So i just moved back from across canada. i spent 4 days on a damn bus. i met this girl. Absolutely gorgeous girl. typically i go for the mediocre girls, as i feel comfortable doing so, and believe that is "my league". This girl, ended up talking to me, and we were pretty good friends by the time she had to get off the bus.
Cons: she lives in the next province over, and it takes a whole day to get there. She's hot enough to be a model, and that fact paralyzes me from saying anything close to suggesting i like her. she probably has a boyfriend.
Pros: she dropped out of school when she was in grade 2. don't ask me how. she's "socially retarded" and definitely doesnt act like a typical girl of her physical stature. she wants to come to where i live and possibly live in this region (she currently lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with 10 other people.... she kinda has to move out soon). My youngest sister lives in the same city so i can make plans to hang out with her then
problem: the only way to talk to her is emailing her... and when my cell phone works again texting her. Usually i can be very calm in a situation like this but -sighs- this one girl frustrates me because i simply can't even look at her in that way without feeling like my heart just esploded like TNT.
Well, my thoughts, being the hopeless romantic that I am, is go for it. I don't honestly know how to handle a situation like this (since I just got out of my first serious relationship, but I assume you know that since you posted in that thread :P) I believe that if she's nice, and you really like her, that there is no reason (even "social retardation") that you two should not try to hammer out a relationship.
Then again, if she has a boyfriend that could really muck things up. Like I said, I have little to no experience in this category!
Whas is it exactly that you like about her? From the amount of times that you mentioned her appearance I would assume this is some straight up infatuation.
If she's got only a grade 2 education and is socially retarded, my inclination is to think that you just traded one type of mediocre for another. And you don't seem to have traded up, either. Mediocre bod > Mediocre mind.
Now if all you're after is some temporary fun, that sounds quite adequate.
Just be careful of mooching. See if you can try to establish a relationship with her and hopefully give her some independence with a job other than pleasing you.
If she's worth it, you should be able to tell pretty quickly.
So i just moved back from across canada. i spent 4 days on a damn bus. i met this girl. Absolutely gorgeous girl. typically i go for the mediocre girls, as i feel comfortable doing so, and believe that is "my league". This girl, ended up talking to me, and we were pretty good friends by the time she had to get off the bus.
Cons: she lives in the next province over, and it takes a whole day to get there. She's hot enough to be a model, and that fact paralyzes me from saying anything close to suggesting i like her. she probably has a boyfriend.
Pros: she dropped out of school when she was in grade 2. don't ask me how. she's "socially retarded" and definitely doesnt act like a typical girl of her physical stature. she wants to come to where i live and possibly live in this region (she currently lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with 10 other people.... she kinda has to move out soon). My youngest sister lives in the same city so i can make plans to hang out with her then
problem: the only way to talk to her is emailing her... and when my cell phone works again texting her. Usually i can be very calm in a situation like this but -sighs- this one girl frustrates me because i simply can't even look at her in that way without feeling like my heart just esploded like TNT.
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I'd avoid this if you could, I'm pretty sure that, even if you just have sex with her, you'll be taking on so much emotional baggage that it won't be worthwhile.
Sometimes when you consider making major life changes to have sex with a homeless person you should look at the things attached to the end of your arms...ok now go to the internet...problem solved and you can think like a sane person again.
Also it sounds like she is some type of gutter shark and they usually have AIDS or other diseases you get from living with meth heads or heroine addicts.
I'm curious as to what exactly you mean by "socially retarded".
I'm more curious about how a "grade2 " education and being "socially retarded" is under the Pros category. Doesn't seem like much of a positive thing...
How are having only a 2nd grade education and being "socially retarded" pros?
If you truly are a nerd, as you say, don't you think you'll find her incredibly boring and understimulating intellectually? And her being "socially retarded" also means she might not care about your feelings, etc.
I think those are definitely both cons, rather than pros.
I'd agree that this girl is not worth the trouble. From the sounds of "second grade" education and "socially retarded", she'll likely be dependent on you for the rest of your life if you two get into a serious relationship. Even if you're not planning to be with her for that long, it's not unlikely you'll soon be plagued with the guilt of having to put her out on the street. Now this is all fine and dandy if you're a 40 year-old bachelor making $150,000+ a year, but given the likeliness that you're not (this is a MTG forum full of students), there is no way you could prop her up. This girl will cost $$$ that's not worth it.
