I wanted to do. The reason he was so helpful was because of how well he was able to relate to my situation: he had no legs. It was very inspiring to see him do some of the things he did (he did track, wrestling, plays, etc.); it kind of gave me hope. He also helped me find religion, which I think helped with both situations (does it suprise you that I'm a very religious person?). I'd say I only just in the last year or so really accepted who I am, in both facets.
Religion an be a tricky issue. As I said before, religion and morality should be viewed as separate entities, with some overlap (think Venn diagrams). Religion can help to build a sense of identity and connectedness, but I've yet to find one which works for me. I'm currently somewhere between atheism and agnosticism. Basically, it means I put a lot of faith in science. =P
I accept that science can explain a very large quantity of our world, and also that it will never be able to explain everything. The things we can only dream of and speculate about may one day be proven right or wrong, be they whether life continues after death, or whether ALA will in fact have an enchantment theme. If you're struggling to explain or understand something but can't seem to get anywhere, it's worth giving to your present ignorance and accepting that it is unknowable (for now).
It's also a bit easier to deal with because you don't have people trying to "fix" you for being a dwarf; not many people will tell you being one is "wrong"or a sin, so that's not an obstacle (though you do occationally have to deal with pity, which is irksome).
Pity is such a useless emotion. Sympathy is only a few rungs above it. Empathy is a far more practical and supportive emotion because at least you can do something with it.
I, however, am a virgin by any standard.
I saw the baby yesterday! She's super cute. Tonight I'm going home to stay.
Also today, I have a job interview! Terrifically thrilling. Even though it's just in a mall kiosk. I'd be selling, like, bags and wallets. Pretty nice bags, though, so that's OK.
Finally, my two cents on the proverb: I like the version put forward in a lyric from the stage adaptation of Mary Poppins (which had several new songs): "If you shoot for the stars, all you'll get are the stars/but we've found a whole new spin/if you shoot for the heavens/you get the stars thrown in"
OK, so it's hardly great poetry. But I like the sentiment behind it.
As to the virgin discussion, I have always disliked the association of the term in the gay community with sodomy. Part of the reason is that although there is a simple 'right' way to do heterosex, there is no one 'right' way to do homosex. One must improvise on the theme of eventual mutual orgasm (whether gay or lesbian). Associating virgin with anal makes it seem like that's the only way to do things, or that other types of experiences are somehow 'less.'
Not that I think I'll be using that phrase anymore now than before.
Sorry for the breeder sitcom references. I don't watch much TV, and assumed that most of the gay relationships on Will & Grace or QAF are far removed from longterm, and domestic.
blue: You forgot I also require that he beautiful beyond reproach, totally subserviant to my whim,able recite the first season of Naruto from memory, able to beat Contra on one life, and impotent in the presence of all men but me.
Edit* Shoot for the moon.
Even if you miss it you will land among the stars."
- Les Brown
Les Brown was the guy tofirst use this quote. As an irrelevent but blatant attempt to bridge the lifestyle gap between me and Tautha he was married to Gladys Knight.
hrm. I guess technically you can laugh to keep from crying but that doesn't help light the "joke" which I inserted.
I hate you.
The creator of Maro's Magic 8-Ball!
Of course there's more than one perv here. I couldn't rest any other way except in the company of other pervs. Otherwise who would touch me at night when I'm too tired to do it myself?
BTW Gay clan on Facebook Heroes application is a lot of fun!
Stating a fact, or looking for volunteers?
The creator of Maro's Magic 8-Ball!
Not surprisingly while playing heroes with these gay guys a lot of them liked star trek back in the day. I might be falling in love with this group!
That's more volunteering your crotch for their usage (pleasure?), so maybe...
Ahhh, Facebook, my former nemesis. Back in the day I was adamant that I'd never get a MySpace, and technically I never did. I was then adamant that I'd never get a Facebook, but a friend lured me in with superhero abilities, which I couldn't refuse. Sadly, there just aren't enough perks to being a level 24 psychokinete with superhuman strength and telepathy.
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Last time I was active the the MyFace and SpaceBook debate came up. I have both. I use Myspace for random people I don't really know and Facebook for people I actually communicate with.
Just refer to them collectively as FaceSpace, as Ben Elton does in Blind Faith. Ev Love!
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I'd never heard it called that before.
