Here's the paradox, when asked to do something fun (say watch a movie, have dinner, or just spend time together), girls regularly say "I have no time"
Only to spend that time anyway on random stuff, like doing absolutely nothing by herself.
And then say at the end of the day (through phone or "social media") that she was bored today.
I know what you think: the girl is not interested in you.
Well I'm not talking about just any girl, but my girlfriend. And girlfriends from the past. And girls in general.
She doesn't have time today, tomorrow, or next week. One day a long time ago, my then-girlfriend told me she had no time this week, this month, etc. But in three/four months, she'd be free. I would not see her within those months. The irony is that we didn't even know eachother for three months at that time.
It's also not based on relationship quality or bed skills or anything. She can literally leave minutes or hours after love or sex, and not show up for days. No anger, no fight, just.. nothing.
Just go to class, and return home. And spend the evening alone.
And when confronted, she (and I'm still talking about girlfriends in general, not just the current one) will complain about me being possessive. Yeah, cause I would like to see her within the upcoming week.
So guys, and girls please, what is up with this time paradox?
It seems so irrational..
Here's the paradox, when asked to do something fun (say watch a movie, have dinner, or just spend time together), girls regularly say "I have no time"
Only to spend that time anyway on random stuff, like doing absolutely nothing by herself.
And then say at the end of the day (through phone or "social media") that she was bored today.
I know what you think: the girl is not interested in you.
Well I'm not talking about just any girl, but my girlfriend. And girlfriends from the past. And girls in general.
She doesn't have time today, tomorrow, or next week. One day a long time ago, my then-girlfriend told me she had no time this week, this month, etc. But in three/four months, she'd be free. I would not see her within those months. The irony is that we didn't even know eachother for three months at that time.
It's also not based on relationship quality or bed skills or anything. She can literally leave minutes or hours after love or sex, and not show up for days. No anger, no fight, just.. nothing.
Just go to class, and return home. And spend the evening alone.
And when confronted, she (and I'm still talking about girlfriends in general, not just the current one) will complain about me being possessive. Yeah, cause I would like to see her within the upcoming week.
So guys, and girls please, what is up with this time paradox?
It seems so irrational..
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That aside, your description has all the hallmarks of her cheating on you. Tough to hear, I know, but someone has to tell you.
Look, some people need more time to see their loved ones than others. If the time you have available doesn't gel, and she isn't willing to make time for you, then start seeing other people till she does have time. If she leaves you, good riddance as she couldn't be bothered putting in the effort making time for you.
Its not fair that you are going through pain because she can't be bothered to skip a work shift every 2 weeks, put some homework aside, get out of something, to see you.
Relationships take time and work, but are worth every all of the time and effort you put into it if they're the right person. If she can't understand it, dump her for a girl who will. There are plenty of girls who will understand.
If you keep telling her that if she doesn't improve then you see no point in the relationship, then she might improve. Depends if she loves you or not.
I have to say I disapprove. Men are every bit as irrational as women; there's merely a social divide at work that prevents understanding.
People are often busy, that's how it goes. I'd say it's a matter of finding communication channels that work while you're unable to spend time with each other. Email is very friendly in that regard, passively waiting until the moment arrives when you have a moment to respond. As a partner in the relationship, you accept what your partner tells you, and then you work to solve the problem within those confines.
As for how someone can claim to have "no time" but proceed to "waste time", it's more than just time. When you're stretched too thin, exhausted by the demands made on you, and you're looking at the next activity on the list, there are a lot of factors that will determine what you want to do. Sitting around without doing anything in particular can feeling boring at the time, but have come about because earlier anything requiring energy was simply out of the question.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
What your girlfriends want is not irrational. Sometimes, people need time alone doing nothing. You should try it some time. It's nice and relaxing.
In relationship terms, it's needing some "space". If you find multiple girls turning you down to spend time alone, you need to give your girlfriends more "space" in general.
In this case in particular, it's the peculiarities of women the OP is noticing, but people are a strange lot. It's just easier to see the oddity in others than it is ourselves.
Here's my take on it and this applies mostly to female students
1. They THINK they have a lot to do
2. They say they have no time because of x and y (school work, etc)
3. They finish x and y extremely early
4. Bored for the rest of the day
Repeat this over and over
Whereas guys have this kind of thought process in work
1. Stuff to do
2. Do it
3. Free time
OR
1. Stuff to do
2. Free time
3. Do it last minute
I've seen consistently that workload is perceived differently and thus time is also viewed differently so I think it's not really your fault or the girl's fault here
Perhaps it's as simple as they view the relationship as casual and open, and you view the relationship as something more close and personal. Maybe the two of you (in each situation) just don't mesh well.
