So this is the story. I want to get a tarantula as a pet and my mom said I could get one if I lose 20 pounds. You see I am overweight and I am trying to lose the weight. Only drinking water, going on the treadmill for 20 minutes a day, eating healthy, are the things I am doing. It's not easy, but I want the pet. My sister got 2 Taylor Swift tickets for Christmas. She thought the show was today, when the show was yesterday. Needless to say, she was sad and angry at the situation. My mom goes out and buys two new tickets for my sister, costing her $500 Canadian. I was unhappy because I am trying hard to get a Tarantula and my sister gets $500 tickets like it's chump change.
Am I wrong about this? I might just be bitter about it, but are my feeling justifiable?
So this is the story. I want to get a tarantula as a pet and my mom said I could get one if I lose 20 pounds. You see I am overweight and I am trying to lose the weight. Only drinking water, going on the treadmill for 20 minutes a day, eating healthy, are the things I am doing. It's not easy, but I want the pet. My sister got 2 Taylor Swift tickets for Christmas. She thought the show was today, when the show was yesterday. Needless to say, she was sad and angry at the situation. My mom goes out and buys two new tickets for my sister, costing her $500 Canadian. I was unhappy because I am trying hard to get a Tarantula and my sister gets $500 tickets like it's chump change.
Am I wrong about this? I might just be bitter about it, but are my feeling justifiable?
It really depends on if everything is ceteris parabis. I mean if you get like a video game every week and your sister gets nothing, then yea it's pretty even. However, if your sister is getting make up, clothes, jewelry, and ect. Then yea, you're getting the short end of the stick. The other question is whose going to the concert, and if your parents likes Taylor Swift themselves. Sometimes parents buy their kid things so they can also enjoy them along with the child(ren).
Parents are human as you're well aware of, and just like children past behavior is a great indicator of future behavior. You really need a larger sample size than what you're suggesting to provide any context to someone on their expenditures. If your sister does the dishes and other such activities, it could be a merit point to reward her over you with nothing personal but a drive to reinforce positive achievement in the both of you.
Tabulating a history of expenditures for yourself and your sister to show iniquities can work to leverage yourself to get more property, but it can also backfire in that the parent would realize their actual expenditure rate and then cease spending sums of money on either of you. If the iniquities are a habitual thing, then yea you got a long standing issue that doesn't work into your economic favor.
Like anything with business, know your clients and their attitudes and culture.
And yes, clients do indeed show favoritism over time as all politics are local and business is more personal than people like to admit. It's all in what you can prove, how you frame your argument, and who you're dealing with. Just have to be honest with yourself, because if the analysis is you're getting more than the sister than yea she deserves it.
Rule #1 is to treat people as how you expect to be treated, and the #1 rule in nature is survival of the fittest. Society is based on promises and capitalism is based on opportunity and promises. Using diplomacy to open up more opportunity is a part of how people do business and reinforce good will between clients.
However, the ticket itself for the missed concert date and buying another set of tickets is legitimate as a form of equitable forgiveness for a mistake in order to fulfill an original promise. As it would be akin to a parent replacing a toy broken in half on accident. The question more openly isn't so much the second set of tickets, but under what deal the original tickets and the auspices they were garnered under.
It has been said numerous times and will be said again "life isn't fair" is now one of my main mottos. I have lived in both have and have-not times so even though I am young I respect and understand that life is not always fair even when it should. We live in a world where the wicked get the rewards and the good get the scraps. But as Morgan said It's hard to tell if it is fair based on the narrow situation.
Your mother just wants what's good for you. Perhaps she would give your sister an incentive to work toward something like losing 20 lbs. if she had a comparable flaw as well.
Also, you have to realize that Taylor Swift tickets and a pet tarantula are two very different things. The tickets are just a one time money deal for your mother but the spider may not just be about the cost. It's a living creature that your family will have to take responsibility of. What if you lose interest in your pet? Then maybe it would be up to your mother to pick up the chores. Or what if the spider lets loose in the house?
honestly the 2 things dont seem related at all. you want a pet that im assuming your parents dont really want and your mom makes you a deal to get it. then they later buy a present for your sister. really i dont see how theyre related at all. are you mad you have to follow through on your bargin with your mom? or are you mad your sister got a present and you didnt? what i mean is what would make you feel better? if they said never mind on the loosing 20lbs and just went out and got you one?