There's also the possibility that she's just pretending to be vulnerable and needy and just wants to leech money off of you. From the sounds of her living conditions, it really isn't that unlikely that she is some sort of drug addict. And if she's capable enough to find such accommodations and get hooked on crack, I guarantee you she isn't nearly as "socially retarded" as she seems and her education level could very be much higher than second grade.
Don't trust her. There are many of beautiful girls out there willing to marry a wealthy bachelor with less red flags.
That is the funniest list of Pros I have ever read for a girl. Other than, "she's hot" that's a huge list of Cons. Speaking of Cons....Con Artist, Ex-Con. I totally 100% agree with sentimentGX4.
Don't assume that she's naive when it comes to relationships. Someone that physically attractive should have seen it all, so to speak, when it comes to guys. Just be careful about having your preconceptions shattered.
I'd just like to note that I'm so glad that the 'mediocre' girls that might be actually intelligent, fun to be with & friendly are the step down from boobs and a face.
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i forgot to mention that she has 10 younger siblings that she helps take care of... and has more street smarts than anyone i've ever known.
i have a child of my own, and i do admit, i don't look for flings anymore. i need someone that can raise a family. she might not have her school education, but she has everything else.
she just fails at math, and complex english (like shakespeare) although she's naturally gifted at poetry.
we get along great.... when i'm not looking directly at her.
she is socially retarded meaning that she doesnt know her plae in the world. she doesnt follow society's rules because she never been to middle/high school where children learn social adaptation.
i'm also very tired when i wrote this.
and for those who just said she was a guttershark. you are an idiot for thinking that. she isn't homeless. she was in the exact same situation as i was.
and for those who just said she was a guttershark. you are an idiot for thinking that. she isn't homeless. she was in the exact same situation as i was.
So in other words you want to be the white knight and save her. You see a portion of yourself in her, and want to make a mate of her for your child. She has experience as a housekeeper, childcare experience, and sexually attractive to you. I question your motives as selfish and short sighted. It seems too convenient to solve your problems and feed a sense of your own ego and self worth to play the knight.
You have the means, motive, and intention. The question I have is what does she want and what does she need.
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About a year back I was hanging around a girl who hot, loved to party, and basically a nympho. I like to think that I am more emotionally mature than to pick up a girl just for sex and keep that going, I honestly enjoy being in relationships and that's what I generally strive for. It took about a month for me to realize that I really couldn't stand the girl, she was annoying as hell, dumb as a box of rocks, and generally embarassing to be around in front of my more intelligent friends.
Honestly your situation just reminds me of that one^, and that's why my original comment was "Sounds like lust to me" I won't go down the same road and suggest that this girl is a nasty, lowlife, bottom feeder... but perhaps your intentions arent entirely pure and you don't quite realize it yet. It's easy enough to fall into, and it would be terrible for this girl to move to another province only for you to find that out.
If you have a kid, you should be looking for someone who is in a better situation financially and probably educationally.
i forgot to mention that she has 10 younger siblings that she helps take care of... and has more street smarts than anyone i've ever known.
Now she has 10 siblings? Are these the same 10 people she shares an apartment with? May I be so kind as to ask if you've ever met any of those siblings face-to-face? Or seen pictures of them? Her story is just far too sensational not to fuel my skepticism.
I say do not go for it. If you have a child you should want someone you is intelligent and can take care of your kid and get a well paying job. That being said, a person with a grade 2 education is not the right choice in my opinion. If you think it is right though, go for it. Don't go by my advice.
Cons: she lives in the next province over, and it takes a whole day to get there. She's hot enough to be a model, and that fact paralyzes me from saying anything close to suggesting i like her. she probably has a boyfriend.