Perhaps it's as simple as they view the relationship as casual and open, and you view the relationship as something more close and personal. Maybe the two of you (in each situation) just don't mesh well.
Also, Forar is right, humans are irrational.
Humans, in general, are pretty stupid.
And I've never said "I have no time", mostly because I'm bored and I need someone to entertain me!
There are differences between how men and women view their workload, I was just reading a study on it the other day.
Essentially, it breaks down to what Raver said. Female Students are more likely to burn out because they are more likely to take on more then they can handle. Male students are much more likely to take school for granted and typically report having more free time, even when at the same workload as female students. Women have higher expectations placed on them (usually put on themselves) and stress over the work more. I wish I could find the study again.
So in the college environment, I can see how the women may believe they don't have the time. I can give anecdotal evidence of almost every female student I know doing something similar (No time! Spent 5 hours on failblog.) Honestly though, they also aren't that into you. People who are genuinely involved want to see each other at least once a week. Neither seeing nor hearing from a person for a week or more is a very bad sign.
I've found a lot of the persistent relationship problems in this forum can easily be solved by looking at what your 'type' is, and then pursuing something different. We tend to get locked into cycles with the same type of people, and then wonder when it doesn't work out every time.
Perhaps it's as simple as they view the relationship as casual and open, and you view the relationship as something more close and personal. Maybe the two of you (in each situation) just don't mesh well.
Also, Forar is right, humans are irrational.
Humans, generally speaking, are perfectly rational. Any decision somebody makes would seem rational if you were observing it with only the information they had at the time.
From a man's point of view, we are a hell of a lot more rational.
Frankly, I've found that to depend on the person. There's been people of either gender I've been able to pick up their moods and thoughts rather easily and "click" with, others are still an enigma. But the differences between men and women are pretty easy to pick up over time if you ask around or better yet ask the individual themselves.
There are differences between how men and women view their workload, I was just reading a study on it the other day.
Essentially, it breaks down to what Raver said. Female Students are more likely to burn out because they are more likely to take on more then they can handle. Male students are much more likely to take school for granted and typically report having more free time, even when at the same workload as female students. Women have higher expectations placed on them (usually put on themselves) and stress over the work more. I wish I could find the study again.
So in the college environment, I can see how the women may believe they don't have the time. I can give anecdotal evidence of almost every female student I know doing something similar (No time! Spent 5 hours on failblog.) Honestly though, they also aren't that into you. People who are genuinely involved want to see each other at least once a week. Neither seeing nor hearing from a person for a week or more is a very bad sign.
I've found a lot of the persistent relationship problems in this forum can easily be solved by looking at what your 'type' is, and then pursuing something different. We tend to get locked into cycles with the same type of people, and then wonder when it doesn't work out every time.
I'm inclined to go with this, especially when you tack on women are more likely to have advanced degrees and on and on and on. It's a horrible problem with women in the modern age as well, especially when they get older they tend to take on work, children, and ect. Caught the wife falling into that trap when we first had the kids, we had a long talk over work load and we dealt with the problem whenever she got stressed out too much. She's a brilliant woman and a wonderful wife and mother, but I think it's an American cultural impulse, especially for 70's radical feminism, that "women should be expected to be supermom." Equally, it's even a problem for people in general in this day and age to delegate responsibilities properly and productively. No relationship is perfect, but understanding your own limitations and those of the other person and communicating to cover those weaknesses is often quite necessary. Never happily ever after, far from it, but to obtain peace it takes hard work and in other times you're just better off moving on if the communication just isn't there.
As for "type" I'm equally in agreement, that and I'll add there's some peculiar tropes that crop up like the "white knight syndrome" where the person believes they can "save the other person by working really hard." That's for Romantic comedies, trippy hippy **** as I always say.
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From a woman's point of view, we're a lot more rational.
Of course you'd think that. You're one of those irrational wimmins.
OP, you said that nearly every woman you date has this problem, right? That they all irrationally make excuses to not spend time with you, correct? Now, from what I can infer from your story, there's only one thing that all these women have in common: you.
Have you ever considered the possiblility that maybe the problem isn't that every woman you know is irrational, but that there's something wrong with you?
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Humans, generally speaking, are perfectly rational. Any decision somebody makes would seem rational if you were observing it with only the information they had at the time.
The US political system indicates otherwise on a whole lot of levels.
I know what you think: the girl is not interested in you.