I used to be an avid LJ-er, but dropped it around the end of '06. I'm in the process of writing a character journal about a guy who works in a small and often very strange library. I've already written the "first season" (i.e. 24 entries), and am halfway through writing "season two".
Sadly, uni work gets in the way of just about everything. I'm very much looking forward to the end of my 4 1/2 year degree this June. =J
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I basically use them as my e-mail services, to keep in contact with some frineds from high school. I check them each once a day, but am usually on for a combined total of 2 minutes. I don't really download many apps or "pimp out" my profiles.
I do have a few facebook applications. I need a daily ass beating by blue in scrabble to keep me in myplace. Cause sometimes I talk to much. i just tell the neibors I fell when they ask questions about the bruises on my ego.
Haha, the old "hit-my-head-on-the-doorknob" pretence? What a good little 1920's housewife you are.
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The creator of Maro's Magic 8-Ball!
Here's the first lot, in all its glory (complete with typos): http://shelf-read.blogspot.com (gotta read them in order though)
For work (I work in a library) we had to do this online learning program, which was pretty basic stuff about creating a blog, posting pictures, using RSS feeds, etc. It came in around the time I was doing exams, and I really couldn't be bothered learning even more new stuff. Instead I started to do a bit of creative writing about working in a library, and before I knew it I'd worked out the details for this whole story.
I've recently reprised my writing (exams coming up again, and I need an outlet for more creative energies) and have even started designing a card set around the story. Library-themed, of course. I don't just procrastinate, I do it with style. =J
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300 isn't that many, and if you actually know all of them, that's fine. There are people with over 10,000, and you just have to wonder ihow many of them they're actually friends with.
Like I said, I could have alot more: co-workers, customers, old acquaintences from the drama depts. at HS/college... I just try to stick to people I really want to maintain contact with, or I don't see very often.
Howler I read most of your blogs on here and I have to confess they are kinda facinating. I've gotten to the point were I've accepted being gay as not only normal for me the part of the person I want to be. Without touching on the choice vs non-choice issue, is the process of self-appriecation similar for being a dwarf as being gay.
You can never really do much about how people react to you, you can only control how you let that effect you. When I was younger, I defineatly let that kind of stuff get to me, and as a result, became very reclusive. Theatre gave me a place where, for one of the first times ever, my size didn't really seem to be a problem. I don't know if it's because of the type of people theatre attracts, but I didn't get the stares, the whispers, the taunts... they all just didn't even seem to notice, and it was very helpful having a place like that.
The thing that really helped me accept "myself" was a very good friend that I met through drama. He helped me learn to ignore what others thought and said, and just do what I wanted to do. The reason he was so helpful was because of how well he was able to relate to my situation: he had no legs. It was very inspiring to see him do some of the things he did (he did track, wrestling, plays, etc.); it kind of gave me hope. He also helped me find religion, which I think helped with both situations (does it suprise you that I'm a very religious person?). I'd say I only just in the last year or so really accepted who I am, in both facets.
It's also a bit easier to deal with because you don't have people trying to "fix" you for being a dwarf; not many people will tell you being one is "wrong"or a sin, so that's not an obstacle (though you do occationally have to deal with pity, which is irksome).
Basically, they are different mostly in that being a dwarf is (usually) alot more obvious than being gay, and as such, you have to deal with people's reactions to it alot more, perhaps before you're ready to. Your sexuallity is much more personal and easier to hide if needs be.
I hope at least some of what I said made sense... Fantabulous. I've got the house to myself tonight, so you know that means party!
Religion an be a tricky issue. As I said before, religion and morality should be viewed as separate entities, with some overlap (think Venn diagrams). Religion can help to build a sense of identity and connectedness, but I've yet to find one which works for me. I'm currently somewhere between atheism and agnosticism. Basically, it means I put a lot of faith in science. =P
I accept that science can explain a very large quantity of our world, and also that it will never be able to explain everything. The things we can only dream of and speculate about may one day be proven right or wrong, be they whether life continues after death, or whether ALA will in fact have an enchantment theme. If you're struggling to explain or understand something but can't seem to get anywhere, it's worth giving to your present ignorance and accepting that it is unknowable (for now).
Pity is such a useless emotion. Sympathy is only a few rungs above it. Empathy is a far more practical and supportive emotion because at least you can do something with it.
Fun times!
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