Pros: she dropped out of school when she was in grade 2. don't ask me how. she's "socially retarded" and definitely doesnt act like a typical girl of her physical stature. she wants to come to where i live and possibly live in this region (she currently lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with 10 other people.... she kinda has to move out soon). My youngest sister lives in the same city so i can make plans to hang out with her then
problem: the only way to talk to her is emailing her... and when my cell phone works again texting her. Usually i can be very calm in a situation like this but -sighs- this one girl frustrates me because i simply can't even look at her in that way without feeling like my heart just esploded like TNT.
help?
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Then again, if she has a boyfriend that could really muck things up. Like I said, I have little to no experience in this category!
If she's got only a grade 2 education and is socially retarded, my inclination is to think that you just traded one type of mediocre for another. And you don't seem to have traded up, either. Mediocre bod > Mediocre mind.
Now if all you're after is some temporary fun, that sounds quite adequate.
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Just be careful of mooching. See if you can try to establish a relationship with her and hopefully give her some independence with a job other than pleasing you.
If she's worth it, you should be able to tell pretty quickly.
I'd avoid this if you could, I'm pretty sure that, even if you just have sex with her, you'll be taking on so much emotional baggage that it won't be worthwhile.
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Also it sounds like she is some type of gutter shark and they usually have AIDS or other diseases you get from living with meth heads or heroine addicts.
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I'm more curious about how a "grade2 " education and being "socially retarded" is under the Pros category. Doesn't seem like much of a positive thing...
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If you truly are a nerd, as you say, don't you think you'll find her incredibly boring and understimulating intellectually? And her being "socially retarded" also means she might not care about your feelings, etc.
I think those are definitely both cons, rather than pros.
There's also the possibility that she's just pretending to be vulnerable and needy and just wants to leech money off of you. From the sounds of her living conditions, it really isn't that unlikely that she is some sort of drug addict. And if she's capable enough to find such accommodations and get hooked on crack, I guarantee you she isn't nearly as "socially retarded" as she seems and her education level could very be much higher than second grade.
Don't trust her. There are many of beautiful girls out there willing to marry a wealthy bachelor with less red flags.
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I'm so inspired with confidence about the human races future.
i have a child of my own, and i do admit, i don't look for flings anymore. i need someone that can raise a family. she might not have her school education, but she has everything else.
she just fails at math, and complex english (like shakespeare) although she's naturally gifted at poetry.
we get along great.... when i'm not looking directly at her.
she is socially retarded meaning that she doesnt know her plae in the world. she doesnt follow society's rules because she never been to middle/high school where children learn social adaptation.
i'm also very tired when i wrote this.
and for those who just said she was a guttershark. you are an idiot for thinking that. she isn't homeless. she was in the exact same situation as i was.
official rules advisor. it gets me there.
So in other words you want to be the white knight and save her. You see a portion of yourself in her, and want to make a mate of her for your child. She has experience as a housekeeper, childcare experience, and sexually attractive to you. I question your motives as selfish and short sighted. It seems too convenient to solve your problems and feed a sense of your own ego and self worth to play the knight.
You have the means, motive, and intention. The question I have is what does she want and what does she need.
Ambition must be made to counteract ambition.
Individualities may form communities, but it is institutions alone that can create a nation.
Nothing succeeds like the appearance of success.
Here is my principle: Taxes shall be levied according to ability to pay. That is the only American principle.
About a year back I was hanging around a girl who hot, loved to party, and basically a nympho. I like to think that I am more emotionally mature than to pick up a girl just for sex and keep that going, I honestly enjoy being in relationships and that's what I generally strive for. It took about a month for me to realize that I really couldn't stand the girl, she was annoying as hell, dumb as a box of rocks, and generally embarassing to be around in front of my more intelligent friends.
Honestly your situation just reminds me of that one^, and that's why my original comment was "Sounds like lust to me" I won't go down the same road and suggest that this girl is a nasty, lowlife, bottom feeder... but perhaps your intentions arent entirely pure and you don't quite realize it yet. It's easy enough to fall into, and it would be terrible for this girl to move to another province only for you to find that out.
If you have a kid, you should be looking for someone who is in a better situation financially and probably educationally.
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i am currently in college with a fairly decent waged part time job. money is not an issue for me.
i have met all of these siblings. they are all really nice. the brothers are very responsible, and the little ones look up to her.
she's a really good friend who gives great advice, so at the very least that's what i have right now.
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