Absolutely 100% this. There is not much room for doubt here.
Well I'm not talking about just any girl, but my girlfriend. And girlfriends from the past. And girls in general.
She doesn't have time today, tomorrow, or next week. One day a long time ago, my then-girlfriend told me she had no time this week, this month, etc. But in three/four months, she'd be free. I would not see her within those months. The irony is that we didn't even know each other for three months at that time.
Have you ever heard that Chris Rock song, NO SEX? There's this line from the song:
"If you have been dating a guy for 6 months and you haven't met any of his friends, you're NOT his girlfriend"?
Well, if you've been "dating" for 6 months, and she is not "free" for 3 of those months, you're NOT her boyfriend.
It's also not based on relationship quality or bed skills or anything. She can literally leave minutes or hours after love or sex, and not show up for days. No anger, no fight, just.. nothing.
This means she is either seeing other guys or you are simply "booty call". Nothing wrong with that.
Over a decade ago, I dated this wild, rich, younger girl & thought I was a boyfriend... but I was just picking her up at her place, never being invited in, and we wouldn't even go out, we'd just have sex and snuggle, then I'd drop her off... eventually it dawned on me that I was booty call and not boyfriend, & I was slightly sad. But after a minute I realized it was a great deal for me, and just let it ride for 3 months, had a GREAT time, and did my own thing meanwhile. No harm, no foul. She didn't really want to "hang" with me, she didn't even need me to buy her dinner.
Just go to class, and return home. And spend the evening alone.
And when confronted, she (and I'm still talking about girlfriends in general, not just the current one) will complain about me being possessive. Yeah, cause I would like to see her within the upcoming week.
So guys, and girls please, what is up with this time paradox?
It seems so irrational..
You just need to find a different girl to be your girlfriend, because this girl is not your girlfriend. She doesn't find spending time with you to be fun or interesting. She likes the fact that you like her, and she likes having sex with you. That's it. You're not her flavor in any other department other than the bit of time you spend together.
If you want more, just don't call her, and start dating somebody else.
Find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. If you're seeking a companion that you can spend time with, go find that person. Sure there are times when any couple might be apart for an extended period, but it seems that you want that to be the exception, not the rule.
It's not possessive to want to see someone on a regular basis. Everyone's tolerance for frequency of spending time together is different, but "once per week" is pretty low key, imo.
Alrighty, thanks everyone for your responses.
Some of them are kind of biased, and made me laugh.
For example, we just celebrated the two-year anniversary of our relationship.
I think that's a pretty good sign we are "dating".
Oh and yes of course I know her family, and she knows mine, cause we see each others families on a regular basis. And yes, I am introduced as "her boyfriend".
So let there be no doubt we are in a relationship. That is not my question anyway.
I know this is the internet, so you guys will doubt whatever "proof" I have of a relationship other than a wedding ring.
We both attend university, both living with the parents (at the moment).
The problem is, I'll state it again:
Say there's 5 days in a regular week, she will attend "school" three days, and I attend twice.
We occasionally see each other there, but she's so busy, that she will go home afterward, and study hard on the remaining days.
This means she has time for me in the weekends, unless other things are planned there.
For example, tomorrow I gotta help my grandparents move to another house. That means I don't see her this weekend, cause she needs to prepare for studying on Monday again.
Some other weekends she'll have occupations, etc. So we usually only see eachother in the weekends, and rarely during the week.
If I say that is not much, she feels insulted. I could not be happy with what I have.
Maybe you guys should study together occasionally during the week. And I mean actually study, not just distract each other. You both have work that needs to get done, so try doing it together; you might even find you can keep each other better on track instead of visiting Facebook.
Bonus that if she finishes earlier than expected you can hang out!
Out of curiosity though, why does she feel insulted when you say you want to see her more? Doesn't she want you to like her? Maybe you should try approaching the issue in a different way. For example, saying "You need to spend more time with me" is much worse than "I think we should try to spend more time together."
Maybe you guys should study together occasionally during the week. And I mean actually study, not just distract each other. You both have work that needs to get done, so try doing it together; you might even find you can keep each other better on track instead of visiting Facebook.
Bonus that if she finishes earlier than expected you can hang out!
Out of curiosity though, why does she feel insulted when you say you want to see her more? Doesn't she want you to like her? Maybe you should try approaching the issue in a different way. For example, saying "You need to spend more time with me" is much worse than "I think we should try to spend more time together."
Now that's some advice, thank you.
The problem is that we do very different studies. I do Computer Science, she does Finance. Ironically her current case study is Apple and the rise of Steve Jobs (!)