It is more because your mom is trying to get you to push yourself. She simply helped your sister because she made a mistake. If you lose the weight you will get the spider.
and you know....blah blah blah...life isn't fair...yada yada yada..
honestly the 2 things dont seem related at all. you want a pet that im assuming your parents dont really want and your mom makes you a deal to get it. then they later buy a present for your sister. really i dont see how theyre related at all. are you mad you have to follow through on your bargin with your mom? or are you mad your sister got a present and you didnt? what i mean is what would make you feel better? if they said never mind on the loosing 20lbs and just went out and got you one?
agreed.
Life in a family (particularly just one or two events in isolation) should never be viewed as some great transaction where everyone has to come out equal... it doesn't work that way. Plus the two things do seem really unrelated...
In my opinion if you have cash, you are not a bum, you are an adventurer. Bums are poor and eat dead birds on the side of the road cuz they have no other options.
I eat dead birds at the side of the road, they call it KFC over here.
my rabbit died not too long ago, and i've been wanting to get another pet (sugar glider, chameleon, ferret, or chinchilla), but the only response i get is no. There are no deals or anything. just a simple no.
It's understandable blue control players would be shocked and in denial at the notion of this card, since their decks have been dominating multiple formats for an eternity yet they've curiously never once had to deal with any counter-hosers that weren't ineffectual, narrow CRAP.
Am I wrong about this? I might just be bitter about it, but are my feeling justifiable?
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that is part of growing up. you have to deal with all the unfair things that happen in a reasonable manner.
the only thing that you could do is talk to your mom.
more than likely she doesn't want a spider in the house. of course you also made a commitment to lose 20 pounds.
i am sure that if you do that then you will get your pet.
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It really depends on if everything is ceteris parabis. I mean if you get like a video game every week and your sister gets nothing, then yea it's pretty even. However, if your sister is getting make up, clothes, jewelry, and ect. Then yea, you're getting the short end of the stick. The other question is whose going to the concert, and if your parents likes Taylor Swift themselves. Sometimes parents buy their kid things so they can also enjoy them along with the child(ren).
Parents are human as you're well aware of, and just like children past behavior is a great indicator of future behavior. You really need a larger sample size than what you're suggesting to provide any context to someone on their expenditures. If your sister does the dishes and other such activities, it could be a merit point to reward her over you with nothing personal but a drive to reinforce positive achievement in the both of you.
Tabulating a history of expenditures for yourself and your sister to show iniquities can work to leverage yourself to get more property, but it can also backfire in that the parent would realize their actual expenditure rate and then cease spending sums of money on either of you. If the iniquities are a habitual thing, then yea you got a long standing issue that doesn't work into your economic favor.
Like anything with business, know your clients and their attitudes and culture.
And yes, clients do indeed show favoritism over time as all politics are local and business is more personal than people like to admit. It's all in what you can prove, how you frame your argument, and who you're dealing with. Just have to be honest with yourself, because if the analysis is you're getting more than the sister than yea she deserves it.
Rule #1 is to treat people as how you expect to be treated, and the #1 rule in nature is survival of the fittest. Society is based on promises and capitalism is based on opportunity and promises. Using diplomacy to open up more opportunity is a part of how people do business and reinforce good will between clients.
However, the ticket itself for the missed concert date and buying another set of tickets is legitimate as a form of equitable forgiveness for a mistake in order to fulfill an original promise. As it would be akin to a parent replacing a toy broken in half on accident. The question more openly isn't so much the second set of tickets, but under what deal the original tickets and the auspices they were garnered under.
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Also, you have to realize that Taylor Swift tickets and a pet tarantula are two very different things. The tickets are just a one time money deal for your mother but the spider may not just be about the cost. It's a living creature that your family will have to take responsibility of. What if you lose interest in your pet? Then maybe it would be up to your mother to pick up the chores. Or what if the spider lets loose in the house?
and you know....blah blah blah...life isn't fair...yada yada yada..
So really, it's not that unfair
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agreed.
Life in a family (particularly just one or two events in isolation) should never be viewed as some great transaction where everyone has to come out equal... it doesn't work that way. Plus the two things do seem really unrelated...
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my rabbit died not too long ago, and i've been wanting to get another pet (sugar glider, chameleon, ferret, or chinchilla), but the only response i get is no. There are no deals or anything. just a simple no.
This. Also, why not just buy your own tarantula and let your spoiled sister do her thing? She sounds like a kid, let her get her concert tickets.
Overweight (and other disadvantaged) children tend to be treated worse. x_X
Thus, the tickets.
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I would think a good parent would do the opposite to teach about responsibility