I have seen or read stories that imply that it is weird or awkward for a person to be in a romantic relationship with the opposite-sex sibling of their same-sex best friend. For example, in the sixth Harry Potter book, Harry begins to develop an attraction to Ginny Weasley, but feels anxiety about this attraction because Ginny is the sister of his best friend, Ron. In The Big Bang Theory, Raj very vehemently opposes the idea of his sister, Priya, being in a relationship with his friend, Leonard, although none of the other characters seem to find their relationship at all unusual.
I wonder why this belief seems to exist, since I cannot imagine why such a relationship would be weird or unusual. I suppose that a relationship between a person and their best friend's sibling could create tension between the two friends, but I do not imagine that it is guaranteed to happen, and if the two friends are truly best friends, then they shall not be bothered by one of them being in a romantic relationship with the other's sibling.
What does everyone else here have to say on this subject? Do you believe that being in a relationship with your same-sex best friend's opposite-sex sibling is weird or unusual? Have your ever been in such a relationship?
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Being someone whose sibling and best friend were once in a romantic relationship, I can tell you the relationship itself isn't awkward at all so long as you're not a perv about it.
The break up, on the other hand, is the absolute *****s.
If by chance this is more than a hypothetical on your part, please, please, for the sake of the third wheel: keep your pants on until you're 100% sure you want to be married to the other person.
It really, really sucks when the third wheel loses its best friend and sibling. Think about the well being of the third wheel, please.
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If by chance this is more than a hypothetical on your part, please, please, for the sake of the third wheel: keep your pants on until you're 100% sure you want to be married to the other person.
This is completely theoretical; currently, I do not have an opposite-sex sibling, and, while several of my same-sex friends do have opposite-sex siblings, I am not involved in relationships with any of them. I was asking merely out of curiosity, after having witnessed this scenario in several stories that I have followed.
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“Patriotism means to stand by one's country; it does not mean to stand by one's president.”-Theodore Roosevelt
I started dating my ex-fiance and then became best friends with her younger brother. It never strained our relationship or my friendship with her brother at all. Maybe it's because we became friends after dating already? I dunno. I can say that I lost one of my best friends in the breakup, though. After 4.5 years together, it was impossible to see him and not be reminded of her so had to go our separate ways. That really sucked.
A more general answer then. If someone knows a friends' sibling who has a spark that attracts them, I wouldn't tell them to shy away from dating just because they're friends with one of their family members. Not at all, in fact. Just remember:
Dating & Romance ≠ *******
But that's true regardless of pre-existing relationship dynamics. From personal experience and many other observations I can tell you the damage is always worse if things go sideways though.
In my case, basically my best friend and I had known each other for 7 or 8 years. Then he started dating my sister. It was fine and dandy until it wasn't. Then I got blamed for introducing them to each other. Now neither speaks to me. She's married to a lazy, leeching pothead now (I don't mean all potheads are inherently lazy leeches, just that this guy is lazy and a pothead, so he leeches off her) and he ran through a few dozen one night stands until he couldn't even balance that anymore due to his newfound alcoholism and disillusionment with life. Somehow all this became my fault due to my being the common link.
EDIT: Hmm... Reading that I realize that sounds kind of bitter...
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I dated my best friends sister when I was in high school. It was a weird thing. Its not a relationship of 2 people, but you and a family you know. The parents who use to act one way now treat you different because their daughter is dating you. And as mentioned, when you break up, its more then you and her, but the brother and family also. Took some time to get back to something that resembled normal. If the brother/sister is part of a larger group everyone hangs out with, the break up forces people with in the group to take sides and fractures the group. In short its a mess, at least my experience was.
It's weird because:
A) They feel protective toward their sibling and things they may find acceptable in a random relationship they may not like in their own.
B) It's super awkward if you break-up, especially if you were intimate.
I dated a friend's sister once. Would not recommend, only because after the break-up I couldn't stop seeing her if I wanted to visit my friend.
A good rule of thumb: It's ok to sleep with your sisters friend, but not your friends sister. I could never bring myself to to date a friends sister, regardless of how attracted I might be to that person. 99 times out of 100 nothing good is going to come out of it. Its likely to ruin multiple relationships as apposed to just one. Its just one of those things I refuse to do.....just like dating in the workplace.
I noticed that the two examples that I provided, as well as the examples that others have provided, as well, deal with a situation in which a man is in a relationship with his best male friend's sister, but what if the sexes of the characters involved were reversed, to involve a woman in a relationship with her best female friend's brother? Would the situation be any different, then?
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I wonder why this belief seems to exist, since I cannot imagine why such a relationship would be weird or unusual. I suppose that a relationship between a person and their best friend's sibling could create tension between the two friends, but I do not imagine that it is guaranteed to happen, and if the two friends are truly best friends, then they shall not be bothered by one of them being in a romantic relationship with the other's sibling.
What does everyone else here have to say on this subject? Do you believe that being in a relationship with your same-sex best friend's opposite-sex sibling is weird or unusual? Have your ever been in such a relationship?
“When the people fear the government, there is tyranny; when the government fears the people, there is liberty.”-Thomas Jefferson
“A vote is like a rifle; its usefulness depends upon the character of its user.”-Theodore Roosevelt
“Patriotism means to stand by one's country; it does not mean to stand by one's president.”-Theodore Roosevelt
The break up, on the other hand, is the absolute *****s.
If by chance this is more than a hypothetical on your part, please, please, for the sake of the third wheel: keep your pants on until you're 100% sure you want to be married to the other person.
It really, really sucks when the third wheel loses its best friend and sibling. Think about the well being of the third wheel, please.
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This is completely theoretical; currently, I do not have an opposite-sex sibling, and, while several of my same-sex friends do have opposite-sex siblings, I am not involved in relationships with any of them. I was asking merely out of curiosity, after having witnessed this scenario in several stories that I have followed.
“When the people fear the government, there is tyranny; when the government fears the people, there is liberty.”-Thomas Jefferson
“A vote is like a rifle; its usefulness depends upon the character of its user.”-Theodore Roosevelt
“Patriotism means to stand by one's country; it does not mean to stand by one's president.”-Theodore Roosevelt
A more general answer then. If someone knows a friends' sibling who has a spark that attracts them, I wouldn't tell them to shy away from dating just because they're friends with one of their family members. Not at all, in fact. Just remember:
Dating & Romance ≠ *******
But that's true regardless of pre-existing relationship dynamics. From personal experience and many other observations I can tell you the damage is always worse if things go sideways though.
In my case, basically my best friend and I had known each other for 7 or 8 years. Then he started dating my sister. It was fine and dandy until it wasn't. Then I got blamed for introducing them to each other. Now neither speaks to me. She's married to a lazy, leeching pothead now (I don't mean all potheads are inherently lazy leeches, just that this guy is lazy and a pothead, so he leeches off her) and he ran through a few dozen one night stands until he couldn't even balance that anymore due to his newfound alcoholism and disillusionment with life. Somehow all this became my fault due to my being the common link.
EDIT: Hmm... Reading that I realize that sounds kind of bitter...
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A) They feel protective toward their sibling and things they may find acceptable in a random relationship they may not like in their own.
B) It's super awkward if you break-up, especially if you were intimate.
I dated a friend's sister once. Would not recommend, only because after the break-up I couldn't stop seeing her if I wanted to visit my friend.
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