Here's the paradox, when asked to do something fun (say watch a movie, have dinner, or just spend time together), girls regularly say "I have no time"
Only to spend that time anyway on random stuff, like doing absolutely nothing by herself.
And then say at the end of the day (through phone or "social media") that she was bored today.
I know what you think: the girl is not interested in you.
Well I'm not talking about just any girl, but my girlfriend. And girlfriends from the past. And girls in general.
She doesn't have time today, tomorrow, or next week. One day a long time ago, my then-girlfriend told me she had no time this week, this month, etc. But in three/four months, she'd be free. I would not see her within those months. The irony is that we didn't even know eachother for three months at that time.
It's also not based on relationship quality or bed skills or anything. She can literally leave minutes or hours after love or sex, and not show up for days. No anger, no fight, just.. nothing.
Just go to class, and return home. And spend the evening alone.
And when confronted, she (and I'm still talking about girlfriends in general, not just the current one) will complain about me being possessive. Yeah, cause I would like to see her within the upcoming week.
So guys, and girls please, what is up with this time paradox?
It seems so irrational..
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That aside, your description has all the hallmarks of her cheating on you. Tough to hear, I know, but someone has to tell you.
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Its not fair that you are going through pain because she can't be bothered to skip a work shift every 2 weeks, put some homework aside, get out of something, to see you.
Relationships take time and work, but are worth every all of the time and effort you put into it if they're the right person. If she can't understand it, dump her for a girl who will. There are plenty of girls who will understand.
If you keep telling her that if she doesn't improve then you see no point in the relationship, then she might improve. Depends if she loves you or not.
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People are often busy, that's how it goes. I'd say it's a matter of finding communication channels that work while you're unable to spend time with each other. Email is very friendly in that regard, passively waiting until the moment arrives when you have a moment to respond. As a partner in the relationship, you accept what your partner tells you, and then you work to solve the problem within those confines.
As for how someone can claim to have "no time" but proceed to "waste time", it's more than just time. When you're stretched too thin, exhausted by the demands made on you, and you're looking at the next activity on the list, there are a lot of factors that will determine what you want to do. Sitting around without doing anything in particular can feeling boring at the time, but have come about because earlier anything requiring energy was simply out of the question.
In relationship terms, it's needing some "space". If you find multiple girls turning you down to spend time alone, you need to give your girlfriends more "space" in general.
Fixed that for you.
In this case in particular, it's the peculiarities of women the OP is noticing, but people are a strange lot. It's just easier to see the oddity in others than it is ourselves.
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If you had more than one girlfriend that needs "alone time" for a month at a time, then there's something wrong with how you pick girlfriends.
Pick better.
How misogynistic of you. As if men are any more rational.
From a man's point of view, we are a hell of a lot more rational.
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1. They THINK they have a lot to do
2. They say they have no time because of x and y (school work, etc)
3. They finish x and y extremely early
4. Bored for the rest of the day
Repeat this over and over
Whereas guys have this kind of thought process in work
1. Stuff to do
2. Do it
3. Free time
OR
1. Stuff to do
2. Free time
3. Do it last minute
I've seen consistently that workload is perceived differently and thus time is also viewed differently so I think it's not really your fault or the girl's fault here
From a woman's point of view, we're a lot more rational.
Also, Forar is right, humans are irrational.
Humans, in general, are pretty stupid.
And I've never said "I have no time", mostly because I'm bored and I need someone to entertain me!
From a human point of view, we usually think we're more rational than we actually are.
Essentially, it breaks down to what Raver said. Female Students are more likely to burn out because they are more likely to take on more then they can handle. Male students are much more likely to take school for granted and typically report having more free time, even when at the same workload as female students. Women have higher expectations placed on them (usually put on themselves) and stress over the work more. I wish I could find the study again.
So in the college environment, I can see how the women may believe they don't have the time. I can give anecdotal evidence of almost every female student I know doing something similar (No time! Spent 5 hours on failblog.) Honestly though, they also aren't that into you. People who are genuinely involved want to see each other at least once a week. Neither seeing nor hearing from a person for a week or more is a very bad sign.
I've found a lot of the persistent relationship problems in this forum can easily be solved by looking at what your 'type' is, and then pursuing something different. We tend to get locked into cycles with the same type of people, and then wonder when it doesn't work out every time.
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Humans, generally speaking, are perfectly rational. Any decision somebody makes would seem rational if you were observing it with only the information they had at the time.
Frankly, I've found that to depend on the person. There's been people of either gender I've been able to pick up their moods and thoughts rather easily and "click" with, others are still an enigma. But the differences between men and women are pretty easy to pick up over time if you ask around or better yet ask the individual themselves.
I'm inclined to go with this, especially when you tack on women are more likely to have advanced degrees and on and on and on. It's a horrible problem with women in the modern age as well, especially when they get older they tend to take on work, children, and ect. Caught the wife falling into that trap when we first had the kids, we had a long talk over work load and we dealt with the problem whenever she got stressed out too much. She's a brilliant woman and a wonderful wife and mother, but I think it's an American cultural impulse, especially for 70's radical feminism, that "women should be expected to be supermom." Equally, it's even a problem for people in general in this day and age to delegate responsibilities properly and productively. No relationship is perfect, but understanding your own limitations and those of the other person and communicating to cover those weaknesses is often quite necessary. Never happily ever after, far from it, but to obtain peace it takes hard work and in other times you're just better off moving on if the communication just isn't there.
As for "type" I'm equally in agreement, that and I'll add there's some peculiar tropes that crop up like the "white knight syndrome" where the person believes they can "save the other person by working really hard." That's for Romantic comedies, trippy hippy **** as I always say.
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Of course you'd think that. You're one of those irrational wimmins.
OP, you said that nearly every woman you date has this problem, right? That they all irrationally make excuses to not spend time with you, correct? Now, from what I can infer from your story, there's only one thing that all these women have in common: you.
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The US political system indicates otherwise on a whole lot of levels.
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Have you ever heard that Chris Rock song, NO SEX? There's this line from the song:
"If you have been dating a guy for 6 months and you haven't met any of his friends, you're NOT his girlfriend"?
Well, if you've been "dating" for 6 months, and she is not "free" for 3 of those months, you're NOT her boyfriend.
This means she is either seeing other guys or you are simply "booty call". Nothing wrong with that.
Over a decade ago, I dated this wild, rich, younger girl & thought I was a boyfriend... but I was just picking her up at her place, never being invited in, and we wouldn't even go out, we'd just have sex and snuggle, then I'd drop her off... eventually it dawned on me that I was booty call and not boyfriend, & I was slightly sad. But after a minute I realized it was a great deal for me, and just let it ride for 3 months, had a GREAT time, and did my own thing meanwhile. No harm, no foul. She didn't really want to "hang" with me, she didn't even need me to buy her dinner.
You just need to find a different girl to be your girlfriend, because this girl is not your girlfriend. She doesn't find spending time with you to be fun or interesting. She likes the fact that you like her, and she likes having sex with you. That's it. You're not her flavor in any other department other than the bit of time you spend together.
If you want more, just don't call her, and start dating somebody else.
Find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. If you're seeking a companion that you can spend time with, go find that person. Sure there are times when any couple might be apart for an extended period, but it seems that you want that to be the exception, not the rule.
It's not possessive to want to see someone on a regular basis. Everyone's tolerance for frequency of spending time together is different, but "once per week" is pretty low key, imo.
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Some of them are kind of biased, and made me laugh.
For example, we just celebrated the two-year anniversary of our relationship.
I think that's a pretty good sign we are "dating".
Oh and yes of course I know her family, and she knows mine, cause we see each others families on a regular basis. And yes, I am introduced as "her boyfriend".
So let there be no doubt we are in a relationship. That is not my question anyway.
I know this is the internet, so you guys will doubt whatever "proof" I have of a relationship other than a wedding ring.
We both attend university, both living with the parents (at the moment).
The problem is, I'll state it again:
Say there's 5 days in a regular week, she will attend "school" three days, and I attend twice.
We occasionally see each other there, but she's so busy, that she will go home afterward, and study hard on the remaining days.
This means she has time for me in the weekends, unless other things are planned there.
For example, tomorrow I gotta help my grandparents move to another house. That means I don't see her this weekend, cause she needs to prepare for studying on Monday again.
Some other weekends she'll have occupations, etc. So we usually only see eachother in the weekends, and rarely during the week.
If I say that is not much, she feels insulted. I could not be happy with what I have.
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Bonus that if she finishes earlier than expected you can hang out!
Out of curiosity though, why does she feel insulted when you say you want to see her more? Doesn't she want you to like her? Maybe you should try approaching the issue in a different way. For example, saying "You need to spend more time with me" is much worse than "I think we should try to spend more time together."
Now that's some advice, thank you.
The problem is that we do very different studies. I do Computer Science, she does Finance. Ironically her current case study is Apple and the rise of Steve Jobs (!)
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